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Dr. Laura Webb Dr. Webb
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How do I comfort my friend who just found out her teenage daughter has cancer?

Dr. Laura Webb Dr. Webb
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How do I comfort my friend who just found out her teenage daughter has cancer?

Listen and support: Listen to your friend and be there for support. She may want to talk about the diagnosis and may not. Do not prod for information- let her share as much as she wants. Offer to run errands, do the grocery shopping or clean her house. Let her know you are there for her in whatever capacity she needs at the moment. ...Read more

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Cancer (Definition)

Cancer is a group of diseases that is characterized by uncontrolled cell growth leading to invasion of surrounding tissues that spread to other parts of the body. Cancer can begin anywhere in the body and is usually related to one or more genetic mutations that allow normal cells to become malignant by interfering with internal cellular control mechanisms, such as programmed cell death or by preventing ...Read more


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How do I tell my young daughter that her mother has cancer?

How do I tell my young daughter that her mother has cancer?

Simple/positive: For the young child short simple words with repitition over time will communicate the basics. Young kids face some additional needs that can be addressed over time: they did not do or say or wish anything that made mommy sick. There will always be someone making sure she has meals to eat & places to play & sleep if mommy is away trying to get better. Let her ask when ready but repeat often. ...Read more

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What do you suggest if my little sister in law has molluscum contagiosum shes 4 years old but she loves playing with my son?

What do you suggest if my little sister in law has molluscum contagiosum shes 4 years old but she loves playing with my son?

Hard to pass: If they wallow on the ground together like Greek wrestlers, their skin to skin contact (near sores) could pass it.If their play does not involve this level of contact, it is not likely to transfer. ...Read more

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My family just found out my father has cancer. What can he do?

My family just found out my father has cancer. What can he do?

Grade, stage, type: That's scary news to hear. He's got a lot of thinking to do. Depending on type of tumor (lung vs gut vs blood, etc), it's size/bulk, speed of growth, and where it's moved, if at all, the docs will develop a plan with him. Debulking can be by chemo and/or radiation and/or surgery. Patients do best w/ multidisciplinary teams. Remember, sometimes "healing" isn't just about "curing" on this journey. ...Read more

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How can I help my sister who just admited she was malested as a child by her moms boyfriend? If my sister i going crazy how can I help her

How can I help my sister who just admited she was malested as a child by her moms boyfriend? If my sister i going crazy how can I help her

Support: Don't try to do amateur psychotherapy. Do not tell her how she should feel. There's no knowing what impact this had on her, despite the "pop" wisdom. She may be in full control of herself and have great resiliance. Or mental illness may be present, related or unrelated to what may have happened. Be willing to drive her to a physician's appointment if needed. You've got a good heart. ...Read more

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How do I tell my daughter that sexual touching is wrong? My 4 year old girl recently had been made to do a few sexual things by her 6-year-old cousin.

How do I tell my daughter that sexual touching is wrong? My 4 year old girl recently had been made to do a few sexual things by her 6-year-old cousin.

Needs to be seen.: I recommend that you seek professional help from your child's doctor immediately. He or she will arrange an evaluation and counseling for you and your child to help deal with the situation. Dcfs also needs to find out where the six year old was exposed to this inappropriate topic as well. This is a very difficult situation, but childrens' safety is the most important thing. Good luck! ...Read more

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I live in illinois, I am the caregiver to my 86 yr old parent but my older sister has power of attorney. How can I get her to help me with expenses?

I live in illinois, I am the caregiver to my 86 yr old parent but my older sister has power of attorney. How can I get her to help me with expenses?

Make appointment: Maybe consider making an appointment with a good family therapist or social worker for you and your sister to see for some assistance in sorting things out. As long as your sister will go, the therapist can act as a referree to keep things on track and prevent them getting too out of hand. I work a lot with families teaching them how to have a 'fair fight.' good luck. ...Read more

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My maternal grandmother had it and just recently found out that my 78 year old mother has it. How does someone go about getting tested for alzheimer's?

My maternal grandmother had it and just recently found out that my 78 year old mother has it. How does someone go about getting tested for alzheimer's?

Testing is here: Treatment unfortunately remains modest. The gold standard is the pet scan, and usage of the pib tracer can confirm the diagnosis. However, the pet is very expensive, and m'care will probably not pay for it. A poor man's substitute would be a spect scan, not as accurate, but might suffice. Also, lumbar puncture might help. ...Read more

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My friend got dumped by his girlfriend,his best friend cheated him.Now my friend always talks suicidal,he's 18 yrs old. What can I do as a good friend?

My friend got dumped by his girlfriend,his best friend cheated him.Now my friend always talks suicidal,he's 18 yrs old. What can I do as a good friend?

Suicide Prevention!!: Thanks for asking.You're a good friend.First,keep checking up on him maybe twice a day.Let him talk to you.But if he is really talking a lot about it,especially if he has a plan,he needs immediate intervention by a specialist.Try and take him to the ER to be evaluated. If he resists,call a suicide hotline for help and they'll talk with him.Do everything you can to get him evaluated. 911 if needed! ...Read more

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Hi my 2 year old daughter eats hair and likes sucking anything metal I took her to the doctors and he mentioned pica and gave me information about it. On the information it mentioned autism I was wondering if I can have my daughter tested for this and wo

Hi my 2 year old daughter eats hair and likes sucking anything metal I took her to the doctors and he mentioned pica and gave me information about it. On the information it mentioned  autism I was wondering if I can have my daughter tested for this and wo

Definitely: If your child is having unusual symptoms, take her to a center specializing in evaluations of young children. If funds are a problem, see if easter seals has a program near you. Some behavioral pediatricians are trained in evaluating children this age, as a psychologist. Your pediatrician should have referrals. You definitely want an expert with toddlers. Good luck. ...Read more

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My 3 yr old daughter was in contact with a boy who has mrsa. I don't see any spots but do I take her to the doctor anyway?

My 3 yr old daughter was in contact with a boy who has mrsa. I don't see any spots but do I take her to the doctor anyway?

Unlikely to be a pbm: Consider yourself surrounded by MRSA in public places, schools or anywhere else you go. It is not a plague. A good 70% of the pustules or abscesses i treat are MRSA acquired in the community. All of us carry some staph on our bodies & it is chance that determines if it an aggressive strain. I'm not going to do anything for your kid unless she has a suspicious lesion, then it is easily treated. ...Read more

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My daughter is a yr old and was born premature her doctor put her on pediasure how many cans am i suppose to give her and she don't have any teeth ?

My daughter is a yr old and was born premature her doctor put her on pediasure how many cans am i suppose to give her and she don't have any teeth ?

Premature: thr doctor probably checked her growth charts and corrected it according to her age. If your baby is not on the growth charts, he usually add pediasure to add more calories in addition to baby food to help with her intake. A good nutrition consultation is very helpful to do the pediasure according to her weight. Good luck ...Read more

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About 3 years ago my 10 year son dad committed suicide, on my sons birthday, His dad was very abusive to me and my son saw most of it. My son rarely talks about his dad and when he does it is just memories of the abuse, I am not sure what to say?

About 3 years ago my 10 year son dad committed suicide, on my sons birthday, His dad was very abusive to me and my son saw most of it. My son rarely talks about his dad and when he does it is just memories of the abuse, I am not sure what to say?

This is a job for: a psychologist. Sounds like a longer-term case, but if these associations and experiences are not resolved, your son (and you) will be more vulnerable to psychological conditions such as depression and anxiety, and secondary conditions such as alcohol and substance overuse./dependence. Relationships, now and the future, will also likely suffer, especially as they deepen with time. ...Read more

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What should I buy my friend who has recovered from cancer?

What should I buy my friend who has recovered from cancer?

The best gift: You have already given it -- the gift of friendship. Be happy that your friend will probably have many more good years despite the scare. Offer time. Listen and let them know what you admire about them. Life's taught me that we never realize the power of a single kind word or gesture. I'm happy both for your friend, and for you who have had the goodness and grace to ask. ...Read more

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Kids' favorite aunt came to visit. Told me she has frostbite. What should I tell my children?

Kids' favorite aunt came to visit. Told me she has frostbite. What should I tell my children?

The truth: Just tell the kids that their aunt froze her [fingers, toes, nose, etc]. There's not really any reason to tell them anything else. Is she missing some fingers or something? ...Read more

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What can I do about my daughter who has progeria?

What can I do about my daughter who has progeria?

Learn/ join groups: You can tie into some usefull information and a listing of support groups through the national institute of health website on rare diseases. See:http://rarediseases.Info.Nih.Gov then put progeria in the search box. ...Read more

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I just found out that my 15 year old little sister is cutting herself. What should I do to help her?

I just found out that my 15 year old little sister is cutting herself.  What should I do to help her?

Get her help: Find a counselor who specializes in this and get her help! to write love on her arms...www.twloha.com is a great place ego start as well as seeing her physician. Do not ignore it. She needs to see someone. ...Read more

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I hugged a friend and her daughter that I later found out were infected with scabies. What can I do to cleanse myself before seeing my baby daughter?

I hugged a friend and her daughter that I later found out were infected with scabies. What can I do to cleanse myself before seeing my baby daughter?

Relax: It is quite unlikely that a simple hug could transfer the mite.TThey tend to stay tight on or under the skin surface of the trunk and extremities. If you want to shower before you pick up baby you will be more than enough. ...Read more

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My 12 years old bro has down syndromme and can't. Talk like a norm person. What can I do to help him. He mumbles and smart in playing gadget.?

My 12 years old bro has down syndromme and can't. Talk like a norm person. What can I do to help him. He mumbles and smart in playing gadget.?

You're helping now!: Asking questions is the most important first step. Good job! kids with down syndrome speak and play differently sometimes because that's just the way they are. But they also have special ways of being the best brother ever, and they need their families to help them. Being patient and just being happy with him, even if the gadgets are hard for him to use, is a really big help. ...Read more

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My great uncle (moms side) has had recurrent melanoma. Since he is grandma's brother, do I add him to my family history? Lots of dysplastic nevi

My great uncle (moms side) has had recurrent melanoma. Since he is grandma's brother, do I add him to my family history? Lots of dysplastic nevi

Already family: What about you? Do you also have dysplastic nevi? Will you watch your skin / have someone watch your skin like a grown-up should? That's what really matters. Wishing you and your uncle the best. ...Read more