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How can I not feel guilty after my mom developed a bed sore with my caregiving?

How can I not feel guilty after my mom developed a bed sore with my caregiving?

Learn: My best advice is to engage the help of a rehab nurse. They can teach you the best ways to decrease the pressure on vulnerable areas of the body which are typically the back of the head, the shoulder blades, the sacral area and the heals. These are all the parts that are closest to the bone. Learn about turning schedules and special beds that decrease pressure sores. Learn how to prevent them. ...Read more

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Bed Sore (Definition)

A bed sore is an injury to the skin, and tissues beneath the skin, caused by pressure. They can range from a stage one pressure sore (tender, red and does not blanch) to stage four (an open wound extending down to the bone). Early stage pressure sores can respond to off-loading, while deep ulcers require debridement, dressing ...Read more


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Wife molested as a young girl and can't orgasm. Hi, i recently got married 6 months ago. I am 22 and my wife is 20. When we have sex i can't make her orgasm. She will feel like she is close and then get a sick feeling and it just goes away. I can bring he

Wife molested as a young girl and can't orgasm. Hi, i recently got married 6 months ago. I am 22 and my wife is 20. When we have sex i can't make her orgasm. She will feel like she is close and then get a sick feeling and it just goes away. I can bring he

Healing: It would be important for her to get diagnosis and treatment for possible ptsd. At the same time, it would be nice to explore how all that affects you, and talk about your feelings.Her awareness of your knowledge of it, and its effect on you, might be providing retrofeedback in this process. Consult a good professional. It s likely that it will get better, after some work. ...Read more

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When I have to talk in front of my class have really bad anxiety about it for weeks before and days after. What can help me get through? I get sick.

When I have to talk in front of my class have really bad anxiety about it for weeks before and days after. What can help me get through? I get sick.

Move Up Fear Ladder: Imagine different groups of people/audiences - people u think likely 2 judge ur performance (a) very critically; (b) somewhat critically; (c) neutrally; (d) somewhat uncritically; and (e) very uncritically. Practice speaking 2each type of audience (one or more people), working your way up from the least to the most critical. Once you feel comfortable with one person/group, graduate 2 next level. ...Read more

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I have a big problem which is hurting my social life when i have been hit i will start crying after a while or if someone tells me something rude.

I have a big problem which is hurting my social life when i have been hit i will start crying after a while or if someone tells me something rude.

The Land of Tears: Two options:Avoid situations where you might get hit or have something rude said to you (in other words, resign yourself to living in a cave or deep in the woods) or figure out a way to alter your reactions to these uncomfortable situations. Like counseling(it really helps).In the meantime,do try to avoid the hitting situations because they're more physical initially.Crying is a complex reaction. ...Read more

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I spend the day with a very cranky baby, I can't get angry at him, but then when I have arguments with my husband I go into rage. How can I avoid it?

I spend the day with a very cranky baby, I can't get angry at him, but then when I have arguments with my husband I go into rage. How can I avoid it?

Time out: It may be that you have a subconcious resentment towards your husband that you have to deal with a cranky baby every day. Take a time out for yourself, walk, breath deeply, exercise and know none of you are to blame for this. Concentrate on the good time spent with your little one. When you are calm, discuss with your husband your feelings. It will get better with time! ...Read more

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I have cached a bactiria called pertissis. I fell very bad with my cought my body and my head , how long will take to feel fine to go to work?

I  have cached a bactiria called  pertissis.  I fell very bad with my cought  my body and my head  , how long will take to feel fine to go to work?

Are you better?: Bordetella perstussis, aka whooping cough or 100 days' cough is highly contagious illness, but has a very effective vaccine available. Once diagnosed and appropriately treat, 3-5 days following antibiotic treatment, you should not be congatious, but coughing (which can be severe) may linger on longer. So, if u r treated for at least 3-5 days now and feeling better, u can return to work. Good luck. ...Read more

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Mother had trouble feeding me when i was a baby and now i notice my breasts seem to have insufficient gland tissue too. How to treat please? Not pregnant

Mother had trouble feeding me when i was a baby and now i notice my breasts seem to have insufficient gland tissue too. How to treat please? Not pregnant

Treat?: Your mothers inability to breast feed you has no impact on your breast development. If you are unhappy with your breast appearance then schedule a visit with a local plastic surgeon to investigate your options. ...Read more

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How can I not feel guilty with my mom developing health complications from my caregiving?

How can I not feel guilty with my mom developing health complications from my caregiving?

Let the guilt go.: It is important to realize that there may be no connection between your mom developing health complications and your caregiving. And if there is a connection there, can you define how your caregiving causes her health complications? Basically, notice your guilt, and just allow it to be there as a feeling, and just a feeling. And then relax, and begin to let it melt away. ...Read more

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My mother had passed away 3 weeks ago, I feel so sad and depressed, losing the only person who looked after me is so hurtful, what can I do plz help?

My mother had passed away 3 weeks ago, I feel so sad and depressed, losing the only person who looked after me is so hurtful, what can I do plz help?

Grieve: It is ok to grieve. It is healthy to grieve. Share with friends/loved ones. If you get stuck in the grief process consider talking with a pastoral counselor or a therapist. ...Read more

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How do I stop my parent with alzheimer's from driving? My mom has alzheimer's and is pretty forgetful. I've noticed her driving seems to be a lot worse and sometimes she gets lost. I really don't think she should be on the road, so how do I get her to vol

How do I stop my parent with alzheimer's from driving? My mom has alzheimer's and is pretty forgetful. I've noticed her driving seems to be a lot worse and sometimes she gets lost. I really don't think she should be on the road, so how do I get her to vol

This : This is going to be a tough struggle. If she already has alzheimer's, and you have noticed problems, it is probably time to take the car away. She will not like this decision, as it is one of her last vestiges of independence. But the decision needs to be made before she gets in an accident (many times it takes a broken fender or mailbox to convince somebody). I would suggest you advise her doctor of the problem privately, then have an "intervention" at an office visit. That way the doctor can be the bad guy, and you will agree. Some states have driver's training tests (occupational therapists sometimes do this) that might prove to her that she is impaired. But usually the doctor visit is enough. ...Read more

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What precautions can I take if I have a cold sore and am nursing and looking after my 1.5 month old infant? Worried she will catch it from me :(

What precautions can I take if I have a cold sore and am nursing and looking after my 1.5 month old infant? Worried she will catch it from me :(

Cold Sore-: There is no contraindication to breast feeding if you have a cold sore. It may rather help the baby to get immunity from you through breast milk. Just maintain personal hygiene, cover the sore on your lip or face with petrolatum jelly or similar, clean yourself, wash hands before nursing. ...Read more

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My stomach hurts all the time and i get full quickly. My father is dying with cancer, mother in hospital and I am a nurse. Is it just stress?

My stomach hurts all the time and i get full quickly. My father is dying with cancer, mother in hospital and I am a nurse. Is it just stress?

Don't assume: Stress likely affecting you but these symptoms could indicate something more serious such as an ulcer. Given your age >40 you should see your physician. An upper endoscopy/egd may be warranted. Certainly a history, exam and blood tests are warranted. A trial of acid blocker for 10-14 days is worthwhile but don't avoid an evaluation especially if symptoms persist, worsen or associated symptoms. ...Read more

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I have a severe antisocial personality. Ive been mute, shy and too frozen to even move my leg for PE lessons from kindergarten till grad. I even at times feel shy from my mom. I dunno how to speak nor act. But i find clever ways to get around. Idea ?

I have a severe antisocial personality. Ive been mute, shy and too frozen to even move my leg for PE lessons from kindergarten till grad. I even at times feel shy from my mom. I dunno how to speak nor act. But i find clever ways to get around. Idea ?

Symptoms: I would suggest an evaluation with a psychiatrist or psychologist to determine a course of treatment for your social isolation. It appears that you have a history of depression and ADHD, which may be contributing to your current difficulties. Treatment may include changing or increasing your current medications, and therapy depending upon your specific issues. Good luck! ...Read more

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I lost my mom over a yr ago and feel like i lost part of me when she passed. How can I move forward with my life and accept her death?

I lost my mom over a yr ago and feel like i lost part of me when she passed. How can I move forward with my life and accept her death?

Suggestions for loss: There is a book called "praying our goodbyes" by joyce rupp which you can use if you have a spiritual bent. You can also see a therapist for some grief counseling. I'm sorry for you loss and believe that you can feel whole again as you adjust. Peace and good health. ...Read more

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How can i decrease my stress , I am very emotionally and when see a sick i feel that illness in my body and then that time i feel exhausting help me?

How can i decrease my stress , I am very emotionally and when see a sick i feel that illness in my body and then that time i feel exhausting help me?

Stress reduction is: pretty standard these days, starting with good sleep, diet, relationships and productivity at work/school. To that, add meditation, yoga, avoidance of drugs/alcohol. To that, add awareness of your thoughts and their physical/emotional effects. If you have a high level of empathy or are prone to hypochondriasis, seek out a psychologist for a little CBT. ...Read more

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I got a sudden shock to see my husband smoking weed regularly after i had a baby and he is unemployed since 2 years.I am mentally upset.What can I do?

I got a sudden shock to see my husband smoking weed regularly after i had a baby and he is unemployed since 2 years.I am mentally upset.What can I do?

Marital problems: Keep talking. Worse reaction is not talking. Try to make him come see a marriage counselor. So he understands where you are coming from. Then you guys can work on his habit modification. ...Read more

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I think i might have overdosed on cocaine. I've felt this way before, after I have used, but less intense. My head feels like someone is squeezing it. I am 18 and i don't know if I should go to the hospital and wake my mom up and tell her . I am scared an

I think i might have overdosed on cocaine. I've felt this way before, after I have used, but less intense. My head feels like someone is squeezing it. I am 18 and i don't know if I should go to the hospital and wake my mom up and tell her . I am scared an

Go to ER/urgent care: If you are concerned, get some help. If you need to tell your family, do so. Cocaine can cause heart rhythm problems and even cause heart damage and stroke. First make sure you are safe, then (and really most importantly) you need to get help from an addiction treatment program for your Cocaine problems before it really does more harm. There are many kinds of treatment available, please get some. ...Read more

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Dr. Selby Jacobs
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Guilt (Definition)

to say Guilt is any way I can control you and make you feel anxious doing it. Its an atypical anxiety state that you feel when you are accused of doing something you should not have done, or you didn't do something you should have. The underlying feeling you have is resentment, but that remains unexpressed as you ...Read more


Dr. Scott Bolhack
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Pressure Sores (Definition)

Pressure sores = Bed sored = Injury to skin & deeper tissues due to prolonged ...Read more