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Sex addiction?: This is a "pop" concept, not a standard-of-care psychiatric diagnosis -- from a movement with an agenda. The goal of monogamy is laudable; the additional goal of not enjoying one's own body or own thoughts at all seems unrealistic and sure to fail. Your real question is, "can this relationship be monogamous? " this is far deeper than any "pop" diagnosis. Get good advice and perhaps sane therapy. ...Read more
More than good: Being sexual and expressing your sexuality responsibly in the way (s) that seem right to you & you can do are among the most affirming things that life offers. And no matter what your disability -- chances are that there's someone out there who's the right one for you. Or if you prefer the single life without sex -- that's your business and your choice. Autonomy rules. Love well and wisely. ...Read more
Herpes: Two viruses: Most people get oral herpes from their family members when they are growing up. It is only recently that medicine and public health has been trying to teach that cold sores and often fever blisters are just names for the underlying hsv 1 infection. Herpes is transmitted skin to skin. It does not necessarily have to be passed along in sexual play. ...Read more
Is it ok to love sex? Many people I know are sex- negative, so it's weird, but is it odd that my body needs it so much? I just can't go without long
Transgender: There is no clear answer to this. When it comes to the interaction between genetics and environment, the relationship between the two is so complex, even ostensibly chaotic, that it defies any real understanding. What is of utmost importance here is, although such desires to be the other sex are an unfathomable mystery to the unaffected, they are ABSOLUTELY real to transgendered people. ...Read more
Flu season: Nope. Not usually.Get a more detailed answer ›
No problem!: Should be no problem. BP usually goes up during sexual activity! ...Read more
How can someone get genital herpes even if they have only ever had sex with people who are negative to hsv-2?
Could be HSV1: Hsv1 generally is considered oral herpes but can be transmitted during oral sex. It is more troublesome in the gential area because it is more sensitive there. Most people with oral herpes have an occasional embarrassing cold sore but not anything life-changing - that's not usually the case with gential herpes whether type 1 or 2. Meds can help treat/prevent outbreaks if troublesome. ...Read more
Recently I bled during sex but am not a virgin. I've only had sex with 2 people. My recent companion is much bigger than the first. Is this why I bled?
No: You can get it from your mother while getting born or nursing, or from sharing needles. Transfused blood should be safe everywhere. ...Read more
What are the chances of me having aids if I'm a regular person, only having sex with 4 people in my life?
It only takes 1: Get tested. Certainly odds are lower but you may not know the sexual histories of your 4 partners. There's even a newly approved home testing kit but you owe it to yourself and your partners to get tested. ...Read more
If most people have type 1 herpes with no outbreaks, acquired through childhood & a lot have oral sex, do most people have type 1 in genitals?
Probably: Safe from a physical standpoint, but depending on the level of brain damage, there are ethical considerations, such as the ability to consent. "Brain damage" can be very minor and cause no or minimal cognitive impairment, or it can be severe enough to render someone incapable of making an informed decision or understanding their actions. ...Read more
Had sex with 2 people, found out I had chlamydia, got treated. Went back to one of the people again, could he 100% pass it back to me?
Yes if not treated: If that partner received a recommended treatment, he probably was cured and cannot pass it back to you. If he was not treated, then absolulte yes: you WILL be reinfected. And second chlamydial infections are especially dangerous, with a much higher risk of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID, tube infection) which can make women sterile. Don't take the chance! ...Read more
Whenever my partner ejaculates in me it burns but I've had sex with other people and it hasn't. Is there something wrong with his cum?
Hi, I have had sex with different people and sometimes unprotected sex as well, I wanted to be sure that I am not infected. Kindly suggest.?
Yes, but...: Of course, you're never sure about a partner you don't know very well. In today's world, don't rush into any situation in which your semen may end up in someone else's possession -- men have been trapped into becoming fathers in this way. And there are always feelings involved -- sex is never "safe" in this respect. Love very carefully. ...Read more
What are sex toys? Do people actually use them? Why would they vibrate? Why was one used on me during the rape? Help, I'm confused. (17 y/o girl)
First, I agree with dr. Jacobson. Let us express our deepest concern about your recent experience. There is a lot here in your question. First, are you getting the right support from a professional in your life to deal with the emotional trauma of rape? Have you talked to anyone yet? Are you safe?
Now, sex is a big topic. Toys are used in sex for pleasure, usually. They can enhance orgasm. ...Read more
Can you get chlamydia from other ways other than sexual contact? My girlfriend was recently told she has chlamydia but we both have not had sex with other people are there other ways of getting chlamydia...
If my due date is sept. 13th, which days was I ovulating and which day did I most likely concieve.? The first day of my last period was november 29 or 30 and it only last about 3 or 4 day which is pretty normal for me. But I had sex with 2 people and am u
Based on my calculations, with a LMP (last menstrual period) nov 29. The estimated date of conception is december 13th, and the due date is sept 5. However based on your ultrasound you have a due date of sept 13th, which would make your date of conception about the 20th.
This is very tricky, and if I were to base my guess on the ultrasound it would be guy #2, and if I were to base it on lmp, it would be guy #1. The only way to know is through dna testing. If for some reason you get an amniocentesis, paternity testing can be done at that time.
Good luck! ...Read more
Lower risk, but yes: Properly used condoms that don't break are very effective against STDs transmitted in fluids (gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV, hepatitis B) but less so against skin-to-skin transmission (herpes, HPV, syphilis). And mistakes in use are common. Congratulations for always using condoms -- keep it up! But you'll still get HPV for sure and maybe others. You still need HPV vaccine and regular STD check-ups. ...Read more
If you have sex with 2 people unprotected close together but have no STDs can that cause itching or infection?
Unprotected sex...: ...Can lead to pregnancy or std's (partners have no std's because they said so? - that isn't reliable). A yeast infection could also be a cause of itching and discharge. See you gyn for an exam and std testing. Strongly suggest using condoms with spermicide in the future and consider additional birth control such as pill/depo (not as alternative but plus condoms) ...Read more
I have a very small bump on the underside of my penis shaft- no itching or burning. Have had sex with 2 people. Wondering if it is herpes?
Everyone's different: Everyone is different. Some enjoy sex toys while others don't. Some like various positions while others like just one. Once weekly is enough for some but once daily isn't enough for others. The point is that everyone is different. The difficulty is in finding a "perfect" match w/your partner. If that's not possible, know that your partner shouldn't make you feel guilty for being different. ...Read more
How do people cope after they have become a victim of a sex crime? How do people get over their trauma afterwards?
Some with therapy: I have seen many people who have been traumatized sexually recovery well with psychotherapy. Some people cope in other ways such as developing closer relationships, re-engaging with their faith, talking honestly with a support group. There are different options for recovering for such a trauma. ...Read more
Sex: It may be that a person is driven by longings and then when sex is completed guilt sets in for after the sexual drive is satisfied realistic thinking may take over. Sex can be binding and blinding, eventually it is necessary to understand what we are really looking for beyond the sexual act. Best. ...Read more
Everyone's different: Everyone is different. That's what makes life so interesting. That's why it's also important to find people who complete you, whether w/similar preferences or opposite tastes. My point is that what's enough for you might not be enough for someone else and might be too much for another person. So find someone that matches you. ...Read more