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I realized I am an enabler. How do I learn to say no to my addicted loved one?

I realized I am an enabler.  How do I learn to say no to my addicted loved one?

Good for realizing.: You know you have the behavior but can't stop, sound similiar to some people with addictions huh? And they usually need help, well no exception for you, you likely need help and support to stop this enabling behavior. Recommend trying alanon and/or seeking professional help with a counselor that can help you in setting healthy boundries. The addicted may or may not change, but you'll be more sane. ...Read more

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What steps must be taken to learn a loved one's end of life wishes?

Discuss: This is a great question. I think that it is best done when there is not a crisis. The direct approach with a very caring sense is important. You want to learn how your loved one wants to be treated in a situation where they might not be able to express themselves. I think that idea should be worked into the discussion. ...Read more

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Are there courses for learning how to care for a loved one with dementia?

Are there courses for learning how to care for a loved one with dementia?

I don't know: About courses, but the alzheimer's association can give you much more information on caring for a loved one and for yourself. ...Read more

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How can you deal with learning that a loved one has cancer?

How can you deal with learning that a loved one has cancer?

Take care of you.: It is always tough news to handle. Aside from providing your loved one with support and encouragement, you have to make sure that you're healthy as well. This can mean talking with a confidant, journaling, doing something to distract you, or even talking with a medical professional in the event that you're emotionally struggling with your feelings/reactions. ...Read more

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What is the specific name of a "bone scan" that docs use to look for cancer? Want to read up on it for loved one, learn about pros and cons, etc.

What is the specific name of a "bone scan" that docs use to look for cancer? Want to read up on it for loved one, learn about pros and cons, etc.

PET scan: It is usually not a bone scan. Pet (positron emission tomography, in combination with computed tomography is sensitive in detecting malignancies. F18 the isotope is tagged to glucose. Most tumors utilize increased metabolism of glucose allowing detection by this imaging. The isotope is injected intravenously. The test may take 2 hours. ...Read more

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How do one learn to love their self? It's really hard for me. I doubt myself all the time & believe I'm ugly, I don't matter,I don't have a voice. Psy

How do one learn to love their self? It's really hard for me. I doubt myself all the time & believe I'm ugly, I don't matter,I don't have a voice. Psy

Therapy?: Have you yet tried any form of psychotherapy? Typically, the optimal combination of things to treat emotional issues such as depression is medication (which, on your best day, is supposed to take the edge off symptoms) but the real gruntwork takes place in psychotherapist's consulting room. ...Read more

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Why do they say kicking a drug addict out and turning your back on them is the worst thing ever? Won't that make them learn?

Why do they say kicking a drug addict out and turning your back on them is the worst thing ever? Won't that make them learn?

Addict: This is true to a certain extent - most drug addicts needs strong support while they try to kick the habit. They may also needs help treating some of the cravings and withdrawal while they "detoxify". Kicking them out usually results in them going right back to using the drugs again. ...Read more

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I set myself on fire at age 4, I am very mean and do not love myself. How can I learn to love myself even though one of my nipples are burned off?

I set myself on fire at age 4, I am very mean and do not love myself. How can I learn to love myself even though one of my nipples are burned off?

Wow -- very painful: It sounds like you're really feeling miserable, and have been for a long time. It's not usual for a 4 year old to set herself on fire. I'm wondering what you're dealing with inside -- and suggest you consider working with a psychologist. ...Read more

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What to do to learn to love my body?

What to do to learn to love my body?

Loving your body: First, focus on being healthy and what it brings you -- rather than focusing on external appearances or obtaining an ideal body. Feed your body nourishing food and see how it makes you feel. Speak to yourself as you would someone you love -- with the same compassion, patience, and care. Your body hears what you say, and how you say it. A psychologist can help you with personal work on this. ...Read more

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Can you tell me how to learn to love myself?

Write a list of what: you love about yourself, and then a list of compliments. Write a list of the things you love about people. Say I accept this, i love this, I like this about myself. It really lets you know where you stand on certain things. Then go to a counselor and discuss how you feel about yourself. Good luck. ...Read more

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How can an addict learn to use in moderation?

How can an addict learn to use in moderation?

Controversial ?: The conventional wisdom and 12 step program philosophy and teachings would say that he or she cannot learn to use in moderation. That being said, there are certainly some who can and do accomplish this. Many young people who drank and drugged heavily in college seem to "mature out" of it, without treatment. A program managed moderation teaches this with, in my experience, mixed results. ...Read more

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Can an addict learn to control themselves without any help?

Can an addict learn to control themselves without any help?

Maybe: I guess it is possible. The nature of any addiction is a loss of self control over use of the substance. I would think suddenly developing control with no outside intervention would be hard. ...Read more

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Can you explain if it's possible for an addict to learn how to use in moderation?

Can you explain if it's possible for an addict to learn how to use in moderation?

See below: One does not learn to use substances responsibly. It is conceivably possible to return to "social" if the compulsions are removed with meds (i.e. Naltrexone) but they usually return later. Do not attempt this almost everyone fails. The ones who don't see error of their ways and stop early on. ...Read more

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Is it normal/healthy to "learn" to love someone that you've been friends with for years?

Yes: For a variety of potentially mutually shared reasons such as growing trust, understanding, comfort, and overall attraction. ...Read more

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Why is it said that kicking and addict family member out is not the best choice to fix the issue. Won't having nothing teach them a lesson and learn?

Why is it said that kicking and addict family member out is not the best choice to fix the issue. Won't having nothing teach them a lesson and learn?

Helping an addict.: Addicts generally has to reach rock bottom on their own, and when they do they'd need loved ones around to pick them up and help them recover and cure. Leaving them alone with their vices and negativity is not necessarily the healthiest way to leave them. ...Read more

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Can you tell me how to learn to love my small boobs?

Can you tell me how to learn to love my small boobs?

Can be an asset: We exist in a society which idolizes large breasts and underwear is sold to artificially increase the apparent size. But most models have very small breasts; and athletes and ballet dancers have tiny breasts. Older folk will tell you that small breasts are an asset; women with large breasts grow to dislike them. Small breasts are not an impediment to love and life. You will love them in time. ...Read more

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How can one unblock a learning disability?

How can one unblock a learning disability?

Work around it: You cannot unblock a learing disabilty but you can know it exists and learn new ways to work around it or ways to take extra time to solve the problems. Students with ld diagnosed and tested by psychologists can get extra time on tests in school and posiibly even college. ...Read more