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Is it ok to let my baby cry herself to sleep?

Is it ok to let my baby cry herself to sleep?

Yes: Children need to learn how to sooth themselves and the younger the better. If you know she does not need to be fed or changed, is not sick or in pain, then let her cry for a short period of time, i.e. 5 minutes. You can then check on her, even pick her up, but put her back in the crib awake, and leave for 10 minutes. Gradually increase the time periods, and you will be amazed how well she'll do. ...Read more

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When is it ok to let my baby sleep alone?

When is it ok to let my baby sleep alone?

0 months: Babies are not born knowing how to sleep but learn based on their environmental habits after birth. As long as baby is in a safe sleeping environment (placed on back, hard mattress, approved crib/bassinet, no crib bumper, etc), baby can sleep alone. Mothers and babies who co-sleep sleep less deeply. ...Read more

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Is it bad to let my baby cry if he wont stop crying?

Is it bad to let my baby cry if he wont stop crying?

Yes but depends: If you are at the "end of your rope" feeling, absolutely put your baby in a safe place (crib) and walk away, decompress, call for backup from others if available. Check for reasons: hungry, needs to burp, too hot (too many clothes), has a documented fever, diaper change, threads or hair caught on fingers, toes, penis (completely strip baby down to check), signs of illness - call the doctor. ...Read more

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How do I wean my baby from her pacifier? She likes to sleep with it.

How do I wean my baby from her pacifier?  She likes to sleep with it.

Stop it: Stop using it and allow her to get used to it. It requires patience, love and understanding. Do not get irritated or angry. ...Read more

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How can I get my baby to sleep without swaddling him? Is it bad to keep swaddling him?

How can I get my baby to sleep without swaddling him?  Is it bad to keep swaddling him?

Depends: Infant swaddling is a transitional measure that replicates the snug feeling of the womb & calms baby when they can't handle the random movement of arms & legs. That said, they didn't need to breath in the womb and without room for arms & legs to move they don't develop muscle tone.To tight is a problem for both. The goal is to gradually loosen the wrap & have it gone at a month. ...Read more

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My baby always cries before she goes to bed. What causes her to scream and cry herself to sleep?

My baby always cries before she goes to bed. What causes her to scream and cry herself to sleep?

Age dependent: It depends on the age of the baby. Small babies can have reflux after they eat if put to bed directly after feeding. Also some babies cry a lot and this is called colic and goes away over time. If she is older then she could have separation anxiety from being away from you which scares here and finally this could be behavioral and she wants to stay up and be with the family ...Read more

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If u have made sure that nothing is wrong with my baby. Is it ok to let him cry himself to sleep. He is 3 weeks old. ?

If u have made sure that nothing is wrong with my baby. Is it ok to let him cry himself to sleep. He is 3 weeks old. ?

Baby: Hi, if you have the heart to do so be my guest, but when a baby cries there is usually something wrong, either the baby is hungry, or wet, or has an abdominal colic, maybe rocking the baby on ur lap, putting the baby on top of a working washing machine could help. ...Read more

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My 13 month old son will not go to sleep in his crib. He screams and makes himself so upset that he vomits. Is it okay to let him cry or no?

My 13 month old son will not go to sleep in his crib. He screams and makes himself so upset that he vomits. Is it okay to let him cry or no?

Separation anxiety: Kids will go thru a stage where separation is difficult. After 6-9mo they realize how well u provide for their needs, yet their brain doesn't understand u can leave and return, by 18-24mo most begin to understand.You can soften your night ritual by reading to baby from a few ft away, then say nitenite and leave. Its ok if he screams(a bunch). You can return & check but avoid picking him up. ...Read more

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What age should I let my newborn let me know when shes ready to eat I sometimes have to wake her to feed her other wise she'll sleep. Im breastfeeding?

Now! : Feed her every three hours during the day, let her fall asleep on her own.Get her into the habit so it is not something new that she has to do in case she wakes up in the middle of the night.Goal-for you & your baby to sleep thru the night at least 8 hours & no night feedings!you will enjoy your baby much better, always happy & work faster.If you want a life, do it. My moms are very happy! ...Read more

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At what age is it ok to let your baby cry himself to sleep, so he'll quit waking up at night?

At what age is it ok to let your baby cry himself to sleep, so he'll quit waking up at night?

Sleep hygeine: Dr.Ferber says 6 months in his book, "how to solve your child's sleep problems." which has been in print since the mid 1980"s. Certainly, beyond 9 months there is no physiologic need for babies to be fed in the deep night/morning hours. The longer one does this, it reinforces the habitual awakening and the ever more deeply entrenched"habit waking".Hard advice for many to follow. ...Read more

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My 4mth baby has a cold and just wants to sleep when she's awake she screaming. Should I take her to the doctors to get checked out?

My 4mth baby has a cold and just wants to sleep when she's awake she screaming. Should I take her to the doctors to get checked out?

Yes: Any abnormal symptoms in an infant need to be addressed immediately...especially fever! I recommend taking the baby in to see their provider. ...Read more

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Is 3 months to young to let the baby cry it out when trying to get him/her to sleep in the crib. If so then what month is good?

Is 3 months to young to let the baby cry it out when trying to get him/her to sleep in the crib. If so then what month is good?

Crying : Good question. One in which millions of mothers have asked. There is no right answer. Baby crying is common sense. They are hungry, dirty diaper, gassy, needing affection, etc..... Each is different. As long as they are healthy, been checked by their pcp, then you'll have to wait it out. The baby will let you know when they are ready to sleep in crib without crying. ...Read more

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Will I hurt my baby if I let him cry himself to sleep?

Will I hurt my baby if I let him cry himself to sleep?

No: I agree that you should wait until the baby is between 4-6 months of age. You may know it is time to start when you baby starts to wake up more frequently at night and is not hungry. I usually recommend that you revise the bedtime routine at this point so that feeding prior to stories, etc. If the baby is breastfed it may go better if the dad (or non nursing partner) puts the baby down. ...Read more

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Is it ok for me to let our baby sleep on the couch?

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Is it ok for me to let our baby sleep on the couch?

No: It is never safe to let your baby sleep unattended on the couch. The baby may roll off unexpectedly, and the couch is usually soft which is a risk factor for sids (if baby turns prone). In addition, baby should never sleep on the couch with an adult, because this has been shown to be a significant risk factor for sids. The couch, while comfortable for an adult nap, is not a safe place for baby. ...Read more

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My toddler does everything she can to resist sleep.

My toddler does everything she can to resist sleep.

Be patient but firm: Toddlers want independence when it suits them but demand you remain close & nurturing.This extends to bedtime when previously good sleepers may become anxious about separation.I encourage a calming night ritual followed by tucking the child in.Require that the child remain in his/her room until morning.Reward him/her with an open door if so, closed if not & return every time if venturing out. ...Read more

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What is the longest to let a 6.5 week old baby cry. I am struggling to get her to go down for sleep. And want her to learn to self soothe.?

What is the longest to let a 6.5 week old baby cry.  I am struggling to get her to go down for sleep.  And want her to learn to self soothe.?

10-15 minutes: I am old school. For the first 4 months, don't let her cry for more than 10-15 minutes. After 4 months they have established eating and often sleep patterns and start solids. Then it is ok to let them cry a little longer to learn to self- soothe. The first few months, responding to their needs fosters positive things like feeling safe, confident, cared for. Listen to your instincts too! ...Read more

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Why is it hard for my 22 mos daughter to start to sleep by herself? Always so excited b4 sleep although already sleepy and told me she want to sleep?

Why is it hard for my 22 mos daughter to start to sleep by herself? Always so excited b4 sleep although already sleepy and told me she want to sleep?

Routine: Help her by having a routine - same time each night, quieting the house, limiting exposure to TV and electronics, possibly a bath and a bedtime story. Set up the expectation that sleep is what happens at that time. Make that your normal. And prepare for her to test the limits. Good luck. ...Read more

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Is it ok to let my baby cry herself to sleep?

Yes: Children need to learn how to sooth themselves and the younger the better. If you know she does not need to be fed or changed, is not sick or in pain, then let her cry for a short period of time, i.e. 5 minutes. You can then check on her, even pick her up, but put her back in the crib awake, and leave for 10 minutes. Gradually increase the time periods, and you will be amazed how well she'll do. ...Read more

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Why some babies at age 12 months don't sleep good and wake up crying every 20 -30 minutes during the night , what problem can they have?

Why some babies at age 12 months don't sleep good and wake up crying  every 20 -30 minutes during the night , what problem can they have?

Many things: It could be a number of things. Teething, gas, environmental causes, or more serious things like intussusception. The baby should be checked to make sure his/her physical exam is normal. ...Read more

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Why do babies make weird noises and cry while asleep?

Why do babies make weird noises and cry while asleep?

Dreams.: They act out what is happening in their dreams, more frequently than this (sleep-talking) happens in adults. ...Read more

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What do babies dream of that makes them cry while asleep?

What do babies dream of that makes them cry while asleep?

Unknown: Since there is no way to research this area (babies don't converse or describe events) there is no way to know. Age regression hypnosis has been able to tap that information as far back as 2 yo, when kids worry more about abandonment or getting lost than anything. Younger kids ? No one knows. ...Read more

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Are night wakings in infants other than those for feedings common and should the infant be helped to fall back asleep or left to 'cry it out'?

Pediatrician: Touch base with your pediatrician. It's common, and reasons could include teething, increased need for food, etc. But if your baby was sleeping well, then maybe something else is going on. ...Read more

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I have been advised to let my baby cry herself to sleep. I took the advice and now, she has a coarse voice from crying. Is that really advisable?

I have been advised to let my baby cry herself to sleep. I took the advice and now, she has a coarse voice from crying. Is that really advisable?

A real problem: Trouble is that your anxiety is being perceived by the baby. She needs reassurance by your loving activity around her. Try to show that her environment is safe and if she is old enough to understand, try telling her that "mommy needs her sleep too". It is love that wins the day. Your anxiety must be extinguished----not easy to do but is the "art of motherhood". ...Read more

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At what age is it ok to let your baby cry himself to sleep, so he'll quit waking up at night?

Sleep hygeine: Dr.Ferber says 6 months in his book, "how to solve your child's sleep problems." which has been in print since the mid 1980"s. Certainly, beyond 9 months there is no physiologic need for babies to be fed in the deep night/morning hours. The longer one does this, it reinforces the habitual awakening and the ever more deeply entrenched"habit waking".Hard advice for many to follow. ...Read more

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If u have made sure that nothing is wrong with my baby. Is it ok to let him cry himself to sleep. He is 3 weeks old. ?

Baby: Hi, if you have the heart to do so be my guest, but when a baby cries there is usually something wrong, either the baby is hungry, or wet, or has an abdominal colic, maybe rocking the baby on ur lap, putting the baby on top of a working washing machine could help. ...Read more

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I can't let my baby cry her self to sleep coz she cries so hard she can hardly breath, what shall I do in such a case, shall i still leave her cry hard?

See her pediatrician: Take along a video of an episode. If she has no congenital heart or lung disease, have a set bedtime & routine: read, rock, wipe out her mouth after her last feed, then put her on her back in her crib in her own room, drowsy, but awake to learn to self-calm for sleep. Doing this between 1-4 mos. Helps her consolidate sleep & avoids " trained night crying" at 6 months & older. ...Read more

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My baby always cries before she goes to bed. What causes her to scream and cry herself to sleep?

Age dependent: It depends on the age of the baby. Small babies can have reflux after they eat if put to bed directly after feeding. Also some babies cry a lot and this is called colic and goes away over time. If she is older then she could have separation anxiety from being away from you which scares here and finally this could be behavioral and she wants to stay up and be with the family ...Read more

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My baby 11 weeks wakes up at night to eat only 3oz should I cut out night feedings? Let her cry it out? She does not sleep through the night help!

My baby 11 weeks wakes up at night to eat only 3oz should I cut out night feedings? Let her cry it out? She does not sleep through the night help!

Feed her: It is normal for 11 week old infants to not sleep through the night and to need to eat. They have small stomachs and need feedings every 4-6 hours. Exhausting as it is, it will get better. ...Read more

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Why can a baby be crying at night only before sleeping?

Why can a baby be crying at night only before sleeping?

Babies who are put : In their own cribs drowsy, but awake, from birth learn to self-calm to fall asleep between 1-4 months & to fall back asleep if they night wake. Establish a consistent bedtime & routine, including reading & cleaning the gums or teeth. At/after 5-6 months it's harder for them to settle, but they do after a few nights of fussing, if parents consistently allow them to learn to self-calm. ...Read more

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There are days when my 1month old baby won't sleep more than an hour, then she will cry then sleep then cry, is that normal?

There are days when my 1month old baby won't sleep more than an hour, then she will cry then sleep then cry, is that normal?

Sleep irregularity: Infants basically are only aware of the awake mode.They will not understand or appreciate sleep until later. They will get sleep as their body demands it but it is up to their caretakers to help them get into a productive sleep routine.Limiting day naps to 2hrs & feeding as they awaken helps set a schedule.Comforting settings, no rocking, soft light, all help babies go down. ...Read more

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Why is my baby crying in his sleep?

Why is my baby crying in his sleep?

Discomfort/Fear: We all cry for similar reasons: fear, discomfort, and hunger. If you know your baby's tummy is full, the most common reasons are teeth or bad dreams (depending on their age). What can you do about bad dreams? Not much. But, teething can be helped with some Ibuprofen before bedtime. I also would check your baby's diaper, clothes, and bed to make sure that there is nothing causing them discomfort. ...Read more

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Is 3 months to young to let the baby cry it out when trying to get him/her to sleep in the crib. If so then what month is good?

Crying : Good question. One in which millions of mothers have asked. There is no right answer. Baby crying is common sense. They are hungry, dirty diaper, gassy, needing affection, etc..... Each is different. As long as they are healthy, been checked by their pcp, then you'll have to wait it out. The baby will let you know when they are ready to sleep in crib without crying. ...Read more

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10 mnth baby keeps wakin up at night&crying coz she wants me around her!how can I teach her to sleep by her self?Wn shes beside me, she sleeps all nite

10 mnth baby keeps wakin up at night&crying coz she wants me around her!how can I teach her to sleep by her self?Wn shes beside me, she sleeps all nite

Being a parent: You may gave list this very common battle. It is your job to teach your child. She cannot sleep with you forever. That means you cannot ever give in and move her now. You have got to let her be mad at you. Or to let her cry. She must stay in her bed. You are the parent here. ...Read more

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Why does my baby cry in her sleep?

Why does my baby cry in her sleep?

Cry in sleep: Infants go through different stages of sleep at night just as adults do, just different amounts of time in different stages. In certain stages of sleep, people often make noise - talking, grunting, etc. A baby's communication is crying - so it is there way of talking in their sleeep. The trick is not to respond right away - if you touch/jostle etc they may wake up. Let alone to keep sleeping! ...Read more

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My 1 year old baby is crying in sleep like he is in pain?

My 1 year old baby is crying in sleep like he is in pain?

See doctor: See the doctor and see if there is a reason for the crying, like an ear infection or sore throat. If not, then it could be dreaming. I think you should have the possibility of an infection ruled out first. ...Read more

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Are there other ways besides "cry-it-out" to sleep train my baby?

Are there other ways besides "cry-it-out" to sleep train my baby?

Sleep consolidation : through self-regulation occurs between 1-4 mos. If you have consistent bedtime & routine ( rocking, reading, feeding, wiping out baby's mouth with a soft cloth after the last feed) & baby is put in his own bed in his own room, drowsy, but awake to self-calm for sleep, you'll avoid " developmental night-crying" at 6 mos. when habits (learned behaviors) begin. You can't do it for them. ...Read more

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Crying (Definition)

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