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No sex drive after 2nd child was born. How can husband cope?

No sex drive after 2nd child was born. How can husband cope?

Couple's time: Hormone changes during pregnancy, just after having a baby and during breast-feeding can put a damper on sex drive. Fatigue, changes in body image and the pressures of caring for a new baby can all contribute to changes in sexual desire. Hiring an sitter to care for your children while you and your partner work on your relationship via adult activities may help rekindle the desire. ...Read more

Libido (Definition)

Libido is more commonly thought of as sexual desire. Still more specific definitions described libido as the free creative, or psychic energy an individual has to put toward ...Read more


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Lost ability to climax & complete sex drive during 3rd pregnancy wit my only son about 3 yrs ago. Ob/gyn says time heals. How can I get it all back?

Lost ability to climax & complete sex drive during 3rd pregnancy wit my only son about 3 yrs ago. Ob/gyn says time heals. How can I get it all back?

Not just time: Sex drive/ability to orgasm is largely in your head, not your vagina. Fatigue, body image issues, and many other things can influence your libido. Find a baby sitter and make time for you and your hubby to really get "reacquainted" with one another - go on a "date" and steam up the windows in the car! sex and sex drive with kids is often a "hurry up and let's go" thing instead of romance...Tough.. ...Read more

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Had unprotective sex to my 38yo partner he had vasectomy, for 2yrs, thinking of having a baby, is it possible we can have if he "undo" (reverse) it?

Had unprotective sex to my 38yo partner he had vasectomy, for 2yrs,  thinking of having a baby, is it possible we can have if he "undo" (reverse) it?

Yes: It can be reversed. It does not always work and sometimes it can block up again. It is worth having a fertility evaluation beforehand just in case there is anything worth considering before he has surgery. ...Read more

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Did an active sex life with my husband cause my child to be born premature?

Did an active sex life with my husband cause my child to be born premature?

Unlikely: We don't know what causes preterm labor. If a woman is having premature contractions sometimes the doctors tell her to stay off her feet and to avoid intercourse. While intercourse probably does not cause preterm contractions, it may make them worse once you have them. ...Read more

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Have had no periods or sex drive after my 2nd child was born?

Have had no periods or sex drive after my 2nd child was born?

How old is the Baby?: How old is your child? Have you discussed it with your ob-gyn? Check that you are not exhausted, lacking nutrition, or having a hormonal imbalance. Please get your self checked asap. ...Read more

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My wife had 5 yrs' sexual relation with her ex-boyfrnd and i knew it after 10 months of our marriage.My wife confess it to me. Now what can I do now?

My wife had 5 yrs' sexual relation with her ex-boyfrnd and i knew it after 10 months of our marriage.My wife confess it to me. Now what can I do now?

Love your Wife: I know you ask this question out of concern and cultural traditions. But, in my opinion as a man and as a physician, i would focus on the now. She is in love with you. She is your wife. Her past is not in any way going to change what your relationship is with her today. I vote that you love her and appreciate her honestly. ...Read more

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Iam 7 weeks pregnant.i have had argument with my husband .he doesnt want to have a sex with me .what happened if i born the baby without sex .

Iam 7 weeks pregnant.i have had argument with my husband .he doesnt want to have a sex with me .what happened if i born the baby without sex .

No probs w pregnancy: So sorry to hear about your marital stress. Not uncommon. And pregnancy can bring this out, esp. if there are financial problems. You both have valid points - u just need help. Is husband willing to allow counselor or impartial wise friend to walk with you thru the major issue to a win-win solution? BTW, Not having sex won't hurt your pregnancy at all. Keep your prenatal appointments & care plan. ...Read more

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Hi, how can I know if a girl had sex before marriage? I had sex wtih her many times but don't know if she had sex before me with some one else or not?

Hi, how can I know if a girl had sex before marriage? I had sex wtih her many times but don't know if she had sex before me with some one else or not?

Hard to know: If you focus on building a long term relationship and you dont have sex immediately and she is content with that type of relationship then likely she has had fewer partners. Get tested for sti's and ask her to do so too before sex and each share your results with the other before sex, then you know you are much more likely to be in a safe and committed relationship. ...Read more

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My sister has gone through cesarean. After how many days she can drive a car. ?

My sister has gone through cesarean. After how many days she can drive a car. ?

About 2 weeks: It depends on what your sister takes for pain control. If she is taking narcotics for pain control, she should not drive. It is best to drive when pain is under control and incision is healing well. ...Read more

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Hi, i'm 35 weeks prego my hubby will come next week can we have sex normally cause i had sex with him since june i need to know thank you. ?

Hi, i'm 35 weeks prego my hubby will come next week can we have sex normally cause i had sex with him since june i need to know thank you. ?

Sure: As long as your pregnancy has been healthy and you have not been having any problems, you can certainly have sex with your husband. Just be mindful of position and comfort. ...Read more

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My wife disclosed she is asexual after 16 yrs of marriage. Two children. I have no idea what to do. We're in couple therapy. I need intimacy.

My wife disclosed she is asexual after 16 yrs of marriage. Two children. I have no idea what to do. We're in couple therapy. I need intimacy.

Marriage needs: You know what you need. Very good. Do you know what she needs?? You state that you have been married for 16 years. How often do you just sit down and talk with her. An old saying says: "Happy wife; Happy life". The key is good and open communication between the two of you. Happy Valentine's Day to you BOTH !!! ...Read more

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Sex with someone in nov. Got period dec9. Had sex with bf dec 6,15,21,22. Due sept 14. How do i convince bf it his bby? Do we need a DNA test for nov?

Sex with someone in nov. Got period dec9. Had sex with bf dec 6,15,21,22. Due sept 14. How do i convince bf it his bby? Do we need a DNA test for nov?

Paternity: It sounds like you are not going to convince your boyfriend of his paternity by your word alone and that he has some trust issues with you. DNA testing is likely going to be the only way you are going to prove to him he is the father. You will need to wait until the baby is born, unless there is some other medical reason to invade the amnion and obtain fluid for testing before birth. ...Read more

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How can my sex drive return after my husband's affair? Hate the sight of him.

How can my sex drive return after my husband's affair? Hate the sight of him.

Infidelity: You may consider a counseling appointment for both you alone and then together with your husband to help you manage issues associated with this infidelity. ...Read more

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Had an unsafe sex with my wife. She is pregnant now. We're having 2 children already & don't want 3rd baby now. Please help us to remove pregnancy?

Had an unsafe sex with my wife. She is pregnant now. We're having 2 children already & don't want 3rd baby now. Please help us to remove pregnancy?

Pregnancy: There is no way to address this in this forum. You need to contact your physician regarding this matter and which steps need to be taken. You need to weigh ALL options with this pregnancy because any decision you make will be life changing. ...Read more

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After i've had three children, my sexual appetite pretty much diminished. What can I do to bring it back? I'm only 31 yrs old.

After i've had three children, my sexual appetite pretty much diminished. What can I do to bring it back?  I'm only 31 yrs old.

Stress, mainly:: What shakespeare called "the ravelled sleeve of care:" lots of distractions and demands, no time to relax and daydream. I think a vacation would help. Also, ask your doctor about possible endocrine factors: low levels of hormones can also reduce libido. ...Read more

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I have sex with my boyfriend sep 15 to 18 my period date is sep 19 and had sex with husband on sep 10 to 12. Got pergnant.How to know baby from whom?

I have sex with my boyfriend sep 15 to 18 my period date is sep 19 and had sex with husband on sep 10 to 12. Got pergnant.How to know baby from whom?

No way of knowing: First you have not provided your ovulation date; nor have you provided us with your due date. But, that may not be enough to give you a valid answer. You had sperm from both men alive and swimming in you at the same time. The only right answer to your question since both men's sperm were there to meet your egg is that you will need dna paternity testing. ...Read more

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Hi doctor I'm married from 5 years and had unprotected sex with my husband many times..we divorced and I was in relation with another man we too ?

Hi doctor I'm married  from 5 years  and had unprotected  sex with my husband  many times..we divorced and I was in relation  with another man we too ?

Uncertain: I'm uncertain about what your question is but it sounds like you are concerned about infertility.The only way to know if you are infertile with any given partner (yes it does depend on both of you) is to have regular, unprotected intercourse.If you haven't conceived after 1 year it is time to begin a work up for both of you (again it takes 2).If your periods are irregular you need to look into it. ...Read more

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Boyfriend smokes n drinks alcohol we've had sex 2years with no contraceptive and no pregnancy how long will it take to get pregnant after he quits?

Boyfriend smokes n drinks alcohol we've had sex 2years with no contraceptive and no pregnancy how long will it take to get pregnant after he quits?

???: Smoking and alcohol should not definitively effect the chance of pregnancy. If mid cycle, when your ovulating, unprotected sex does not yield a pregnancy after many tries, than there may be another issues at play and a fertility assessment may be warranted. Certainly, he should stop smoking and drinking in excess. ...Read more

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How can I heighten my sex drive after a hesterectomy and being 50 years old. ?

How can I heighten my sex drive after a hesterectomy and being 50 years old. ?

Medications?: You may be a candidate for hormone replacement therapy. This should be very seriously considered and discussed with your gyn. All risk factors should be identified and clearly laid out for you to consider. ...Read more

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Sexual Drive (Definition)

Sexual drive, often referred to as libido, means sexual desire. The amount of desire that a person has on a consistent basis is referred ...Read more


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Loss Of Sex Drive (Definition)

This is the patient who has a decrease interest in having sexual intercourse; reasons for this can be either ...Read more