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Doctor insights on: How Can I Help My Spouse Who Is Caring For His Elderly Parents

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Why must someone go to medical appointments with elderly parents?

This is important : It is important to go to appointments with elderly parents. Many times elderly parents do not communicate well with doctors. They may not tell the doctor everything that is going on. They are of the generation that does not ask questions. Many of their problems are complicated and elderly parents don't understand, or don't tell their families what is going on. If you can't go then call doctor. ...Read more

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How would I know when my elderly parent needs assisted living facility?

How would I know when my elderly parent needs assisted living facility?

Assessment of ADL.: This can be very difficult. Firstly, would start the conversation with the parent's physician; can parent still take meds on own correctly and safely? There is an instrument that makes a full, geriatric assessment which measures the ability of person to carry out activities of daily living; usually done by nurse trained in this area. Most elderly will resist going to a 'home'. Get professional help. ...Read more

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If I take in my elderly parent is it legitimate to ask for some compensation?

If I take in my elderly parent is it legitimate to ask for some compensation?

Consider: Did your parent(s) ask for compensation from you during the years you lived with them & were reared by them? Are there other siblings who might contribute to his/her care? Council on aging may be able to offer suggestions. ...Read more

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How can I let my wife know that I am struggling caring for my elderly parents?

How can I let my wife know that I am struggling caring for my elderly parents?

Honesty: Be honest and tell her how you feel. It is not always easy to care for older parents , especially if you have your own immediate family responsibility (i.E wife and kids), but if you tell your wife that you feels responsible to care for them because they cared for you when you were a child, but you are struggling , she probably will help you do what is right , she may even share the burden. ...Read more

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How can one spend good, quality time with an elderly parent who is confused and not communicating?

How can one spend good, quality time with an elderly parent who is confused and not communicating?

Just be there: Quality is in the eye of the beholder (or recipient), not giver. Just sitting with them, or watching tv together or helping with their daily activities as they will allow you, can be very positive for them, even if they lack the ability to communicate that to you. ...Read more

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What are some good questions to ask when considering an assisted living center for your elderly parent?

What are some good questions to ask when considering an assisted living center for your elderly parent?

Supervise Care-giver: Ask for credentials of clinical supervisor of alf, mode of supervision & monitoring of care-giving staff, modes of communication between staff & resident, communication lines with nearest of kin, criminal & background investigation of staff, st licensing & accreditation, familiarity w ombudsman, policies re drug prescription & administration & documentation, ratio of care-giover staff to residents. ...Read more

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What's the best way to cut your elderly parents nails?

What's the best way to cut your elderly parents nails?

Carefully: It matters if they are cooperative with you or not. Generally nails will cut easier if they are soaked first and a bit damp. Thickened nails and brittle ones can be harder to cut neatly. Use a good quality fingernail clippers or a fine scissors, use good light and take your time. ...Read more

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What changes can I expect when my elderly parent moves in?

What changes can I expect when my elderly parent moves in?

UH BOY...: Well, there is the good of having him/her close, but there's a lot of factors caring for elderly parents that may drive you to drinking heavily... However remember this, you wouldn't be here if it wasn't for them. And there is good and bad about that too, i'm sure. God only knows the sacrifices they made to try and give you a safe upbringing and a good future...Just love him/her, and listen. ...Read more

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Boss. Elderly parent. Teen. Me. Who do I take care of first?

Boss. Elderly parent. Teen. Me. Who do I take care of first?

Priorities: If you take care of yourself, then you will be in shape physically and mentally to take care of you teenager. Care of the elderly parent depends upon their health and financial status. You of course want your boss to be pleased with you but that is basically at work, fulfilling the needs at work and performing well. ...Read more

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Coping with illnesses in my elderly parent. I need help please?

Coping with illnesses in my elderly parent. I need help please?

Self care: In times of stress try to engage in good self care- it is not always easy but helps with issues like caregiver burnout. Tips include good rest and sleep, healthy eating, finding some time for preferred and pleasurable activities, and taking short breaks if possible. If feeling very overwhelmed it may be with talking to a professional such as your doctor or a therapist. ...Read more

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How much should we urge activity director to involve elderly parent in events at the home?

How much should we urge activity director to involve elderly parent in events at the home?

It Depends: I can see how one could have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, we all want our parents taken cared of and payed attention to. On the other hand, we don't want to wind up in an adversarial relationship with those who we want/need on our side. Also, it matters what else could be done and the time needed. There are different degrees of urging and sometimes unsolicited advice doesn't work. ...Read more

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I just don't know what to do about placing my elderly parent. Is there a credible website to help?

I just don't know what to do about placing my elderly parent. Is there a credible website to help?

Hospice?: Not knowing the health of your elderly parent makes this hard to answer but hospice is often a useful resource even if your parent is not likely to die within a year(hospice's usual domain of care). ...Read more

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How do we daughters find the best nursing home for our elderly parent?

How do we daughters find the best nursing home for our elderly parent?

Informed decision: Visit facility, ask about ratio of patients to nurses, cnas; look at rooms -- see if they're private, semi-private, etc. Compare nursing homes by rating: medicare website is one of them: http://www.Medicare.Gov/quality-care-finder/#nursing-home-compare. Also, when a nursing home has been surveyed by a state oversight agency, it should have the results of survey readily available for you to look. ...Read more

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Where can my elderly parent get financial assistance for an aide at home?

Where can my elderly parent get financial assistance for an aide at home?

Try your insurance: This may be a covered benefit depending on your insurance and your parents medical condtion. Likely, if it is it will be for a minimum amount of hours. But, it is a start. Social workers are good people to find this sort of information out. ...Read more

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How important is good communication between doctors and me about my elderly parent?

How important is good communication between doctors and me about my elderly parent?

Most important: We dr's are often left in the dark about what to do with the elderly patient.Medicare has actually made a special code (how to bill) for a visit to discuss this with your parent's dr.Please avail yourself of this benefit.Living will, power of attorney& health care surrogate are all very important discussions to have before the need arises. ...Read more

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How must I discuss difficult news like needing a nursing home with my elderly parent?

How must I discuss difficult news like needing a nursing home with my elderly parent?

It is difficult: If possible, i would try and get your siblings (if you have some) as well as other family members involved in the entire process. It is very difficult for parents as well as for the children involved when it comes to needing nursing home placement. Perhaps there is a therapist, like a social worker in your area who can give you some ongoing assistance. Most nursing homes employ such an individual. ...Read more

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My sister diagnosed with MSSA and she lives with my elderly parents and shes been around me and my children and grandchildren. Do I need to stay away?

My sister diagnosed with MSSA and she lives with my elderly parents and shes been around me and my children and grandchildren. Do I need to stay away?

Wash hands!: (and that means everyone!) Staph aureus is pretty common, most people carry it in their noses, it only gets to be a problem if it's in the bloodstream or under the skin. MSSA just means it's easier to treat if an actual infection develops. ...Read more