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Is spanking a child always abuse? After I had a hard night with the baby, when my son disobeyed, I slapped him on the cheek. Is this so terrible?

Is spanking a child always abuse? After I had a hard night with the baby, when my son disobeyed, I slapped him on the cheek. Is this so terrible?

Slapping is abuse: Slapping on the face is not the same as spanking. It is abuse. Neither has been shown to have long term benefits to child development, and even spanking can be harmful and abusive. Time out and other forms of privilege removal are proven effective and beneficial means to train a child. Positive reinforcement and rewarding good behavior is also an essential parenting technique. ...Read more

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Is spanking okay?

Is spanking okay?

Not recommended: The american academy of pediatrics does not recommend spanking your child. This can lead to unnecessary force and harm to the child. Instead use time outs and time ins. Use a time out immediately after an inappropriate behavior. The length should be equal to the child's age in years. Use time in as positive reinforcement for good behavior. ...Read more

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What cultures still spank kids?

Not sure: I couldn't find data on specific cultures that allow/encourage spanking. Much more information on where it is banned. Not yet banned in any state in the U.S., though strongly discouraged in most and can be defined as physical abuse in some situations. France still endorses spanking, but increasing numbers of european countries have outright bans. ...Read more

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Has anyone studied the positives or negatives of spanking?

Yes: Not recommended, especially as a regular form of punishement. It suggests physical aggression is okay and becomes increasingly hard to use as children grow older. Non-physical consequences such as times out or loss of privileges have been shown both to be as or more effective and to produce much less strain on the parent/child relationship. ...Read more

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Is there evidence that spanking can be harmful to a child?

Is there evidence that spanking can be harmful to a child?

Yes, it teaches a : child that hitting is okay. There is zero tolerance in schools for a child's touching another child or an adult . A child who lays hands on another is summarily suspended. Discipline = teaching, not punishment. Tell the child what behaviors you expect, reward behaviors you want, ignore behaviors you don't want by learning effective use of time-out & other proven methods of behavior modification. ...Read more

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The effect of threat of a spanking without actually hitting?

Not optimal: A problem parents often create for themselves is making threats they don't really want to/intend to follow through on. Research shows that spanking and similar punishments suggest "might makes right." threatening to spank may convey the same message. Empty threats are especially bad because the child eventually will call your bluff. Times out really do work if used consistently and well. ...Read more

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If a child is hurting him or herself, is it ok to spank them?

For what cause?: Hurting a child for hurting him- or herself seems an odd message at best: you can't do that but i can? It would help to know the age of the child and what the child is doing; but, in general, physical punishment has little lasting positive effect. It's why child specialists emphasize other types of corrective actions. Recurrent self-harm is a cry for help that should be heeded. Seek help. ...Read more

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What are good ways to better accept the discomfort of a spanking?

For whom: Part of the reason spanking is no longer recommended--and in some places now banned--is that causes discomfort for both the person spanked the the spanker. The best solution is to stop using spanking as a form of punishment and turn to other types of well-studied consequences such as times our and loss of privileges. Make the punishment fit the crime, and be consistent. ...Read more

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Can you suggest any alternative methods to spanking for disciplining children?

Can you suggest any alternative methods to spanking for disciplining children?

Time-out technique: Spanking stops undesireable behavior at that moment, but it doesn't teach children not to repeat the behavior. Putting children in time-out immediately and consistently after the undesireable behavior is more likely to teach them self-control. It takes time, often months, to work, but the long-term benefits to both the child and caregiver are much greater than what you get with spanking. ...Read more

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How many people who weren't spanked as a child spank their children, and how many who were do?

Don't know: This is not a subject I am aware that is followed statistically. Most parents do repeat discipline methods that were used on them as children. Many also do not as they did not like those methods. . Corporal punishment does "work" on children up to age eight . After that it seems to increase negative behavior. Look for nonphysical ways to discipline as they are more effective in the long run. ...Read more

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