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Trouble Reaching Orgasm
Orgasm is a reflex: That happens when proper stimulation occurs and there are no blocks (physical or mental). See a sex therapist to fine-tune this, but generally, try oral or manual sex first, emphasizing pleasuring only, not trying to orgasm (See Master's and Johnson's sensate focus techniques). Show and educate your partner about your preferences. During intercourse, try doing it with the woman on top. ...Read more
Conventionally, orgasm is the culmination of sexual arousal (and may be repeated) and typically produces great pleasure through direct genital stimulation of the male penis and female clitoris. However, orgasm may also be achieved via the brain or as a reflex arc. The physical characteristics are an explosive peak & repeated neuromuscular action causing release of male ...Read more
Therapy and practice: Female orgasm can be a challenge for many patients. First make sure you understand the anatomy and know where the clitoris is. Masturbation is first step to learn to relax and find the stimulation that works for you. Many have to learn this before achieving orgasm with a partner. Small vibrators can be helpful too. Topical viagra (sildenafil) cream can be prescribed to help for some. ...Read more
You decide: If you can only climax with your partner (s), they might appreciate this, and perhaps it's not a problem. If this is your principal outlet, some medicine, illness or just your physiology may be an issue. Ask your physician whether a trial of yohimbine is in order. ...Read more
Here are some. ..: Childbirth indeed affects some women's sexuality as what described. But for one at 44, it would be helpful to bring the onset, degree, duration, evolution, & progress of your symptoms over time to Gyn-doc for analysis + physical exams + tests such as hormonal profile so to deduce possible causes for reasonable Rx / care / counseling for now and future. ...Read more
I'm a male and have trouble reaching orgasm while masturbating. Could it be because I'm circumsized?
Probably not: Vary your technique and what you look at and think about. Ask your physician whether yohimbine, an interesting botanical, might be worth trying. ...Read more
I'm having trouble reaching orgasm or getting butterflies when I do self stimulation on my breasts. Is there anything natural I can take for this?
Check with doctor: For anorgasmia symptoms, a woman can see her primary care doctor and/or her ob-gyn doctor for help. There are neurological factors, endocrine (hormonal) factors, psychological factors, and physical issues involved. Somewhere in the doctors' ideas for treatment, there may be some "natural" treatments. One has to tell the doctor what "natural" means, as it means different things to different people. ...Read more
I'm in my 40's. I take no meds, only unisom to sleep, and other antihistamines, im having more trouble reaching orgasm now, is there a correlation?
Orgasm: There may be decreased lubrication and blunting of desire which may lead to mild inorgasmia. ...Read more
Had hysterctomy 8 yrs ago and having trouble reaching an orgasm is there a drug that can be giving to help reach an orgasm?
None that I now of: There is ongoing research to find such a medication ...Read more
Yes it is: Orgasms have nothing to do successful insemination or baby making. Orgasms are a response to clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation. Certainly one can well occur without the other. ...Read more
How can I know when I'm reaching orgasm? I feel I can't achieve orgasm. I am virgin and we have oral sex. Is there any way for me to have ejaculation?
Difficult to answer: It it difficult to answer the first part of your question. Most women know when they have one. But be patient. As you mature and become more experienced, it usually gets better. Remember this, it's a whole lot easier for a guy to achieve orgasm, so don't think you are abnormal. As far as female ejaculation, most do not experience it. ...Read more
Premature Orgasm: Premature ejaculation is a very common condition...Especially when one is young. This problem can be helped with practice. You may want to get to reading some sex books to learn techniques. But, with practice edging up to an orgasm and then backing off one can train themselves to wait or control when they ejaculate. This will come with practice. ...Read more
After reaching orgasm by manual stimulation my vagina starts paining and after some time my whole body starts to pain. Wat shall I do?
I'm healthy, active and in perimenopause. Hard time reaching orgasm, new problem. Used lube, still takes long time. Bloodwork normal. Any help?
See a doctor: See a primary, gynecologist or urogynecologist. Recommend evaluation of medication conditions such as diabetes, nerve disorders, back disorders....that could be contributing. If no medical issues, then your brain is your largest sex organ. Find things that stimulate your brain. Practice makes perfect. ...Read more
I'm 23 and for the past week during sex I been having difficulty reaching my orgasm and sometimes keeping a full erection this has never happened?
Reduced medication after 5mos now and recently I've had difficult reaching an orgasm with my girlfriend. Hand full of times I've had no issue until now?
We can not help you if we do not know what medication you are talking about. Please provide more information.
Thank you ...Read more
During sex I cannot feel much and have a hard time reaching my orgasm, during masturbation I am ok but during sex I lack the sensativity to reach org?
Intercourse: If using condoms, could be the reason. But using condoms is always recommended to prevent sexyually transmitted diseases. ...Read more
Can women achieve orgasms when upon reaching climax the men pull out and ejaculate outside the vagina?
Female Sexuality: Most females do not reach orgasm with penetration. Their clitoris has to be manipulated and many couples learn how to manage this as part of their sexual play. Remember, pre-cum inside the vagina can lead to pregnancy. The withdrawal method for birth control does not work. ...Read more
Have no difficulty reaching orgasm via masturbation, but great difficulty via intercourse or stimulation by another person. Any ideas to resolve?
Missing the big "O": What are you doing to yourself that your partner isn't?? - may be related to not enough stimulation of your penis during sex. Try anyone of the lubricants marketed to enhance pleasure. Foreplay may also help. Is there a concern on your part for unintended pregnancy - it may also be a mental "block" issue. Try different positions as well good luck. ...Read more
My man has a hard time reaching orgasm during sex. He is not circumcised and he can reach orgasm quicker through masturbation what could be wrong?
Not foreskin: Is he on any medication? Masturbation is in general a more intense stimulation than vaginal sex. If you are satisfied with the sex, once you are done you could help him by doing it manually for him, i.e., give him a hand job. There is nothing wrong, just a normal variation. Not being circumcised is not the issue. ...Read more
I have head and neck pain, almost every 2 months. It happens when I work out (while lifting) and before reaching orgasm. The cause and how to treat it?
Two activities in which the muscles of the neck tighten and pull on the vertebrae that are suffering from instability secondary to damaged ligaments in the neck area.
Prolotherapy can resolve this issue for you. Visit www. Getprolo. Com or www. Aaomed. Org for information and to find a doctor. ...Read more
I'm 56 year old male I have hard time reaching orgasm I can maintain an erection but do not climax always during intercourse cam meds effect this what?
Erectile Dysfunction: This common situation could be related to your heart, made worse by your heart condition or be completely separate from your heart and your heart medications (which you did not list). In my clinic we first rule out testosterone, blood sugar disease, and thyroid problems with a man with your symptoms. Based upon this full evaluation then treatment can be started to correct the problem. ...Read more
Taking estradiol & progesterone for2 weeks & have decreased libido & difficulty reaching orgasm. Isn't HRT supposed to make it better?
Dose may be wrong: Need to go back to the doctor as the dose or the indication could be wrong. ...Read more
A few possibilities: Have you ever been able to have an orgasm during sex? Some women (some say the majority) can't have an orgasm during sex because they are not able to get the clitoral stimulation that they need. It could also be that you need to be patient and try different things. How is your relationship with your partner? Possibly there are emotional issues that need to be addressed. Best wishes. ...Read more
Get checked: Can be psychological, realtionship related or a hormonal imbalance. ...Read more
I'm a female having trouble with having orgasms... I've never had one before and I really want to expierence having one. What's wrong with me?
Probably nothing: Many women have trouble learning how to experience orgasm. Many don't even recognize it when they do. Stay calm and don't feel abnormal - it's very common. You can learn more on your own if you feel comfortable exploring yourself with a mirror and lubricant. There is info online or at libraries or women's clinics and Dr's offices. Gently play w/ your fingers to find and stroke your clitoris. Best! ...Read more