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Doctor insights on: Should I Spank My Baby

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Is there evidence that spanking can be harmful to a child?

Is there evidence that spanking can be harmful to a child?

Yes, it teaches a : child that hitting is okay. There is zero tolerance in schools for a child's touching another child or an adult . A child who lays hands on another is summarily suspended. Discipline = teaching, not punishment. Tell the child what behaviors you expect, reward behaviors you want, ignore behaviors you don't want by learning effective use of time-out & other proven methods of behavior modification. ...Read more

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If a child is hurting him or herself, is it ok to spank them?

If a child is hurting him or herself, is it ok to spank them?

For what cause?: Hurting a child for hurting him- or herself seems an odd message at best: you can't do that but i can? It would help to know the age of the child and what the child is doing; but, in general, physical punishment has little lasting positive effect. It's why child specialists emphasize other types of corrective actions. Recurrent self-harm is a cry for help that should be heeded. Seek help. ...Read more

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How many people who weren't spanked as a child spank their children, and how many who were do?

How many people who weren't spanked as a child spank their children, and how many who were do?

Don't know: This is not a subject I am aware that is followed statistically. Most parents do repeat discipline methods that were used on them as children. Many also do not as they did not like those methods. . Corporal punishment does "work" on children up to age eight . After that it seems to increase negative behavior. Look for nonphysical ways to discipline as they are more effective in the long run. ...Read more

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Hi I have problem with my temper on occational. Growing up i had a temper tantrums but i got spank but now i still suffer child like sytoms.

Hi I have problem with my temper on occational. Growing up i had a temper tantrums but i got spank but now i still suffer child like sytoms.

Expectations: One of the subconscious problems we sometimes enter adulthood with is unexpressed expectations. We expect others to do as we like; others to fix what is broken inside of us; expectations that lead us to very unhealthy coping skills. You may need to do some work with a good therapist to find out what is really happening deep inside; know there are adult and healthier ways to deal with emotions. ...Read more

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Is spanking a child always abuse? After I had a hard night with the baby, when my son disobeyed, I slapped him on the cheek. Is this so terrible?

Is spanking a child always abuse? After I had a hard night with the baby, when my son disobeyed, I slapped him on the cheek. Is this so terrible?

Slapping is abuse: Slapping on the face is not the same as spanking. It is abuse. Neither has been shown to have long term benefits to child development, and even spanking can be harmful and abusive. Time out and other forms of privilege removal are proven effective and beneficial means to train a child. Positive reinforcement and rewarding good behavior is also an essential parenting technique. ...Read more

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I have a fear of having a child. I'm afraid I'll spank them. A strong fear of that. Is this weird? I was never abused. I just want the best 4 them.

I have a fear of having a child. I'm afraid I'll spank them. A strong fear of that. Is this weird? I was never abused. I just want the best 4 them.

I respect you for : recognizing that you're not ready to start a family. Please see your GYN or Planned Parenthood for contraception. Start taking 0,4 mg. of folic acid daily, get a flu shot & check your vaccine status. Seek individual therapy to explore the issues that could lead to your parenting with physical or verbal aggression. Take a parenting class with your partner. Discipline = teaching, not punishment. ...Read more

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Is spanking okay?

Not recommended: The american academy of pediatrics does not recommend spanking your child. This can lead to unnecessary force and harm to the child. Instead use time outs and time ins. Use a time out immediately after an inappropriate behavior. The length should be equal to the child's age in years. Use time in as positive reinforcement for good behavior. ...Read more

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What cultures still spank kids?

Not sure: I couldn't find data on specific cultures that allow/encourage spanking. Much more information on where it is banned. Not yet banned in any state in the U.S., though strongly discouraged in most and can be defined as physical abuse in some situations. France still endorses spanking, but increasing numbers of european countries have outright bans. ...Read more

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Has anyone studied the positives or negatives of spanking?

Yes: Not recommended, especially as a regular form of punishement. It suggests physical aggression is okay and becomes increasingly hard to use as children grow older. Non-physical consequences such as times out or loss of privileges have been shown both to be as or more effective and to produce much less strain on the parent/child relationship. ...Read more

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The effect of threat of a spanking without actually hitting?

Not optimal: A problem parents often create for themselves is making threats they don't really want to/intend to follow through on. Research shows that spanking and similar punishments suggest "might makes right." threatening to spank may convey the same message. Empty threats are especially bad because the child eventually will call your bluff. Times out really do work if used consistently and well. ...Read more