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Why Does It Take Me Forever To Have An Orgasm
Very common in women: If you are talking about orgasms with your partner then for some women, foreplay starts 2-3 days before sex. Your partner may need to call you and plant ideas in your mind before they ever get to touch you. Foreplay done well makes sex and orgasms much easier. Anybody can have an orgasm, expert foreplay is much harder to find. Have a chat with your partner about what you like long before you start. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
Conventionally, orgasm is the culmination of sexual arousal (and may be repeated) and typically produces great pleasure through direct genital stimulation of the male penis and female clitoris. However, orgasm may also be achieved via the brain or as a reflex arc. The physical characteristics are an explosive peak & repeated neuromuscular action causing release of male ...Read more
"so long"?: I'm not sure how you're judging the "so long" part? Sounds like you're comparing to someone or something else? Some people say this when they haven't taken time to explore what pleases them & what doesn't. Perhaps speaking with a sex therapist would help. You can find a trained one through the american association of sexuality educators, counselors & therapists: http://www.Aasect.Org/. ...Read more
Variable: This varies by individual, amount of foreplay, mood, and level of excitement, and how much you and your partner are 'into it.' try varying your technique, adding some erotica, or every once in a while just go for a spontaneous 'quickie' to change things up. The best thing is to not 'worry' about the timing, just enjoy. Worry leads to stress and this can lead to performance issues. ...Read more
Time and patience: With some effort, you can learn to reach orgasm. There really isn't anything you can take to help however. One thing you could do is see a sex therapist. They can help you and your partner to figure this out if the first thing you try doesn't work. There are many good books out on this. I recommend "the multiorgasmic woman", written by my friend, rachel abrams, md. ...Read more
Paradox: I would suggest trying to make the process longer...But consider helping her climax in different ways. Ask her what she likes. Encourage her 2 experiment. This seems like a great opportunity for the two of you 2 start fresh as if you were just first getting together. Learn what you like, what turns each other on. Some food for thought: http://bit.Ly/13mkr5e from "go ask alice" service, columbia u. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
It depends: By masturbation, usually a few minutes unless you have had a recent ejaculation. It takes more time for men to have a second orgasm after an orgasm. From intercourse, it could take a few seconds (premature ejaculation) to not being able to have an ejaculation, especially if you have never had sex. First time sexual experiences don;t always work out very well. With practice, it usually gets better. ...Read more
No fixed time: There is no fixed time considered "normal" in reaching ejaculation. It varies from few minutes to over an hour. It depends upon the degree of excitement, last ejaculation, previous sexual experience, couple's mental harmony, environment and any medical conditions or medications the man is taking. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
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