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Doctor insights on: Is Maria Shirver Friend Ly With Ex Husband

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Does it matter who I choose as a sperm donor? Ie: ex husband, friend...Are there any legal issues regarding such?

Does it matter who I choose as a sperm donor? Ie: ex husband, friend...Are there any legal issues regarding such?

Your choice: Sperm banks list characteristics such as health, education, racial aspects, etc. Your personal choice of a donor, if you are doing it yourself is no different than a dating relationship. But you can choose based upon your desired characteristics. The only legal issue relates to privacy, the claim of the donor on the child, the rights of the child. You can sign exclusion agreements for this. ...Read more

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My ex/best friend is self harming, is there nothing i can do?

My ex/best friend is self harming, is there nothing i can do?

Yes: If she is or was a close friend you should try to convince her to seek help. Counseling can help get to the root cause and overcome the compulsion. If she is young enough, you can contact her parents who could push her to get proper treatment. Whatever they do is not your responsibility. If you try to get them to seek help and they do not, then you are not to blame. Good luck to you and friend. ...Read more

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My friend learned she has herpes 2 from her ex. Never saw symptoms on him (he was unaware he had it...). Possible to catch h2 if no symptoms present?

My friend learned she has herpes 2 from her ex. Never saw symptoms on him (he was unaware he had it...). Possible to catch h2 if no symptoms present?

Herpes: Yes. Absolutely. 90% of people who are infected with herpes type two do not have outbreaks. They may not even know where they are infected. We now know without any doubt that those infected with herpes can shed virus and thus be contagious whether they have sores or not. ...Read more

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One of my friend had a sex with her boy friend as well as with her husband.Both semen went inside.She is planning to conciev a baby.Is that a problem?

One of my friend had a sex with her boy friend as well as with her husband.Both semen went inside.She is planning to conciev a baby.Is that a problem?

For whom?: Did she conceive after having intercourse with 2 men the same night? If so, the putative fathers & the baby need molecular genetic studies to determine the biological father. Or your friend could just let sleeping dogs lie, if she has yet to conceive. She shoul be taking 400 μg/day of Folic Acid supplement, not drink, smoke or use drugs & check with her OB for the safety of her medications. ...Read more

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I'm wondering how long does it take to get rid of a psychotic ex-friend?

I'm wondering how long does it take to get rid of a psychotic ex-friend?

I don't understand ?: I think what you're saying is that you are being bothered by an ex friend who is psychotic. We do not have crystal balls and cannot predict how long something like this would go on. If you are being stalked or harassed then i would recommend that you contact the local police department and get a restraining order. Other than that do what you can to protect yourself. Best wishes. ...Read more

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A friend complained that the husband hardly makes love to her.Now she thinks her vagina is too wide and cud be d possible cause.Wat can she do about i?

A friend complained that the husband hardly makes love to her.Now she thinks her vagina is too wide and cud be d possible cause.Wat can she do about i?

Men and Sex: I doubt that the problem for your friend's husband is her vagina. There is usually something deeper there. I recognize that you are in nigeria and the healthcare system there may be limited as far as psychotherapy...But there has to be a way to get your friend's husband to talk in a safe way about his own sexuality and his own needs or worries or concerns. ...Read more

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If i had sex wit a old friend january22 is it possible i got pregnant wit him february8 or husband?

If i had sex wit a old friend january22 is it possible i got pregnant wit him february8 or husband?

Possible: If you had sex with both men during that time it is possible to get pregnant from either. In fact, if you were to have twins
one could come from each. ...Read more

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My friend's husband was desensitized for a serious cat allergy through drops vs. Shots. Can you provide info on this?

My friend's husband was desensitized for a serious cat allergy through drops vs. Shots. Can you provide info on this?

Similar: Sub-lingual (beneath the tongue) and sub-cutaneous (beneath the skin) immuno-therapy -- slit vs scit, respectively -- are similar in their role in "desensitization" to allergens. Slit, drops under the tongue, have been used in europe for over a decade, and have become the standard of care for allergy remedy there. Here, slit is not yet fda-approved, although some docs do provide the service. ...Read more

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My friend's husband is an alcoholic. He's lost control of his bowels about 5x this year. Is he close to killing himself with the alcohol?

My friend's husband is an alcoholic. He's lost control of his bowels about 5x this year. Is he close to killing himself with the alcohol?

Recovery: is difficult unless the person is willing. Try to convince him that he needs to see a specialist in addiction medicine who can offer treatment for his alcoholism. He may not take this well so be prepared and try to be understanding as this is a real disease that may have a disastrous outcome if untreated. Good Luck!!! ...Read more

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Sex w/my ex sept 7 and sex w/ my friend sept 15 the doc said on oct 22 that i was 5w4d that puts it at sept 12th. Who's most likely the father?

Sex w/my ex sept 7 and sex w/ my friend sept 15 the doc said on oct 22 that i was 5w4d that puts it at sept 12th. Who's most likely the father?

Likely the Ex: If the data you provided is correct, your ex is more likely to be the father. You can get a dna testing done to ascertain who the father is. ...Read more

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My cycle began on sept.8. On sept.15&16 i had unprotected sex with my ex-boyfriend with a friend on sept. 26th. Who most likely fathered my baby?

My cycle began on sept.8. On sept.15&16 i had unprotected sex with my ex-boyfriend with a friend on sept. 26th. Who most likely fathered my baby?

Depends on cycle...: It can depend on cycle length. For a woman with 28-30 day cycles, bachelor #1 is less likely, and bachelor #2 on the 26th is most likely. Of course, surprises can happen in life. ...Read more

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My husbands friend has a baby with chickenpox . I'm pregnant & my husband recently hung out with his friend but not the baby, can I still catch it?

My husbands friend has a baby with chickenpox . I'm pregnant & my husband recently hung out with his friend but not the baby, can I still catch it?

No risk, no worries: Unless your parents skipped your childhood vaccinations, you probably were immunized against chickenpox and can't catch it again. Even if not, hust hanging out with the father of a child with chickenpox isn't a risk at all. You could only be infected if you personally had close contact with the infected baby. On top of all that, chickenpox isn't dangerous to pregnant women or their babies. ...Read more

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A friend of mine, who we were going camping with for a month, was just diagnosed with mrsa. Being in such close quarters scares me for the fact my husband has chronic stage 4 sarcoidosis. I canceled the trip. Was it dangerous for my husband? He also has

A friend of mine, who we were going camping with for a month, was just diagnosed with mrsa. Being in such close quarters scares me for the fact my husband has chronic stage 4 sarcoidosis.  I canceled the trip. Was it dangerous for my husband? He also has

MRSA Transmission: Mrsa occurs through direct contact with:
someone who has an active infection
someone who is a carrier of the infection (colonized)
a contaminated object.
After a person comes into contact with a contaminated surface or object, he or she may become a carrier of the bacteria (colonized). An active infection with MRSA can develop when a person is colonized and has an open cut. ...Read more

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A friend wants to know if it's possible to get pregnant durin exclusive breastfeeding. baby is 3months. husband released in her by mistake?

A friend wants to know if it's possible to get pregnant durin exclusive breastfeeding. baby is 3months. husband released in her by mistake?

Yes: If pregnant, by the time the second baby is born, the two kids will be a year apart. Many families have two kids 1 year apart. The siblings will play together and do similar activities because their ages are close to one another. Otherwise, a couple should start using a very reliable birth control method, and should check a pregnancy test in 3 weeks to be sure there is no pregnancy. ...Read more

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Got hit by car 3 days ago. Some memory/reasoning problems (ex. forgot friend's last name and put towel on coat rack), but I don't think i hit my head.

Got hit by car 3 days ago. Some memory/reasoning problems (ex. forgot friend's last name and put towel on coat rack), but I don't think i hit my head.

See doc: Something else could be going on. You did not say if you were treated for this or what injuries you had. See or call your doc right away or go back to ER to see if more testing is needed. ...Read more

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Period ended sep 26 had sex sep 28 wit ex then on oct 4 had sex wit friend. Due july 4 who's the father?

Period ended sep 26 had sex sep 28 wit ex then on oct 4 had sex wit friend. Due july 4 who's the father?

Either man: If the period was 5 days, ovulation in a 28 day cycle would likely occur on 10/4, making the friend more likely to be the father. Because the preovulatory period can vary, paternity will be determined after birth. ...Read more

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If i had sex wit old friend january22 is it possible i got pregnant with him if conceiving date is february8 or husband baby?

If i had sex wit old friend january22 is it possible i got pregnant with him if conceiving date is february8 or husband baby?

Unlikely: Sperm generally can live 4-5 days so sex with your "friend" would typically not result ina conception on february 8th. ...Read more

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My husband binge drinks weekends and is emotionally abusive. He has told a friend he wants to kill me on SMS. My kids are terrified. Held me handle.

My husband binge drinks weekends and is emotionally abusive. He has told a friend he wants to kill me on SMS. My kids are terrified. Held me handle.

Find a therapist: Get into counselling yourself & drag him along if you can. You need to learn a skillset to deal with the issues. If you are concerned about the threat, involve the police & don't accept his apologies. At this point you need to provide a safe environment for the kids & that will require sacrifice and work. He may be salvageable but you need to find local help. ...Read more

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My friend had to rush her husband to the er cause of diverculosis that burst and made a hole in his colon, he had surgery, is he going to make it okay?

My friend had to rush her husband to the er cause of diverculosis that burst and made a hole in his colon, he had surgery, is he going to make it okay?

Hard to say: This is a complex question to answer in 400 characters. The ability to survive surgery depends on the underlying health of the patient (any other medical problems?) and complications of the current problem. (Did he have an infection when the diverticulitis perforated?) Some of these can be treated, but the severity of the condition & complications cannot be discerned by text. Best of luck & thanks ...Read more

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Almost a month ago my husbands friend had a suizute in our house. It was the first time that ever happen to him, and while it was happening I was asking him questions and he told me he was depressed. He didn't tell that to his doctor and when they did an

Almost a month ago my husbands friend had a suizute in our house. It was the first time that ever happen to him, and while it was happening I was asking him questions and he told me he was depressed. He didn't tell that to his doctor and when they did an

Didn't' see question: Well, if he was able to answer a complex question like that "during" the seizure, it is unlikely that it was a true seizure. It was in all likelihood a panic episode, / panic attack , which can mimic a seizure. He should go to a psychiatrist for medicine management of his mood and anxiety asap, but go ahead and rule out true seizure activity via a neurology consultation. ...Read more

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July 2014 had unprotected sex with friend while split from husband. Back with husband and now 14w4d pregnant. Husband is the father right?

July 2014 had unprotected sex with friend while split from husband. Back with husband and now 14w4d pregnant. Husband is the father right?

Date of conception: If you are now 14 weeks and 4 days pregnant, then your date of conception was around October 17, 2014. This is a long time after your unprotected sex with your friend. It looks like your husband is the father. ...Read more

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Dose having sex with my wife, my g.Friend cause hiv. V all, me, my wife, my g.Friend n her husband are HIV negative n r not affected with any virus?

Dose having sex with my wife, my g.Friend cause hiv. V all, me, my wife, my g.Friend n her husband are HIV negative n r not affected with any virus?

HIV cannot be caused: Hiv is a virus and cannot be "caused". It has to be passed from one person to another, most often by direct contact between people (such as during sex). If none of the sex partners have hiv, then HIV cannot be "caused" by having sex among those partners. However, how does a person truly know for sure none of the partners have hiv, or one of many other contagious diseases transmissible sexually? ...Read more

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When i give birth can we just put my friends names on their and not mine seeing the baby is for them? My friend is trying to have a baby but can't carry or drop eggs so i told her i can be the one to carry and she can use my egg and her husband's sperm. W

When i give birth can we just put my friends names on their and not mine seeing the baby is for them? My friend is trying to have a baby but can't carry or drop eggs so i told her i can be the one to carry and she can use my egg and her husband's sperm. W

Yes: In 44 states being a gestational carrier is legal and you can have a contract and payment. In the remaining 6 states it is illegal so there can be no contract but the gc can be paid "reasonable" expenses. Most states do a pre-birth order rather than an adoption. It is easier and the genetic parents sign the birth certificate. Hope this helps and what a wonderful thing you are doing. ...Read more

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Friend's husband went to china on business trip and got diarrhea for two weeks. Now she has it for over a week. Is this a virus or could he have brought a bacteria home? Is a bacteria even contagious?

Friend's husband went to china on business trip and got diarrhea for two weeks. Now she has it for over a week. Is this a virus or could he have brought a bacteria home? Is a bacteria even contagious?

Could be either: If the husband is now better , then she should be better eventually too. Simple diarrhea can clear up on its own but some causes, are by bacteria that may need an antibiotic to clear up. Generally if it lasts more than a week or if you noticed blood in the diarrhea or feel really ill you should see a doctor. ...Read more