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Should your children fear you? And should you threaten to beat your kids to get them to do you want? My family is old fashioned and believes that

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Dr. Barbara Lavi
Clinical Psychology
4 doctors agree

In brief: Although fear

May lead to compliance it also may push children to be secretive about their lives and behavior. Parents cannot guide their children if they do not know what they are doing and thinking about.
Fear is not conducive to open and honest communication between children and parents. Physical punishment often backfires: the child gets angry with the parent avoids taking responsibility for their behavior.

In brief: Although fear

May lead to compliance it also may push children to be secretive about their lives and behavior. Parents cannot guide their children if they do not know what they are doing and thinking about.
Fear is not conducive to open and honest communication between children and parents. Physical punishment often backfires: the child gets angry with the parent avoids taking responsibility for their behavior.
Dr. Barbara Lavi
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Dr. Carlos Satulovsky
Generating admiration and respect is better, fear is traumatic sometimes
Dr. William Moore
Pediatrics
2 doctors agree

In brief: Absolutely NOT!

A child is to be nurtured and cared for, raised to be productive in society.
Child-rearing involves big time commitments from parents to instill proper behavior. It involves patience, repetition and discipline to develop respect and obedience. They must know that you love them, fearing consequences, not you. To parent most effectively, be consistent, firm and loving. Violence has no place here.

In brief: Absolutely NOT!

A child is to be nurtured and cared for, raised to be productive in society.
Child-rearing involves big time commitments from parents to instill proper behavior. It involves patience, repetition and discipline to develop respect and obedience. They must know that you love them, fearing consequences, not you. To parent most effectively, be consistent, firm and loving. Violence has no place here.
Dr. William Moore
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Dr. Robert GalatzerLevy
Pediatrics - Psychiatry
2 doctors agree

In brief: Fear is not respect

Children need guidance and structure that can come from respected parents.
Fear leads to unthinking submission and often confusion that is not a solid basis for moral values. When a parent hits a child or threatens to do so the child understands that the parent is weak and has nothing more the brute force available.

In brief: Fear is not respect

Children need guidance and structure that can come from respected parents.
Fear leads to unthinking submission and often confusion that is not a solid basis for moral values. When a parent hits a child or threatens to do so the child understands that the parent is weak and has nothing more the brute force available.
Dr. Robert GalatzerLevy
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Dr. James Ferguson
Pediatrics

In brief: Multi-generational

Just because your family did it and you survived does not make it reasonable.
I remember an abusive mom who cited being chained under the porch as abuse, not her beating her kids.When you rule by fear and beating they may survive and will pass it on. There chances of ending up in jail are high when this spills into the way they deal with others.

In brief: Multi-generational

Just because your family did it and you survived does not make it reasonable.
I remember an abusive mom who cited being chained under the porch as abuse, not her beating her kids.When you rule by fear and beating they may survive and will pass it on. There chances of ending up in jail are high when this spills into the way they deal with others.
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