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Hard time: widowhood: I became a widow over a year-and-a-half ago, too. It is a very rough time, and some moments are just harder than others. Holidays can bring special pain, so plan some new holiday activities this year. It won't be the same, but we know that already. Please find a grief support group, some physical activity that you enjoy, and let yourself walk through these tough days. It gets better bit by bit. ...Read more
NOW: Every one should have a carefully planed 'will', health care proxy , organ donor cord ( if you want to donate your organs ) , should be done unrelated to any event. ...Read more
To see grand child: Unfortunate, but now mom have responsibly for kid (s) , to be part of their future. ...Read more
Depends: Do you have feelings for her? You must have at least made some entry level gestures. Does she love you or does she just want your cash, or security, or someone to help share childcare issues? Would she still want you if she had to sign a pre-nuptial agreement? Is there a significant age difference? So many questions. There are counselors for this as well. ...Read more
See below: The exact answer to your question has many factors. It may depend on your child's age, the reason for the death, your relationship with your child, etc. The best thing is to answer your child's questions on their level. Let them direct the conversation. Sometimes, they only want simple answers. I would ask family members for help. And discuss your concerns with the doctor. Also check aap web site. ...Read more
Can be healthy: He may just have low testostosteron levels & lost his libido this is not necessarily unhealthy. Some 60-year-olds may only be interested in shapely sexy young women and are too embarassed to share this with an age appropriate girl friend. You could always discuss testosterone levels with him, if you are interested in sex, and have him see a dr./urologist if he is interested in such a relationship. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
Is it reasonable to have hurt feelings and perhaps choose to move on , if a single widowed friend still chooses to wear a too tight a wedding ring from the previous marriage?
All feelings are: reasonable. It's what we choose to do with them that matters. If a widowed friend keeps the only thing they have left from a person who meant everything to them, it's not an unreasonable thing. It's also not unreasonable for you to be hurt by that. Both sides are legitimate. A relationship counselor could ask you and your friend the right questions to smooth things over. Search for one here on HT ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
Elder depression: Social support system such as activities and interests is vital. Never isolate or avoid social milieu. ...Read more
Widowed x 7y. 7 children. Hosp. For suicidal ideation 4x. In therapy for 7 y. Still in so much pain. So angry! Lost all friends after. What to do?
It can be so hard...: This sounds very sad and you need to find better help which can be a challenge. But please don't give up. Try new therapists until you find one you trust. Also seek support from clergy or another type of community activity or 12-step or PWP group. You don't list your medications or procedures but there may be help available from a new doctor/therapist - keep trying! ...Read more