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I have been using the dialators to treat my vaginismus however even the largest isn't close to my husbands size.. Sex is impossible he can't even go h?
Need for counseling: It isn't the physical size of your husband or dilators that is the problem with entry in vaginismus, rather it is the involuntary muscle spasms that occur from your anxiety from penetration that is the concern. You need to see a Psychologist or Counsellor that specializes in relaxation techniques and sexuality issues. ...Read more
Vaginismus: First, find the cause. A visit to your gynecologist ought to be helpful to start. If the cause is physical, he/she can recommend treatments, such as exercises, medications, or surgery (if warranted). If the cause is not physical but primarily psychological, work with a qualified sex therapist or therapist adept at sexual dysfunction may prove useful. ...Read more
Patience & info: Vaginismus requires that you communicate that information to the examining doctor prior to the exam. Additionally, you can assist the MD by using a lubricated tampon at home to help the vaginal opening get used to penetration. The well versed GYN MD has a responsibility to you to be gentle, and take the time with patience to exam you with your feedback as to what is problematic and what isn't. ...Read more
Get treated: This is common and any physician can explain the treatment to you, probably best as a couple. The key is education, desensitization and some graded exercises that are generally highly successful in solving this problem. I hope you will be able to work together on this as a couple and save your marriage. Good luck. ...Read more