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How can I handle switching roles and now being a care giver for my parents?

How can I handle switching roles and now being a care giver for my parents?

Ask for help: It is difficult to give both love and care. Children are the best to give love. Some parts of care can be delegated to others. Personal care assistants are trained to give care. ...Read more

Dr. Benjamin Lessig
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How can I handle my new responsibilities as a caregiver and husband?

How can I handle my new responsibilities as a caregiver and husband?

Listen to your gut: My parents are older. My children are 3-23 yrs old. My patients are 9-99! knowledge comes with time, but love and guts will get you through anything. You may not always be right, but at the time you are faced with decisions, you will do the best you can. No regrets, lots of luck and face it, we are not perfect. So let's do for others what we feel they would do for us when love is in the heart... ...Read more

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I am a unpaid healthcare provider for my mom. She has ms, i live with her now and i need any answer i can get as to how to help.

I am a unpaid healthcare provider for my mom. She has ms, i live with her now and i need any answer i can get as to how to help.

SOME APPROACHES: First contact the closest ms society office and network via phone or computer. Contact her neurologist and/or regular physician, and ascertain that her main meds are appropriately potent enough, and that her symptoms are adequately controlled. Have her follow a low fat, low salt diet, with vitamin d supplements. Help for a walker or wheelchair if necessary can be done via mss. Get e-mail update. ...Read more

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My brother is experiencing signs of paranoia and mania and I am concerned for his safety and health. How can I help him get the care he needs quickly?

My brother is experiencing signs of paranoia and mania and I am concerned for his safety and health. How can I help him get the care he needs quickly?

Bipolar disorder: Have him start by seeing his family doc. You might ask the scheduler if the doctor is comfortable diagnosing and prescribing for anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, or other psychiatric disorders. Have your brother fill out MDQ and PHQ-9 questionaires to facilitate his visit. He will most likely need medication, counseling, and follow-up. Good luck! ...Read more

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I live in illinois, I am the caregiver to my 86 yr old parent but my older sister has power of attorney. How can I get her to help me with expenses?

I live in illinois, I am the caregiver to my 86 yr old parent but my older sister has power of attorney. How can I get her to help me with expenses?

Make appointment: Maybe consider making an appointment with a good family therapist or social worker for you and your sister to see for some assistance in sorting things out. As long as your sister will go, the therapist can act as a referree to keep things on track and prevent them getting too out of hand. I work a lot with families teaching them how to have a 'fair fight.' good luck. ...Read more

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How can I get my husband to care more for my disabled child when he is stressed about the situation?

How can I get my husband to care more for my disabled child when he is stressed about the situation?

Counseling: I recommend you and your husband enter couples counseling to address your concerns and better understand your husband's feelings. ...Read more

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How should I view my role as a caregiver?

How should I view my role as a caregiver?

Read internet: Explore the internet. One example could be http://www.Caregivershome.Com/ we have commitments in life with family members, spouses, countrymen. We make them unselfishly when we are healthy and young. We have to stick to our commitments otherwise nobody will help us when we won't be able to take care of ourselves. ...Read more

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What can I do to make my kid more social. My child is three and has been going to daycare facility for a year. At school i find her playing alone.

What can I do to make my kid more social. My child is three  and has been going to daycare facility for a year. At school i find her playing alone.

Start small: Some kids are very intimidated by bigger, group social situations, such as one would find in a day care center and can feel overwhelmed. They then isolate themselves. It might be much better to start with one playmate at your home and keep it short - maybe an hour of playtime once or twice a week. Let the child get used to social interaction more slowly this way if they are so inclined! ...Read more

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I don't want recovery, I have a team of workers and a supporting family and good friends. How do I "want" to change? My eating disorder is a comfort.

I don't want recovery, I have a team of workers and a supporting family and good friends. How do I "want" to change? My eating disorder is a comfort.

Motivation: People have both short- and long-term goals. Comfort is a short-term goal. Achieving and maintaining health and life are long-term goals. Select what you "want," overall, by thinking of both types of goals. Often, short-term discomfort allows us to achieve longer term goals. You're in charge, either way. You're fortunate to have people who want to help you achieve your goals. Lucky you! ...Read more

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How can I handle friends that call me a 'junkie' for all my medications for my disability?

How can I handle friends that call me a 'junkie' for all my medications for my disability?

Openly and honestly: Sit down with your "accusing" friends and explain to them what is wrong with you and why you are taking what your take. Show them the doctor's notes and diagnoses and explain why you have to be on your medications. This is of course if you wish to tell them anything. Until you have this frank and open discussion, though, you may continue to be questioned. Are you on them legitimately? B true! ...Read more

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I have been struggling with bulimia, but tomorrow my friend is taking me to the school nurse to get help. Should i tell my parents?

I have been struggling with bulimia, but tomorrow my friend is taking me to the school nurse to get help. Should i tell my parents?

Support is crucial: If you're talking about yourself or someone else in her teens and living with her family, then absolutely, tell the mother. Bulimia is a serious disorder that is treatable but not easily so. Keeping it a "secret" from those close to you will make effective treatment far harder. You'll need all the support you can get from family and professionals. The school nurse is a start, but only that. ...Read more

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I'm a mum. Child lives with dad. I attempted suicide, lost a leg and having issues. During family mediation, Dad and I agreed I would cut off from daughter. How can I help daughter cope with this?

I'm a mum. Child lives with dad. I attempted suicide, lost a leg and having issues. During family mediation, Dad and I agreed I would cut off from daughter. How can I help daughter cope with this?

Continue Therapy: The best thing you can do for your daughter is to work hard on getting yourself well. Since you are required, for now, to not interact with your daughter, it's best to honor that agreement and let Dad give her a stable daily home environment. Once you are in a place, mentally and physically, of health, peace and stability, you can request a change in your interactions with your daughter. ...Read more

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Should I look for new caregivers if my parents are too old to take care of my baby?

Should I look for new caregivers if my parents are too old to take care of my baby?

Judgement Call: This is something you have to decide. If you feel uncomfortable with any person looking after your child when you are not there, then you should not let that person be in that situation. ...Read more

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My best friend is a single mom of two, but uses drugs and is slowly destroying herself, how can I get her help? Should i stop being friends with her?

My best friend is a single mom of two, but uses drugs and is slowly destroying herself, how can I get her help? Should i stop being friends with her?

Don't stop ....: It wouldn't be good to stop being her friend. It's better to be supportive, to not judge, to offer her help when she needs it. She has the right to do what she pleases with her life but don't stop trying for her. Be a good support for her kids, help her through tough times and encourage he always to seek help. ...Read more

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How can I stay in my home? I must see both a psychiatrist and a social worker and work with them if i want to stay in the house i've been labled paranoid schizophrenic i also have a low i q. That my brother doesn't even know my home is paid off free and

How can I stay in my home?  I must see both a psychiatrist and a social worker and work with them if i want to stay in the house i've been labled paranoid schizophrenic i also have a low i q. That my brother doesn't even know  my home is paid off free and

I : I think i may have responded to a previous question about this, if so i won't repeat that information. I recommend that you prepare yourself before you go in for your court directed mental health assessment. Ensure that you know the names of your medications and your doses. You might want to make a list for yourself of the things that you do independently to take care of yourself. For instance, do you take a bath or shower most days? Do you change the clothes you wear regularly? Do you brush your teeth at least daily? How many meals do you eat a day and who makes them? Are you able to self administer your medications? Can you handle your money? The evaluator may want to know if you have been having problems with violence or with the police. The evaluator usually needs to assess things like if you are a possible danger to yourself or anyone else or if you are able to take proper care of yourself. I also suggest that you discuss your concerns with your legal counsel. ...Read more

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75yr age span from grandma to son, and I take care of both. How long can I do this and keep my health?

75yr age span from grandma to son, and I take care of both. How long can I do this and keep my health?

Take breaks: Caretakers can wear out & become ill themselves if they fail to arrange periodic breaks from caretaking. Other relatives may spell you or you can arrange for trusted professionals/friends to give you a day or two away from the stress. Council on aging may suggest daycare center for grandma, for example. If your son has special needs, you may find a nearby support group that can help. ...Read more

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Hello, my boyfriend has herpes and i don't. i would love to find a way for us to have children with him passing it to our children and me?

Hello, my boyfriend has herpes and i don't. i would love to find a way for us to have children with him passing it to our children and me?

Should be easy: Almost everyone in this situation has healthy babies without problems. Your partner needs to be on anti-herpes treatment (e.g. valacyclovir), which will lower the chance of transmission to you. You can then have unprotected sex during your fertile (mid-cycle) days. Once you conceive, it will be important to prevent new infection in the last 3 months of pregnancy. Discuss with your gyn. Good luck! ...Read more

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Anyone have any ideas? My mom is coming to live with me, and I work at home. Should I also take her to a center with her peers?

Anyone have any ideas? My mom is coming to live with me, and I work at home. Should I also take her to a center with her peers?

Talk to her first...: It is great that mom is coming to join you..It is rare these days as we all want "our space" and the value of an extended family is decreasing...I miss that. There will be time she would need something thing to do and yes, you each will need your "space" so i would talk to her first to see if it is something she would enjoy...Good luck. ...Read more