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Dr. Sheila Smith
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Inappropriate Guilt (Overview)

this happens when you do something appropriate and are made to feel otherwise, like being assertive and speaking up for yourself and then being accused of being insolent, brash or disrespectful. There are bigger version of this, like survivor's guilt. Catholics are good at instilling guilt, like when using birth control. Atheists would say this is inappropriate. This can be a value issue.


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Why do depressed people feel inappropriate guilt?

Guilt: There is no one easy answer to this question. I can only best describe it as being many feelings of unfinished business that can be explored safely and in depth in psychotherapy. ...Read more

Dr. Sheila Smith
8 doctors shared insights

Inappropriate Guilt (Overview)

this happens when you do something appropriate and are made to feel otherwise, like being assertive and speaking up for yourself and then being accused of being insolent, brash or disrespectful. There are bigger version of this, like survivor's guilt. Catholics are good at instilling guilt, like when using birth control. Atheists would say this is inappropriate. This can be a value issue.


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Can you tell me how do I get rid of the guilt of eating too much?

Can you tell me how do I get rid of the guilt of eating too much?

You may need to: improve your relationship with food and with your body. If this is a chronic issue - consider over eaters anonymous. ...Read more

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What is the definition or description of: Inappropriate guilt?

In my experience: this happens when you do something appropriate and are made to feel otherwise, like being assertive and speaking up for yourself and then being accused of being insolent, brash or disrespectful. There are bigger version of this, like survivor's guilt. Catholics are good at instilling guilt, like when using birth control. Atheists would say this is inappropriate. This can be a value issue. ...Read more

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Why do depressed people feel inappropriate guilt?

Guilt: There is no one easy answer to this question. I can only best describe it as being many feelings of unfinished business that can be explored safely and in depth in psychotherapy. ...Read more

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Why do depressed people have inappropriate guilt feeling?

Unrealistic guilt: Thought processes can become distorted with depression. A person may view themselves & their actions negatively & unrealistically. They may feel responsible when bad things happen that don't even fall under their purview. They may be quick to blame themselves & even minor transgressions can become a major focus for them. ...Read more

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What causes feelings of shame and guilt?

Guilt and Shame: A certain amount of guilt means we have a conscious, when it is excessive we have developed a punitive attitude toward ourselves that is excessive and unwarranted. This is learned behavior and any learned behavior can be unlearned. Shame is often the result of being humiliated too early in life and then you can be easily shamed and embarrassed for just being human. Best. ...Read more

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How to deal with guilt and regretful thoughts?

Guilt: It is important to uncover the origin of your guilt and also obtain help understanding whether or not your behavior actually merits feelings of guilt. Repetitive feelings of guilt are often caused by being raised in an environment where people held you responsible for situations that may have been out of your control. Best. ...Read more

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What is the definition or description of: Guilt?

Fritz Perls used: to say Guilt is any way I can control you and make you feel anxious doing it. Its an atypical anxiety state that you feel when you are accused of doing something you should not have done, or you didn't do something you should have. The underlying feeling you have is resentment, but that remains unexpressed as you conform to other's expectations. ...Read more

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How come I feel overwhelming amounts of guilt after skipping work?

How come I feel overwhelming amounts of guilt after skipping work?

Overwhelming guilt?: This is one that you would have to answer yourself, after some reflection. The rest of us here may have theories based on our own projections, but you're the one living your life. To learn together about you, i'd invite you to talk about your feelings until you get to the heart of things. You really can, you know, if someone is truly listening and hearing you. A therapist could be that for you. ...Read more

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How do I get over the guilt about over eating?

See below.: Look at what triggers your over-eating. Sometimes we eat when we're stressed. Get yourself into a counseling to help you deal with overeating and help build up awareness of triggers. If you do over eat or eat the food you were not supposed to eat, learn from the experience, and move on to work on your issues. Good luck! ...Read more

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Feelings of guilt after drinking, is this normal?

Guilt: Most people who drink reasonably do not feel guilty when they drink, it is more consistent with people who drink too much. Attending an aa meeting can give you an accurate, helpful assessment of your drinking. Attend a meeting in your area and ask for help. Best. ...Read more

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Can the guilt of having an abortion ever go away?

Can the guilt of having an abortion ever go away?

Maybe help can help: That is a very powerful and complex concern. For all women, it is a very important and difficult event. For some it has more meanings than for others. Most can benefit from support given by people who understand what is most important to you. This can be from friends, lovers, family or mentors - but there are caring professionals too. There are gentle clergy as well as therapists. Forgiving's good. ...Read more

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What is the cause of my constant guilt/anxiety issues?

What is the cause of my constant guilt/anxiety issues?

Talking helps: The causes of,guilt and anxiety very for each person. Talking with someone is the best way to,figure,out what is causing these issues. Once you can understand how,your feelings develop, you can begin to change how you process information. This is not an easy task but it does,work! Good luck. ...Read more

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What is the cause of my constant guilt/anxiety issues?

What is the cause of my constant guilt/anxiety issues?

Look Inward 4 Answer: If I were u, I'd want 2understand this, too! I've never heard of anyone saying, "I'm so glad I've spent my life feeling anxious & guilty!" An anx expert, like a clinical psychologist, could really help u explore this -esp help u identify how your anxiety & feeling like a bad person are helping u & others, or whether they reflect "brain noise." E.g., feeling constant guilt is assoc w/ OCD. ...Read more

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What can distract me from the guilt about eating anymore?

Guilt: Your guilt needs to be understood so you can work through the causes and gain perspective as to the reality of your guilt. Consult a mental health professional who can help you lessen guilt and develop a more understanding toward yourself. Best. ...Read more

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Guilt ridden and thinking of killing myself. What can I do?

Depression: Go to your nearest er as soon as possible, give yourself the chance for a better life, your perspective is likely skewed by your depression, best. ...Read more

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What is the definition or description of: Guilt about eating?

Guilt about eating: As an example, patients who binge on food often feel horribly guilty about what they have done, so they purge as a way of reliving their guilt. ...Read more

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What can I do?, extreme guilt about eating. Don't know what to do?

Feeling guilty: About nourishing yourself - that is a bind. Please consider psychotherapy / cognitive behavioral therapy. You deserve to feel better. ...Read more

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I have severe guilt when i eat, don't know what to do. Please help?

Guilt: Your guilt regarding food needs to be understood as it appears you have conditioned yourself to be extremely critical of your self and your relationship to food. Ask for a referral to an eating disorder specialist who can help you develop a more balanced attitude toward food and toward yourself. Best. ...Read more

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What to do about extreme guilt about eating. Don't know what to do?

What to do about extreme guilt about eating. Don't know what to do?

"Normal guilt": Includes those times when we know we are making choices that vary from our value system. "neurotic guilt" is excessive and we feel guilty over too many things. Please reflect or speak w/a friend to determine your situation and see a mental health professional if the latter. Peace and good health. Your situation is more common than you may think. Live in the now as best you can. Wayne Dwyer. ...Read more

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I am feeling intense guilt/shame after mothers death. Is this normal?

Shame: Shame is caused by many things and is experienced very differently by different people. Sometimes people have done things they probably should feel shame about, while many others have not; they only think they should feel ashamed because an authority figure has told them to. Everyone feels shame; it's the rule and not the exception. Find a reputable psychotherapist to speak with in a safe place. ...Read more

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What over-the-counter drug can help reduce my guilt and help me eat more?

What over-the-counter drug can help reduce my guilt and help me eat more?

Not a drug: No drug will prevent feeling guilty for eating. This symptom could mean you have an eating disorder, which requires serious treatment with psychotherapy. Some medications can help accompanying features like depression and anxiety, if needed. But the focus of treatment is in talk and behavioral therapy. Please see a therapist or psychiatrist for an evaluation of your needs. ...Read more

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Stepkids want nothing to do with me. So how can I get over my shame and guilt?

Stepkids want nothing to do with me. So how can I get over my shame and guilt?

Step Children: Making a relationship with step children can be difficult, try not to blame yourself as they may act the same way with anyone in your position. If possible consult with a family therapist and see if you can all attend sessions in the future. Also discuss with your partner the reality of your guilt as you may be carrying over some issues from the past. Best. ...Read more

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I feel like my kids lives are ruined by my divorce, how do I deal with the guilt?

I feel like my kids lives are ruined by my divorce, how do I deal with the guilt?

Have you considered: Therapy? This would be something you could do for yourself that may make a real positive difference. Take care. ...Read more

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How can I process guilt over the fact that my mental health is ruining my marriage?

How can I process guilt over the fact that my mental health is ruining my marriage?

Seek help: The guilt is there as you describe, but also may be a direct symptom of your mental health problem leading to a vicious cycle. Talk to you doctor, see a psychiatrist, try counseling as well, some therapies such as cbt work to change your thinking patterns. Certain meditative techniques can also be effective. Take action and dont process alone, . ...Read more

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Can some one feel guilt for something they did not do and cause them to fail a polygraph?

Validity issue: Possibly. The problem is the accuracy of a polygraph ranges from 30-95% - depending on the study and the type of question asked. Questions should focus on a particular behavior and not thoughts or intentions. ...Read more

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Can you tell me how i can get over guilt feelings because of the mistakes i did in the past?

Psychotherapy: I would say find a reputable psychotherapist to discuss what guilt means to you. We have all done things we could kick ourselves for, and psychotherapy is a safe place to explore those feelings without fear of judgement. ...Read more

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Can you tell me how to handle the range my emotions, namely guilt from an unprovoked assault?

Can you tell me how to handle the range my emotions, namely guilt from an unprovoked assault?

Shame/guilt: Shame/guilt is just about the darkest emotion people can face. It presupposes that there's an audience to our alleged wrongdoings, and that devastating judgement will be passed. Something to remember is that everyone has something they feel ashamed about; it's inescapable. Find a reputable psychotherapist to speak with. Getting it off one's chest in a safe, nonjudgmental place is the first step. ...Read more

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Recently i experience anxiety and guilt when i think about leaving my house. Why could this be?

Not sure.: Agoraphobia? Sometimes people who are depressed feel unrealistic guilt. Rather than trying to guess at this - consider seeing a therapist or counselor who can help you past it. Take care. ...Read more

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I have trouble forgiving myself when i haven't really done anything wrong. How can I get over my guilt?

Guilt: Guilt can be a learned reaction to being overly responsible for situations out of your control. Seek help with a mental health professional who can help you develop a more balanced view of yoruself and your responsibilities. Best. ...Read more

Dr. Selby Jacobs
215 doctors shared insights

Guilt (Definition)

to say Guilt is any way I can control you and make you feel anxious doing it. Its an atypical anxiety state that you feel when you are accused of doing something you should not have done, or you didn't do something you should have. The underlying feeling you have is resentment, but that remains unexpressed as you ...Read more