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Why Both Parents Should Assume Responsibility In Raising A Child
Wondering if both vocally not gifted parents give birth to a child, will their child have the same fate?
NOT NECCESSARY BUT: It may or may not not have the same fate, but it depends on what you mean not vocally gifted parents and what else is there problems.If they do have a genetic condition or a chromosome disorder than it is a possibility. ...Read more
Depends on situation: Legally the parents have the right to any medical information from a doctors visit until the kid becomes an adult.In practice,it is worthwhile to let the older kid begin to have private conversations with the doc.I notify the parents & have them sign permission for kids 12 and up to be seen alone. I use a nurse when a chaperon is needed.Kids can decide what to tell parents, with certain exceptions ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
Should parents practice what they preach? How can a parent preach to the son about what he should have done with his life when the parent didn't do it
Rethink Preach: Aside from setting important boundaries, here are some thoughts.If we tell people what to do or what not to do, they often get resistant and push away. Rethink the preaching. Speak honestly about your fears for your son. Also work on making the personal changes you want to see in your family. You're the role model. Parenting is a tough job. Consider working with psychologist for help, support, etc. ...Read moreSee 2 more doctor answers
Significant ones: CF is a multisystem disease. Lungs can lose function and be infected without doing the right things. Nutrition and liver function can be affected if your child does not eat well or take his supplements and enzymes. You will need to make sure you are consistent with the care that your child's specialists and doctors recommend. This can lead to better health and less hospitalization for your child. ...Read more
Unfortunately, many.: Neurofibromatosis (nf) is a progressive, lifelong condition that is associated with growths in the brain, spine, eye area, heart, skin, &/or bone, as well as lung & hearing problems. A child with nf requires regular follow up with a pediatrician and multiple subspecialists to address any complications from these growths. Medication and even surgery can be required, as can educational support. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
If they are on a pension, is it right for his parents to ask for compensation to babysit their grandkids?
U can ask 4 anything: Often grandparents will be happy to babysit their grand kids for free--to some extent, but some people are not so lucky. Baby sitting service is expensive, because it is a lot of work. So, on/off, here/there babysitting is often offered as a freebee, but grandparents don't have to do this--not a law, just a common thing. Many don't ask for it, but they have the right to ask for $$$. Good luck. ...Read more
Is there currently anything medical that comes close to parents choosing which traits they want or don't want in their unborn child? I would hope not.
No: At most, selection is done by seeing what can be seen on an ultrasound. For instance, if there are congential anomalies found on an ultrasound, an expectant mother may choose to abort the fetus. Otherwise, we have no current ways to change the characteristics of a baby. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
My husband has amblyopia, as do several members of his family. At what point should we consider having our child screened?
Is it right that a parent refuses their child to see his grandparents? What emotional effect will this have on the child?
In an ideal world: In an ideal world we would all "get along" and children benefit greatly from having contact with all members of a healthy extended family. When we fall short of that ideal, it's important to look deeper at family dynamics, starting with our own roles. A family therapist can be extremely helpful in starting a healing process. It can help the whole family, especially those children. ...Read more
I need to know when both parents have a learning disability, what are the odds that their child may, too?
Significant: Learning disabilities often run in families. They should not be confused with other disabilities such as intellectual disabilities, autism, deafness, blindness, and behavioral disorders. None of these conditions are learning disabilities. Because learning disabilities cannot be seen, they often go undetected. Recognizing a learning disability is even more difficult because the severity and characteristics vary. ...Read more
I am considering a daycare for my daughter that accepts children who aren't vaccinated. My child is up to date on all shots. Would she be fine in this environment?
No; get the vaccines: Since modern vaccines have been available, hundreds of thousands of children have been saved by vaccines. Everything in life has its risks, but the risk in a vaccine is miniscule compared to the risk of the bad diseases. So, to live together equitably in our society, every child takes the miniscule risks of vaccines, and every child has an equal opportunity to enjoy a healthy life. ...Read moreSee 5 more doctor answers
Should parents force their children to love and connect to each other if the child does not feel any real connection to their sibling? Huge age gap.
Sibling: it should be the responsibilty of the older child to connect with the youngest one, good relationship between the two fosters for safety and security for the younger one. No one can force another person to do any thing. proper upbringing and family values need to be imparted by the parents ...Read more
Is it fair to have a psychological evaluation when you are sad and depress? The court ordered psychological evaluation on the parents. One parent who had custody of the child for 16 years temporary loss custody and the child was given to the abusive paren
A : A good court evaluator would take into consideration all aspects of the parental care of the minor child. It is certainly understandable that the circumstances described would create great stress for the custodial parent and could contribute to the mood disorder described. However, if that parent had custody for 16 years, it is reasonable to assume that the child is at least 16 years of age and certainly in many state jurisdictions has a say about which parent he/she wishes to live with. It is not stated why the long term custodial parent lost custody nor what the nature of the alleged abuse might have been. These are the very factors, especially the adolescent's viewpoint that a competent evaluator would be taking into account. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
Partner and I are 24. My parents are in their 50s; his are 60 and 70. Everyone's in general good health. What's the latest we should start having kids if we want our parents to be active grandparents?
Impossible to Answer: There are so many variables interlaced within your question it is impossible to answer. Health of parents can change in an instant, problems can arise conceiving, jobs change, financial responsibilities increase. In the end you just have to do whats right for you and your partner, and decide when the best time for you two to bring a life into the world. You can't control the rest. ...Read more
If a 3 year old is given benadryl every night by her parents and this is something they have done most of her life, should child protection be notified? They claim it is for allergies but I have never ever noticed any allergy issues with child and they on
Benadryl (diphenhydramine): Benadryl (diphenhydramine) can be given for a number of reasons, and may be prescribed by a physician or obtained over the counter. If there are other behaviors of the child or her parents that are of concern to you, reporting a case is always an option. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
Would it be a bad situation for a child if both the parents have major depression, even before the child is born?
Yes, but...: While that would increase the chances of the child eventually developing depression, if both parents get good and thorough treatment before the child is born, they will be better able to raise the child. And they will be able to teach the child about what to watch for as early signs and what to do to prevent it. Also, the child will inherit positive traits, such as intelligence or other skills too. ...Read more
Can this be munchausen by proxy syndrome? If a child who is 14 1/2 years old whos doctor says she is in excellent health both physically and mentally with the mother and custody change and now father says in his custody the child is stress, depress, bulim
As : As I have reviewed questions that are posted, it looks like there are a number of questions from bothell, wa with the same theme. If you are the author, it is clear that you are feeling very worried and upset by the situation. Child custody situations can become very messy. One parent may accuse the other parent of misdeeds and vice versa. Frankly, it is very difficult to make a diagnosis of munchausen by proxy. In this condition which is not-common, the issues usually center on a medical condition or conditions. On the other hand, it is quite common in the context of child custody battles for parents to make accusations about bad parenting. I recommend that you speak with your lawyer about how best to approach this complicated issue since you feel that the jdge and the counselor do not understand the situation. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer
My wife and I have chosen not to have our children vaccinated. My son is attending a new school this year and we are required to get a note from a doctor confirming that we known the risks associated with not vaccinating. Can you help with this?
Taking risks: If you've indeed chosen this path for your kids -I hope you know all about infectious diseases. For ex., in measles, 1 in 1000 cases could result in encephalitis- that means brain infection and severe consequences. Mumps could leave your child sterile. These diseases are creeping back slowly as more folks buck the vaccines. I think it's playing w/ fire. Vaccines are safer than junk food, soda, etc ...Read moreSee 4 more doctor answers
Will it b right for a man to marry his father's sister's daughter if there are no close relative marriages in their parents generation.Genetic defect?
Consanguinous marria: We discourage consanguinous marriages because sometimes there are genes that when they meet a second one to make a pair ( i mean on e from father and one from mom), the babies might show severe genetic diseases although there are also very healthy kids from consanguinous marriages. ...Read moreSee 1 more doctor answer