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My brother is stealing money from me to fuel his addiction. Who should I tell?

My brother is stealing money from me to fuel his addiction.  Who should I tell?

Tell parents, doctor: This is a difficult situation. For sure "enabling" your brother is not going to solve the problem. Please consider discussing it with your parents, and your brother's clinician; although the clinician may not be able to disclose your brother's medical information to you, he/she can receive an information from you. Addiction is a disease. When treated, it often responds well to therapy. ...Read more

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Dr. Vasu Brown
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Addiction (Definition)

Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory, and related circuitry. Dysfunction in these circuits leads to characteristic biological, psychological, social and spiritual manifestations. This is reflected in an individual pathologically pursuing reward and/or relief by substance use and other behaviors. A person affected by addiction will be unable to consistently Abstain from use, will have Impaired Behavioral control, will have Craving or increased "hunger" for drugs or rewarding experiences, will have a Dysfunctional Emotional response, and will show diminished recognition of significant problems with their own ...Read more


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Hoping you can tell me, is stealing addiction a mental health issue?

Hoping you can tell me, is stealing addiction a mental health issue?

Could be: It's impulsive problem similar to addiction . Need assesment medications and group therapy. ...Read more

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Would it be considered an addiction to money if the means of getting the money makes you go as far as prostitution or stripping?

Would it be considered an addiction to money if the means of getting the money makes you go as far as prostitution or stripping?

Not necessarily: That depends. We all need money to survive in this society. Some unfortunate people have difficulty feeding or sheltering their family and may turn to activities like prostitution or stripping as a means of survival. However, there are some people who will put few or no limits on what they will do for money. ...Read more

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My mom is addicted to playing cards, it causes several problems in my home. She has lost all the money saved, how can we stop her from this addiction?

My mom is addicted to playing cards, it causes several problems in my home. She has lost all the money saved, how can we stop her from this addiction?

Gambling addiction: You cannot make her stop, but you can get help through gamanon, the companion group to gamblers anonymous. In the same way that al-anon helps family members of an alcoholic, whether or not the alcoholic is in aa, gamanon can help you whether your mother goes to ga or not. ...Read more

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My aunt has dementia and keeps accusing my family of stealing money from her bank. She yells at us how do we manage this. She is In a retirement home?

My aunt has dementia and keeps accusing my family of stealing money from her bank. She yells at us how do we manage this. She is In a retirement home?

Relatively common: In advanced stages of dementia. She may have developed delirium with paranoid features. Would suggest letting her physician or the nursing home staff now as she may become agitated and needing to be medicated. It is otherwise hard for family members to see their relatives turning against them with no reason. ...Read more

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Vivitrol for alcohol and opiate addiction..Does it actually work and is it worth the money?

Vivitrol for alcohol and opiate addiction..Does it actually work and is it worth the money?

Yes it works, but: Whether it is worth the money depends on many things. For alcohol abuse, the results have been extremely good, with marked reductions in relapse, and much longer periods of sobriety, even in the homeless alcoholic population. For opioids, it's not as clear, but several russian studies showed success, and us studies are beginning to show some promise. It does have side effects (depression), + cost. ...Read more

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Mental health I have been fired from my job for stealing money. I am at loss as to why i did this and the guilt of doing this is overwhelming. I have hurt and disappointed so many people i care about. I know what i was doing was wrong in my heart but n

Mental health I have been fired from my job for stealing money.  I am at loss as to why i did this and the guilt of doing this is overwhelming.  I have hurt and disappointed so many people i care about.  I know what i was doing was wrong in my heart but n

Dr. : Dr. Kardener made excellent points. Clearly, your behavior was meeting a need, even if you did not realize this. However, the way you met the need had many negative consequences(your job; your reputation and your self-esteem). It is important to get a handle on this. Counseling is a very good approach. Hopefully, it will allow you to understand your behavior and enable you to find healthier ways to meet your needs. Take care. ...Read more

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Bf's online current events/political social media addiction causes intolerable financial&emotional anxiety.NOTHING I try helps@all.Should we separate?

Bf's online current events/political social media addiction causes intolerable financial&emotional anxiety.NOTHING I try helps@all.Should we separate?

No one can tell you: Clearly you are not content and feel unable to find a solution for changing him. I think it would be a mistake to trust any 'yes/no' answer to your '?'. It might be the way this will go, but there may be other options too. Try to find a therapist to help you think t through and perhaps provide or refer for couples Tx. Be patient as you seek a solution - it will help. ...Read more

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How can I help my brother get rid of his addiction ?

How can I help my brother get rid of his addiction ?

You can't: Only he can help himself, but there are things you can do that first of all help yourself (and others in your family), and may ultimately help him. Family members often "enable" addiction, allowing the person to get away with behaviors that are unacceptable. See a family therapist with your brother if he accepts, without him if he doesnt. Find a good alanon meeting in your area. Talk 2 ur doctor. ...Read more

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Is there a way to help my brothers meth addiction?

Is there a way to help my brothers meth addiction?

Help yourself: This is a very difficult thing for people with addiction and those who care about them. You need to emotionally protect yourself, and allow them to make their own choices, but to provide opportunities for rehab or 12 step programs like aa or na. ...Read more

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What to do if my brothers on probation and recent failed a urine drug screen. He has struggled w addictions for the longest?

What to do if my brothers on probation and recent failed a urine drug screen. He has struggled w addictions for the longest?

Hitting bottom: To get clean ; sober it's said one must hit bottom. Ppl think that means something really bad must happen. But some ppl have really bad things happen ; keep using. Bottom isn't what happens, but the emotional realization that it isn't working, that it's too painful to go on using. You can't keep yr bro sober ; you can't do anything to make him use. Al-anon mtgs help family of alcoholics, try it! ...Read more

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My brother in law is intoxicated to Alcohol. My question is what is the remedy to such addiction and what medicine can keep him away from alcohol.

My brother in law is intoxicated to Alcohol. My question is what is the remedy to such addiction and what medicine can keep him away from alcohol.

Please ask him: to join a Support group with counseling, as well as seeing a physician. There is no safe medication and motivation on his part will be the main therapy. He needs a strong will to get off alcohol and avoid situations that would make him drink. A healthy lifestyle with exercise and clean fun is best. ...Read more

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What can I do if my brothers have serious gaming addiction, what do you think I should do?

What can I do if my brothers have serious gaming addiction, what do you think I should do?

See a professional.: You may recommend him to see a psychiatrist for a psychiatric evaluation, and a neurologist for a neurological evaluation. Several brain disorders could present as gambling addition. ...Read more

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How do I stop her from stealing her brother's toys?

How do I stop her from stealing her brother's toys?

Modify behavior: Children are often possessive of toys, they often grab them from others. Praise specific sharing behaviors with a kind comment. When undesirable behaviors are seen, give a time out to the 'grabber'; if the behavior continues separate your children or give the toy a time out. Often changing the response helps improve the behavior. Try not to reward any loud protestations from either child. ...Read more

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How can I stop my brother's "call of duty" addiction?

You can't really : Control anybody unless they allow you to. You may decide to tell your brother how his "addiction to call of duty" impacts you, what effect it has on you, and tell him why you would like him to change. It is up to him to make that decision. ...Read more

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How can I help my brother get over his addiction to morphine?

How can I help my brother get over his addiction to morphine?

With help/commitment: Big question. Is he asking for help, or not? Is he saying "i should quit" or "i want to quit"? Should is a word that sounds like "i need to..." but really means"...But i'm not".Is this your idea or his?Nowadays, morphine is not a street addiction, it's usually medical. Have him talk to his doc. Street addictions are usually oxy-/hydrocodone. Narc-anon is another place to start if no md can help. ...Read more

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My brother is addicted to alcohol . How can I help him to come out of this addiction. Started drinking in morning also.He is diabetic and has bp, depre?

Is Alanon in India?: Alanon is part of the 12-step programs. It has the best success rate helping people who love or care about an alcoholic. If you can find a meeting, please go. Otherwise read what you can on their approach. There is only a little you can do for him but to be honest, caring and firm in refusing to help him hurt himself. It is very hard (as you know) and alanon offers support. Have faith in yourself. ...Read more

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Could use your help docs! my brothers on probation and recent failed a urine drug screen. He has struggled w addictions for the longest?

Could use your help docs! my brothers on probation and recent failed a urine drug screen. He has struggled w addictions for the longest?

Hitting bottom: To get clean ; sober it's said one must hit bottom. Ppl think that means something really bad must happen. But some ppl have really bad things happen ; keep using. Bottom isn't what happens, but the emotional realization that it isn't working, that it's too painful to go on using. You can't keep yr bro sober ; you can't do anything to make him use. Al-anon mtgs help family of alcoholics, try it! ...Read more

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How do I tell my family/friends I need help with my addiction?

Do a family meeting: To engage friends and family members to help support one's treatment for addiction, one should select several friends and family members for a meeting at the beginning of treatment. He should choose people who tend to enjoy helping others during illnesses and crises, yet he may want to avoid being overly demanding of friends and family members. ...Read more

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Can you tell me of any quick advice on how to start ending an addiction?

Can you tell me of any quick advice on how to start ending an addiction?

Admit the problem: Is the starting point. To some extent it depends on the addiction, and what you mean by addiction. If it is alcohol or drugs, there are many treatment programs, both outpatient and inpatient, and formal and self-help programs. If we are talking about tobacco, gambling and other behavioral issues, there are different approaches to these. Talk to your doctor or a mental health worker for referral. ...Read more