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I realized I am an enabler. How do I learn to say no to my addicted loved one?

I realized I am an enabler.  How do I learn to say no to my addicted loved one?

Good for realizing.: You know you have the behavior but can't stop, sound similiar to some people with addictions huh? And they usually need help, well no exception for you, you likely need help and support to stop this enabling behavior. Recommend trying alanon and/or seeking professional help with a counselor that can help you in setting healthy boundries. The addicted may or may not change, but you'll be more sane. ...Read more

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Am I wrong to enable my boyfriends gambling addiction so I can have alone time?

Am I wrong to enable my boyfriends gambling addiction so I can have alone time?

Gambling: It will be harder to slow his gambling when you do want to spend time with him. Enabling an addict seldom has any positives ...Read more

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How do I tell my husband that I am a heroin addict? I don't even know where to start and i'm terrified of his response.

How do I tell my husband that I am a heroin addict? I don't even know where to start and i'm terrified of his response.

Detox and Rehab: My first guess would be that this should be done with a drug counselor or someone who is there to help you detox. Please do not let this fear keep you from getting the help you need. Addiction is a disease and your disease will lead you to death. There is help. There is a way out. And, it starts with surrender and honesty. ...Read more

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Okay so I am addicted to laxative and i was told to speak to a counselor but i don't feel comfortable doing that and i can not talk to my parents.Help?

Okay so I am addicted to laxative and i was told to speak to a counselor but i don't feel comfortable doing that and i can not talk to my parents.Help?

You need counselling: Talk to your primary physcian . Some primary care physcians may be very vast in dealing with such problems. Good relationship with. Your. May help in your counselling. Congratulations for identifying the problem and your willingness to seek help to change. Your half way from freedom from the abuse of laxatives. Good luck. ...Read more

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Been purging off/on since 2011. In therapy for a year. I know how bad it is for me. Why don't i want to stop? How do I make myself want to stop?

Been purging off/on since 2011. In therapy for a year. I know how bad it is for me. Why don't i want to stop? How do I make myself want to stop?

See a doctor: You may have symptoms of bulimia. Do you have binging episodes as well? You should see a psychiatrist if a thorough medical workup has revealed no other causes. It would be good to speak to a mental health specialist to discuss your past history, treatment response, family history and any experiences that may be causing you distress. They can help you work through issues of concern. ...Read more

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How do I get over my bulimia? I've had it for years..And my friends are worried! i don't know how to tell my mom so i decided to stop before she finds out.. How do I do it?

How do I get over my bulimia? I've had it for years..And my friends are worried! i don't know how to tell my mom so i decided to stop before she finds out.. How do I do it?

Since recovery from: An addiction requires scrupulous honesty - encourage you to tell your mother about your disorder. This way she can be part of your support system rather than one more person that you hide things from. Are you working with a psychiatrist or psychologist? Have you had a complete medical evaluation? If you are going to do this - do it right. ...Read more

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I told my parents about my self harm and suicidal thoughts (and attempts) but they don't think I need help (I think I do). What am I supposed to do?

I told my parents about my self harm and suicidal thoughts (and attempts) but they don't think I need help (I think I do). What am I supposed to do?

Glad to hear that: you talked to your folks. Please talk w/your guidance counselor at school, an aunt or uncle, anyone who will listen and help your folks to understand that you need a professional evaluation. Sometimes it hard for those closest to us to understand what is really happening. It doesn't mean they don't care. Peace and good health. You can also make your own apt w/you doctor. ...Read more

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Yesterday someone i love cheated on me and now i want to binge, how to fix this urge?

Yesterday someone i love cheated on me and now i want to binge, how to fix this urge?

Binge on what?: Alcohol or food? If you have had a problem with binge eating in the past, encourage you to explore a 12 step group like overeaters anonymous. This allows you to looks at things that trigger your eating. ...Read more

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I got an Biorinil addiction and I just learned what "addiction" means in real life! I just want to stop, please help! :( ?

I got an Biorinil addiction and I just learned what "addiction" means in real life! I just want to stop, please help! :( ?

See ENT/allergy doc: Medications like biorinil contain stimulant/decongestant drugs, which can cause a physical dependence. The more you use to shrink the tissues of the nose, the more rebound effect occurs and it gets worse later, requiring more nasal spray more often, until it completely stops working. In addition, there IS a stimulant effect. Nasal steroids can help, and allergy testing may help you treat the cause ...Read more

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I am addicted to alcohol and I want to get rid of it, If I don't drink every day I am not able to sleep ... plzz help this habbit has ruined my lofe ?

I am addicted to alcohol and I want to get rid of it, If I don't drink every day I am not able to sleep ... plzz help this habbit has ruined my lofe ?

In my opinion: You absolutely MUST join a program and the best one that has the best chance of succeeding over any other (in my opinion) is Alcoholics Anonymous. This is the way that the vast majority of people with alcohol problems find lasting control methods for their alcohol problems. If you would like to talk a bit 1-1 please write to me at: www.healthtap.com/drsaghafi ...Read more

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Please help how can I don't say that's silly i really don't want to do football when i get back to school I have one week. Help!?

Please help how can I don't say that's silly i really don't want to do football when i get back to school I have one week. Help!?

I don't blame you: Sports do very little to advance most people's actual life goals. Your question is, "how do I humor my family / peers?" choose some other sport, or decide you want to be a solo endurance athlete, or announce you want to devote your time to your academic studies / future career (best choice!) or take up an instrument. Excel at whatever u choose. Be warm and say "i love you." good luck. ...Read more

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I lied to my girlfriend about not being a virgin but I don't know how to tell her now that I am?

I lied to my girlfriend about not being a virgin but I don't know how to tell her now that I am?

Be honest: Why did you lye in the first place? Maybe to impress her by assuming that women like nonvirgin guys more than virgins. If that was your assumption, it is not always true. You have to be honest and truthful to your partner about your sex life. ...Read more

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I drink beer daily, I am able to go to work, but my body tends too hurt, I am an x drug addict, what can I do about my alcoholism, os there a cure?

I drink beer daily, I am able to go to work, but my body tends too hurt, I am an x drug addict, what can I do about my alcoholism, os there a cure?

Addiction Medicine +: Please consider seeing an addiction medicine doctor, as there are some medications which can decrease craving for alcohol. This is only part of the process though, as you must also learn different ways of dealing with life than drinking alcohol. Many have benefited from alcoholics anonymous, working the program, and having a sponsor. http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org good luck! ...Read more

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I wanted to try tampons but I was afraid to ask mom for help. Now I can’t get it out? Panicking!

I wanted to try tampons but I was afraid to ask mom for help. Now I can’t get it out? Panicking!

Don't panic!: It's ok. A tampon can only go in the vagina and it doesn't get "lost". You should be able to reach it with your finger especially if you are sitting or squatting and bear down. At worst you can see a doctor and she will remove it. Don't wait more than 6 hours or you could become ill. It happens all the time and there is no need to be embarrassed. ...Read more

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How can I let my parents know that I am having a tough time caring for them?

How can I let my parents know that I am having a tough time caring for them?

Love always: Saying everything positive first sets the mood. Loving parents is natural. Care may be assigned to others. Personal care assistants are trained to give care. When others give care, children can spend time with parents for enjoyment. ...Read more

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I just found out i'm pregnant, i work with cleaning chemicals. When should I tell my boss? I don't know what to do since we want to wait to tell.

I just found out i'm pregnant, i work with cleaning chemicals. When should I tell my boss? I don't know what to do since we want to wait to tell.

Health First: I am sorry, but health comes first. Regardless of your plans to wait to share your good news, your baby's health comes first. And that means you do not expose yourself to these noxious chemicals and you tell your boss today. ...Read more

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I realized I am an enabler. How do I learn to say no to my addicted loved one?

Good for realizing.: You know you have the behavior but can't stop, sound similiar to some people with addictions huh? And they usually need help, well no exception for you, you likely need help and support to stop this enabling behavior. Recommend trying alanon and/or seeking professional help with a counselor that can help you in setting healthy boundries. The addicted may or may not change, but you'll be more sane. ...Read more

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What steps must be taken to learn a loved one's end of life wishes?

Discuss: This is a great question. I think that it is best done when there is not a crisis. The direct approach with a very caring sense is important. You want to learn how your loved one wants to be treated in a situation where they might not be able to express themselves. I think that idea should be worked into the discussion. ...Read more

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Are there courses for learning how to care for a loved one with dementia?

Are there courses for learning how to care for a loved one with dementia?

I don't know: About courses, but the alzheimer's association can give you much more information on caring for a loved one and for yourself. ...Read more

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How can you deal with learning that a loved one has cancer?

How can you deal with learning that a loved one has cancer?

Take care of you.: It is always tough news to handle. Aside from providing your loved one with support and encouragement, you have to make sure that you're healthy as well. This can mean talking with a confidant, journaling, doing something to distract you, or even talking with a medical professional in the event that you're emotionally struggling with your feelings/reactions. ...Read more

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What is the specific name of a "bone scan" that docs use to look for cancer? Want to read up on it for loved one, learn about pros and cons, etc.

What is the specific name of a "bone scan" that docs use to look for cancer? Want to read up on it for loved one, learn about pros and cons, etc.

PET scan: It is usually not a bone scan. Pet (positron emission tomography, in combination with computed tomography is sensitive in detecting malignancies. F18 the isotope is tagged to glucose. Most tumors utilize increased metabolism of glucose allowing detection by this imaging. The isotope is injected intravenously. The test may take 2 hours. ...Read more

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How do one learn to love their self? It's really hard for me. I doubt myself all the time & believe I'm ugly, I don't matter,I don't have a voice. Psy

How do one learn to love their self? It's really hard for me. I doubt myself all the time & believe I'm ugly, I don't matter,I don't have a voice. Psy

Therapy?: Have you yet tried any form of psychotherapy? Typically, the optimal combination of things to treat emotional issues such as depression is medication (which, on your best day, is supposed to take the edge off symptoms) but the real gruntwork takes place in psychotherapist's consulting room. ...Read more

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Why do they say kicking a drug addict out and turning your back on them is the worst thing ever? Won't that make them learn?

Why do they say kicking a drug addict out and turning your back on them is the worst thing ever? Won't that make them learn?

Addict: This is true to a certain extent - most drug addicts needs strong support while they try to kick the habit. They may also needs help treating some of the cravings and withdrawal while they "detoxify". Kicking them out usually results in them going right back to using the drugs again. ...Read more

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I set myself on fire at age 4, I am very mean and do not love myself. How can I learn to love myself even though one of my nipples are burned off?

I set myself on fire at age 4, I am very mean and do not love myself. How can I learn to love myself even though one of my nipples are burned off?

Wow -- very painful: It sounds like you're really feeling miserable, and have been for a long time. It's not usual for a 4 year old to set herself on fire. I'm wondering what you're dealing with inside -- and suggest you consider working with a psychologist. ...Read more

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What to do to learn to love my body?

What to do to learn to love my body?

Loving your body: First, focus on being healthy and what it brings you -- rather than focusing on external appearances or obtaining an ideal body. Feed your body nourishing food and see how it makes you feel. Speak to yourself as you would someone you love -- with the same compassion, patience, and care. Your body hears what you say, and how you say it. A psychologist can help you with personal work on this. ...Read more

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Can you tell me how to learn to love myself?

Write a list of what: you love about yourself, and then a list of compliments. Write a list of the things you love about people. Say I accept this, i love this, I like this about myself. It really lets you know where you stand on certain things. Then go to a counselor and discuss how you feel about yourself. Good luck. ...Read more

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How can an addict learn to use in moderation?

How can an addict learn to use in moderation?

Controversial ?: The conventional wisdom and 12 step program philosophy and teachings would say that he or she cannot learn to use in moderation. That being said, there are certainly some who can and do accomplish this. Many young people who drank and drugged heavily in college seem to "mature out" of it, without treatment. A program managed moderation teaches this with, in my experience, mixed results. ...Read more

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Can an addict learn to control themselves without any help?

Can an addict learn to control themselves without any help?

Maybe: I guess it is possible. The nature of any addiction is a loss of self control over use of the substance. I would think suddenly developing control with no outside intervention would be hard. ...Read more

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Can you explain if it's possible for an addict to learn how to use in moderation?

Can you explain if it's possible for an addict to learn how to use in moderation?

See below: One does not learn to use substances responsibly. It is conceivably possible to return to "social" if the compulsions are removed with meds (i.e. Naltrexone) but they usually return later. Do not attempt this almost everyone fails. The ones who don't see error of their ways and stop early on. ...Read more

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Is it normal/healthy to "learn" to love someone that you've been friends with for years?

Yes: For a variety of potentially mutually shared reasons such as growing trust, understanding, comfort, and overall attraction. ...Read more

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Why is it said that kicking and addict family member out is not the best choice to fix the issue. Won't having nothing teach them a lesson and learn?

Why is it said that kicking and addict family member out is not the best choice to fix the issue. Won't having nothing teach them a lesson and learn?

Helping an addict.: Addicts generally has to reach rock bottom on their own, and when they do they'd need loved ones around to pick them up and help them recover and cure. Leaving them alone with their vices and negativity is not necessarily the healthiest way to leave them. ...Read more

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Can you tell me how to learn to love my small boobs?

Can you tell me how to learn to love my small boobs?

Can be an asset: We exist in a society which idolizes large breasts and underwear is sold to artificially increase the apparent size. But most models have very small breasts; and athletes and ballet dancers have tiny breasts. Older folk will tell you that small breasts are an asset; women with large breasts grow to dislike them. Small breasts are not an impediment to love and life. You will love them in time. ...Read more

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How can one unblock a learning disability?

How can one unblock a learning disability?

Work around it: You cannot unblock a learing disabilty but you can know it exists and learn new ways to work around it or ways to take extra time to solve the problems. Students with ld diagnosed and tested by psychologists can get extra time on tests in school and posiibly even college. ...Read more