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Why is senior daughter condescending to elderly mother?

Why is senior daughter condescending to elderly mother?

Many reasons: This is hard question to answer as there could be any number of reasons ranging from her childhood experience to how you treated her as a child. She could be coming to terms with her own helplessness with aging. There is a saying in india 'a mother takes care of all her children but its burdensome for all her children together to take care of that one mother'. ...Read more

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88 yr old mother is confused and barely mobile. Brother who is caregiver plans to take her on family's winter vacation. Isn't she too vulnerable?

88 yr old mother is confused and barely mobile. Brother who is caregiver plans to take her on family's winter vacation. Isn't she too vulnerable?

She certainly is: You can expect that her confusion can get worse during a trip. On the other hand, your brother needs some vacation. Could you substitute for him and take care of your mother while he is away? ...Read more

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What are benefits to a child who is born to older parents?

What are benefits to a child who is born to older parents?

Comic Answer: Bwaaa! i had my son at 39, he is now 15, I am 54. Remember late parenting= teen in puberty while you will be in menopause. Dueling hormones can be an experience. And yes you might be more patient because you will be tired. No worries having my son later has been my best experience ever- really:) I have friends who parented at 42-47- happy parents amazing kids. ...Read more

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What is it like to have pneumonia in an 94 yr old dementia patient who is dnr?

What is it like to have pneumonia in an 94 yr old dementia patient who is dnr?

It depends: Pneumonia can cause discomfort but that can be treated with analgesics (morphine), antipyretics (tylenol) and oxygen if necessary. Antibiotics may not be necessary to provide comfort and may not be effective in treating pneumonia. ...Read more

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Can this be munchausen by proxy syndrome? If a child who is 14 1/2 years old whos doctor says she is in excellent health both physically and mentally with the mother and custody change and now father says in his custody the child is stress, depress, bulim

Can this be munchausen by proxy syndrome? If a child who is 14 1/2 years old whos doctor says she is in excellent health both physically and mentally with the mother and custody change and now father says in his custody the child is stress, depress, bulim

As : As I have reviewed questions that are posted, it looks like there are a number of questions from bothell, wa with the same theme. If you are the author, it is clear that you are feeling very worried and upset by the situation. Child custody situations can become very messy. One parent may accuse the other parent of misdeeds and vice versa. Frankly, it is very difficult to make a diagnosis of munchausen by proxy. In this condition which is not-common, the issues usually center on a medical condition or conditions. On the other hand, it is quite common in the context of child custody battles for parents to make accusations about bad parenting. I recommend that you speak with your lawyer about how best to approach this complicated issue since you feel that the jdge and the counselor do not understand the situation. ...Read more

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My son is 16 years old and wants to donate his kidney to his grandfather. Is this safe?

My son is 16 years old and wants to donate his kidney to his grandfather. Is this safe?

Yes but . . .: Some 16 years olds are mature enough to make this decision. Medically the other kidney will compensate and should be good for a lifetime. It is best to clear this with the ethics committee of the hospital where this is being considered to avoid issues of guilt and pressure which might be impacting your 16 year old's decision. ...Read more

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What can I do if my son is a 16-year old boy wants to donate one of his kidneys to his friend who is suffering from esrd (end stage renal disorder)?

What can I do if my son is a 16-year old boy wants to donate one of his kidneys to his friend who is suffering from esrd (end stage renal disorder)?

Have him tested: If he tests and is a match, then you can consider it, but given his age as a minor, you would have to talk to your transplant team to see if they would allow it. ...Read more

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Why would ER doctor encorage sis to sign dnr as the 'compassionate' thing to do for 92 yo mother?

Why would ER doctor encorage sis to sign dnr as the 'compassionate' thing to do for 92 yo mother?

DNR is compassionate: Because resuscitation efforts cause severe physical and emotional pain and suffering even in a patient with relatively healthy and young body, in the elderly it causes bony and underlying organ injury very easily, with severely attenuated chances of meaningful survival and possibility of hospital discharge secondary to additional comorbidities in the old age. ...Read more

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Mom is caregiver for elders in the family. Now she has a problem. What does it mean to have narcotic abuse?

Mom is caregiver for elders in the family. Now she has a problem. What does it mean to have narcotic abuse?

Using narcotics: For reasons other than for control of severe physical pain and sometimes without a prescription. ...Read more

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If parent wants to live with daughter who spoils her and she lets her, is that elder abuse?

If parent wants to live with daughter who spoils her and she lets her, is that elder abuse?

Confused: Sorry i'm confused. Are the parents spoiling the daughter? And who is abusing who? Please rephrase. ...Read more

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15 year teenage girl & mother have close relationship then someone brainwashed daughter to hate her mother what would be damage to girl later in life?

15 year teenage girl & mother have close relationship then someone brainwashed daughter to hate her mother what would be damage to girl later in life?

Supporting teenagers: Teenagers are naturally learning new things, it is an important part of development, and sometimes relationships with parents can also change. It does not mean they don't need or love their parents. Parents will need to still guide their children. A good family therapist can help you learn more about what your daughter needs emotionally and how you can be of best support now. ...Read more

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My dad 53 yrs old is now arguing for everything, acting like a kid, crying, who was the most respected person in our family. How to cure him?

My dad 53 yrs old is now arguing for everything, acting like a kid, crying, who was the most respected person in our family. How to cure him?

DEPRESSION: Looks like he is having depression. Reassure him that everything will be ok. He is the head of the family and everybody respects him. If the psychotherapy does not work, then he needs anti depressant rx. Good luck! ...Read more

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Mom is caregiver for elders in the family. Now she has a problem. What does it mean to have ileal cancer?

Mom is caregiver for elders in the family. Now she has a problem. What does it mean to have ileal cancer?

Small bowel cancer: The ileum is what we call the second half of the small bowel- cancer here is rare and unfortunately aggressive. Typically treated with resection and chemotherapy depending on lymph node status and the presence of disease at distant sites (metastasis). Best treated at a cancer center with accreditation by the american college of surgery and/ or the national cancer institute. ...Read more

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Is it safe for my kids' nanny who is an Hiv positive to continue caring for my kids who are 7 and 6 years old?

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Is it safe for my kids' nanny who is an Hiv positive to continue caring for my kids who are 7 and 6 years old?

Probably: Especially if the nanny is on anti-HIV drugs. HIV is usually transmitted through blood -to-blood contact and thus I'd not expect this to be an event happening in child care. On the other hand, if the nanny contracted HIV through illicit drug use via a contaminated needle. you will need to carefully evaluated this aspect. ...Read more

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My sister is 14 years old ,she got her both kidney shrink to 6cm...! we have admitted her in hospital. what is solution for that..??

My sister is 14 years old ,she got her both kidney shrink to 6cm...! we have admitted her in hospital. what is solution for that..??

DiscussWithParents: You need to speak with your parents and they can tell you what your sister's doctors have told them if they feel it's appropriate. As internet doctors have no information about the specifics of your sister's illness we can't even speculate as to what is going on - and as she is a pediatric patient, it is only appropriate for us to address your parent's questions. Sorry. ...Read more

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Living with a teen age daughter who is suicidal and bilpolar?

Living with a teen age daughter who is suicidal and bilpolar?

Bipolar: Seek immediate psychiatric help. In fact she should be hospitalized in a psych unit where she can be closely monitored ...Read more

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How could someone who is 84 years old with dementia be allowed to drive?

How could someone who is 84 years old with dementia be allowed to drive?

It depends on their: Mmse level , if it is 20 or less than i tell his family not to permit him to drive. Since this can change any time people, with diagnoses need to have ongoing follow up and their family need to pay attention to any changes. ...Read more

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Mom is caregiver for elders in the family. Now she has a problem. What does it mean to have rhabdomyosarcoma?

Mom is caregiver for elders in the family. Now she has a problem. What does it mean to have rhabdomyosarcoma?

Serious condition: Rhabdomyosarcoma is a serious medical illness that will require treatment. You mother will likely have to give up some or all of the role she has in the family to attend to her own situation. Depending on the extent, treatment may include surgery and possibly radiation and chemotherapy. ...Read more

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