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Many women find that penetration that contacts the cervix is uncomfortable, and feedback to your partner can help him avoid that.
If you are asking whether you can damage the cervix, then the answer is no--unless something other than a penis is going in there. ...Read more
Possible: Even if the hymen is not intact, the hymenal remnants at the opening of the vagina will likely stretch a bit when sexual relations are initiated. That could be uncomfortable or painful. ...Read more
Does sex hurt if your a virgin and that person is gental? Does you hymen heal up afterwards and for how long?
Varies..: In general, if gentle, careful, use plenty of lubrication and lots of foreplay, loss of virginity should not be excessively painful. The hymen does not heal up. It just tears and disappears. Healing usually takes about a week, but depends on how much injury (if any) there was and whether you continue to irritate the area with continued sexual activity. Please consider contraception... ...Read more
Husband likes to initiate sex in the AM. I really don't like my sleep interrupted but I always give in. I also feel morning sex hurts a bit more, why?
Not ready?: To lubricate you need to be emotionally available. If you don't lubricate enough then dry vagina would hurt with intercourse. Maybe you want to use water-base lubricants. ...Read more
Painful coitus: Vaginal intercourse can be painful if there is not sufficient vaginal lubrication, if there is a discrepancy and incompatibility in anatomic sizes, if technique is rough or overly vigorous, if there is improper positioning, if there's insufficient vaginal relaxation or if there is vaginal pathology. If you continue to have painful intercourse, have your gynecologist examine and advise you. ...Read more
It's complicated: Assuming you are having consensual sex, usually pain can be from decreased lubrication. Speak to your partner about your needs in terms of the arousal phase. Depending on your age, vaginal dryness may be a hormonal issue and you need to discuss it with your doctor. You can so have pain from sexually transmitted diseases. I would advise a visit with your doctor to sort this all out. ...Read more
Does sex hurt less the second time around? I just lost my virginity yesterday and it hurt really bad.
Honeymoon syndrome: He ruptured the hymen first night, hence loss of virginity. It will heal naturally but you must discuss it with him so that he also understands why he has to go easy and wait for the normal healing to occur. ...Read more
Why did second time sex hurt much more than my first time? I had sex two days apart. I thought second time should be easier.
Painful sex: The tissues around your genital area/vagina may have been irritated during your first sexual encounter (this is very common). It could take a couple of days to feel normal again. You may need to take things slower the next day and until everything feels back to normal. Consider using a lubricant to reduce friction against the skin so it doesn't hurt so much. ...Read more
Sex hurts when he enters. But once he gets past a point it doesn't hurt. Re-entering hurts.& I have only had sex a couple times. Alot of time in between.
LUBRICANT: Use a lubricant each time and fore play will also help. If this doesn, t help see your GYN doctor ...Read more
Severe thunderclap headache each time b4 orgasm, have 2 stop sex. Hurts 2 much 2 move 4 first 20 min, then minor h/a for hours. H/a usually rare for me?
It can: There is a ring of skin called the hymen in front of the vagina this will usually tear during the first intercourse for women. This can cause some pain and bleeding but is normal. The vagina will also need to stretch a little the first couple times depending on the size of the penis entering it. ...Read more
Anal sex: There is a curve in the rectum or sigmoid colon he must be hitting. Pain tells you and him that there may be a limit or less pressure. You guys can work this out to a point that is pleasurable for both of you. You can also get a good guide book to sex to explore safely the limits and how tos of sex. ...Read more
That depends on a: Number of factors such as the level of muscle relaxation, size of penetrating object, force used, etc. ...Read more
Can not having right angle during sex hurt? He is a virgin I don't hurt smear test or anything. He instead is putting pressure I think
Sexual positions: Can be delightful and fun...pain should not play a rule. Remember- outercourse is just as important as intercourse and you BOTH should be wet and lubricated. Spending 15-20 minutes on foreplay and change positions so that both partners are smiling. I am not sure what you mean by right angle- please clarify. ...Read more
Is there a way to make missionary sex hurt a lot less? I find doggy style doesn't hurt at all, but why? My gyno says everything is normal. Virgin..
Different positions: Many find different sexual positions to be more comfortable or more stimulating than others. There's nothing wrong with that. Communicate with your partner about how you feel, what seems to cause problems, etc. So you can find a position that works for both of you! It does not sound like you are a virgin now, though- if you've had sex, you are not a virgin! ...Read more
Hubby is large, sex hurts at times. Says he feels like he is hitting something when trying to go deeper. Is he hitting my cervix and causing the pain?
Pain: Yes, try differnt positions that may you more comfortable ...Read more
Think I bled quite a lot in my 1st intercrs - looked like my 1st day period spottng, but it stopped shortly after. The sex hurts tho. Is it normal? How to improve? Should I expect bleeding again next time, and if so anything to worry?
Normal: Usually the bleeding and pain at first intercourse is from breaking the hymen. The bleeding pattern you describe is typical for it. Give it a few days to heal and it should not happen again. ...Read more
Estrogen?: The first thing you should do is to see your gynecologist and make sure that you don't have an infection. It could also be that the lower estrogen your body experiences on birth control pills is interfering with your own natural lubrication. Try some lubricant such as KY silke or astroglide. ...Read more
That just happens.: This is pretty much a universal experience. Several factors have to occur to NOT have pain: 1) arousal produces lubrication and also 2) enlargement of the opening and lengthening of the vagina. The penis can hit the cervix, the area might be not lubricated enough, the muscles might need some time to loosen. Taking a bit more time and a bit slower. Different positions also help ...Read more
Second opinion: While a normal physical exam is reassuring, there are many causes of pain during sex. Pain during entry can be caused by an infection, vestibulitis, abnormal muscle tone to the vagina, or inadequate lubrication. Pain later on may be caused by inadequate arousal (which lubricates the vagina and causes lengthening of the vaginal cylinder). Adequate foreplay, lubrication, and positioning may help. ...Read more
Deep penetration sex hurts and I cant be still I move alot and it upsets my boyfriend because he cant have his way but im in pain what to do?
Dyspareunia: A common cause of dyspareunia: pelvic girdle instability caused by a unilateral sacroiliac joint (SIJ) subluxation. The missionary position evokes pain as the flexed, abducted, & externally rotated female femur torques the pelvic girdle & strains SIJ iliolumbar ligament. Spoon position with most pained hip superior, to float loose SIJ, might be more comfortable, as well as prove this bio-dynamic. ...Read more
Sex hurts! Have done it a couple times but with months in between. But it never gets better. It's like there's something he pushes on to pass that hurts?
Needs evaluation: Sex should not be painful. When it is evaluation is needed. There are a variety of causes -- poor lubrication, yeast infections, herpes, shingles, vulvar vestibulitis, lichen sclerosis, endometriosis etc. Since you are very young the doctor can examine your hymenal ring and make sure that it has opened enough for intercourse. ...Read more
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