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I am potty training my 3 year old who has a strong personality.The only method that has worked is by having her naked. She still bed wets. Any advice?

I am potty training my 3 year old who has a strong personality.The only method that has worked is by having her naked. She still bed wets. Any advice?

Put her clothes on: If you have done rehearsal & she knows where the stuff is the best thing you can do is become her assistant, not her drill sergeant. A strong willed child must first understand when she gets the feeling she needs to go, & feel happy she is responding to that need.Telling her no more than twice a day that you will help is crucial. You can provide incentives for doing big girl things but relax. ...Read more

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I've begun potty training my 3 year old daughter, but she fearful & is holding it for a long time (one day for 18 hours). What can I do to help her?

Several things: First, the ability to be toilet trained depends on neurological maturation. Second, toilet training is a skill that is easily shaped through positive reinforcement. Failures should be ignored and successes praised. Putting too much emphasis on the toilet training and failures can increase the child's resistance. Most children learn this skill easily if done in a relaxed manner. ...Read more

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How do I explain to my 3 year old when he asks me why is my penis big? I started potty training and he is asking so many questions

How do I explain to my 3 year old when he asks me why is my penis big? I started potty training and he is asking so many questions

Short simple answers: A 3 yo is curious and their questions can be difficult when you let the issue of genitals/sex cloud the picture. At that age short simple answers are the best. Don't launch into lengthy discussions. "that's how it is"is honest & developmentally appropriate.Expect the same ? Seveal times (they don't take notes).After he gets to 7-8 the questions can be answered in more depth. ...Read more

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I have a two year old boy im potty training him but he freaks out he doesn't want to take off the diaper?

I have a two year old boy im potty training him but he freaks out he doesn't want to take off the diaper?

Too early?: Parents are highly motivated to toilet train their children ( less mess, less expense). Unfortunately, toddlers frequently are not ready as soon as the parents would like. Boys in particular are later to be ready for this training. I do not think that your son is ready for toilet training developmentally, and would recommend waiting until he is older. ...Read more

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Been potty training my daughter since she was two years old, She's now four &will sit on the potty, do nothing,Is she being stubborn or something else?

Been potty training my daughter since she was two years old, She's now four &will sit on the potty, do nothing,Is she being stubborn or something else?

Adaptive/Self-Help: Delays require medical, neurological & developmental assessment. Medical causes may require referral to a specialist. Behavioral causes from parents' accidentally having reinforced toileting refusal may require referral to a child psychologist & a pediatric GI to manage stool-withholding & constipation wth techniques like those in comments, if health is fine & development is otherwise typical. ...Read more

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Mt daughter is 4 years old. Been potty training since 2 yes old, could it be psychological, please Help, she'll be attending school next month?

Mt daughter is 4 years old. Been potty training since 2 yes old, could it be psychological, please Help, she'll be attending school next month?

Potty trained 4YO: If she is doing generally well and just occasional accidents, that is very different than if she is still struggling. Please talk to your pediatrician, but also see an experienced Child Psychologist(someone who did a Fellowship in Child Psychology). Sometimes children are experiencing stress that a parent may not know about, or recognize is relevant. Don't give up though! ...Read more

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Whats the normal age to start potty training my son? He's 19months old now and i feel like he should be potty trained?

Whats the normal age to start potty training my son? He's 19months old now and i feel like he should be potty trained?

Around 2: Most kids train around their second birthday. However, with any developmental milestone, age varies from child to child. You should not "expect" him to be trained by now, nor can he sing the national anthem yet. But he may be showing signs of interest, and then it's ok to start working with him. Many toddlers show some initial interest and then back away. Be patient and work with them, not against. ...Read more

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My 4 year old knows her letters, shapes, colors & numbers. But its a struggle potty training her, is she autistic?

My 4 year old knows her letters, shapes, colors & numbers. But its a struggle potty training her, is she autistic?

Autistic Spectrum : Disorder = qualitative impairments in social communication & reciprocal social interaction + stereotyped movements &/or narrow, repetitive areas of interest. The Sally-Ann test of false belief screens for ASD at 4; firstsigns.org. has more screens.Call your school district's Child Find Team to test her development & for ASD. If her self-help/adaptive delay is isolated, it's probably behavioral. ...Read more

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3.9 year old with autism seems ready for potty training but won't sit on potty long enough. Is the iPotty (potty with iPad stand) a good idea for him?

Do you really want : to pair those behaviors? Once you do, transition to a regular toilet is going to be tough! Use his developmental, not chronological, age, for readiness: Can he stay dry for 2 hrs., walk from room to room, recognize the urge to go, use a word to say so (e.g., potty) & pull his pants up & down? If so, use a Little Looster stool & read " Steps to Independence" by Baker, ~$30 on Amazon.com. ...Read more

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Can focalin (dexmethylphenidate) cause a 5 year old to stop potty training?

No: If you are having problems with daytime accidents at age 5, you should discuss with your md if evaluation by pediatic psychologist is warranted. ...Read more

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Can focalin (dexmethylphenidate) cause a 5 year old to revert back and forget potty training?

Possibly: Any stress can cause a regression, many medications have side effects and a more detailed discussion would be important to determine if the regression is related to the med or possibly something else. At 5 there might be a number of things that might cause a regression in potty training. Need to rule out a uriunary tract infection. See your pediatrician or Focalin (dexmethylphenidate) prescriber. ...Read more

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Is it normal for a 4 year old not ready for potty training ? He can talk and is developmently normal. He can even read. It doesn't make sense .

Reading at age 4 is : not developmentally typical. Hyperlexia, reading decoding above age & grade level, sometimes occurs in kids with non-verbal learning disabilities, oddly enough, or Autistic Spectrum Disorder without cognitive impairment. Combined with a delay in self-help skills, it warrants evaluation by a developmental/ behavioral pediatrician & a child neuropsychologist for accurate diagnosis & treatment. ...Read more

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Is 18 months to 2 years too early for potty training, or can we start now?

When Ready: Many people have many indicators for readiness. The best sign I have seen is when the child wants changed every time they are wet, they generally can be trained in 2 wks. Although there is no real research, this seems to work. ...Read more

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Potty training 3yo boy will not poop. Will hold it for 24+hrs. Suggestions?

Potty training 3yo boy will not poop. Will hold it for 24+hrs. Suggestions?

Let him decide: Only 75% of kids are neurologically ready to be potty trained at 3. If he's ready and you offer an incentive, assistance as needed and let him decide when to go, you just might get there without so many tears. ...Read more

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What is a good age to start potty training?

22-30 months old: The answer really is, "when your child is ready"... But for a more concrete response, the typical age is between 22 and 30 months. A good reference for further reading on toilet training your child can be found at: http://www.Webmd.Com/parenting/tc/toilet-training-topic-overview. ...Read more

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My 5yr old is finally potty training & don't know if she goes and she says she can't feel herself go she has always been like this what could cause this?

My 5yr old is finally potty training & don't know if she goes and she says she can't feel herself go she has always been like this what could cause this?

Caudal regression: syndrome, in which parts of the lower half of the body do not develop properly, is rare, but less rare in infants of diabetic mothers. If the lower spine & sacrum (pelvic bone) are malformed or the sacrum is absent, problems controlling bowel and bladder can occur. Ask her pediatrician to look for physical findings, then (s)he'll order X-rays or MRI & make appropriate referrals, if CRS is present. ...Read more

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What age is good fot potty training?

What age is good fot potty training?

Depends on the child: Most kids get interested in the potty around 18 mo. & train by 2 yrs. If their parents start taking them along every time the parents use the toilet. Put the kiddy potty on the bathroom floor so that your child can sit on it while you use the regular one. Start your child with clothes on;after a few days, go to just diaper, then, when your child's ready, to bare-bottom. Lots of praise & rewards help! ...Read more

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