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How can I be a caregiver for a husband I do not love anymore?

How can I be a caregiver for a husband I do not love anymore?

How can I be?: I don't know u ages and i don't know how long u have been married. If u have been together for a long time , it mean u had something in common that kept u together...And perhaps for old time sake u try to be there for him now... ...Read more

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Dr. Benjamin Lessig
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How can I handle my new responsibilities as a caregiver and husband?

How can I handle my new responsibilities as a caregiver and husband?

Listen to your gut: My parents are older. My children are 3-23 yrs old. My patients are 9-99! knowledge comes with time, but love and guts will get you through anything. You may not always be right, but at the time you are faced with decisions, you will do the best you can. No regrets, lots of luck and face it, we are not perfect. So let's do for others what we feel they would do for us when love is in the heart... ...Read more

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Is there somewhere I can get training to be a better caregiver for my husband?

Is there somewhere I can get training to be a better caregiver for my husband?

It depends: If you are asking for alzheimer's disease and its related dementia, there is a online training program - www.Care2learn.Com. Of course there are other web sites that you can learn. If you go to alzheimer's disease support group, just ask for workshop or training near your area. You can practice by joining volunteer at a local nursing home or at a local hospital with specailized geriatric unit. ...Read more

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Before hiring a caregiver, does it matter if your loved one requires occasional or continuous care?

Depends: As long as you and loved ones feel comfortable and sense of security. Geriatrician or geriatric case manager will help to assist your decision on the amount of hours needed for loved one. ...Read more

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As a caregiver, must I apply for guardianship of a loved one?

As a caregiver, must I apply for guardianship of a loved one?

NO: If the individual can designate a proxy, then a guardianship is not necessary. If the next of kin is to become the poa(power of attorney) and wants to make the health care decisions, then it is not necessary to have a legal guardianship process. However, if the person can no longer designate a proxy or health care decision maker, a guardianship maybe necessary if the person is not next of kin(. ...Read more

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What are some ways to cope as a caregiver to alzheimer's afflicted husband?

What are some ways to cope as a caregiver to alzheimer's afflicted husband?

Love him: Do not disagree with him, talk to him about past memories, try to do some activities with him. ...Read more

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How can I find suitable caregivers for my loved one with dementia?

How can I find suitable caregivers for my loved one with dementia?

Contact: Please contact to a local or county senior service. It has a list of agencies that provide care for the elderly. Once you pick an agency, find the right matchmaker for the companion. Please note that if you found it on newspaper ads, make sure that this person has fully bonded insurance and provides references from previous care. ...Read more

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How can I schedule in my sleep when I want to be there for my husband constantly as a caregiver?

How can I schedule in my sleep when I want to be there for my husband constantly as a caregiver?

Sleep at same time: Try to sleep when he is sleeping. Make sure he does not sleep during the day time, orherwise he wont sleep at night. He must sleep only at night. First attempt natural remedies to sleep ( valeriana, melatonin, tilo tea, sleepy time tea etc. ) or over the counter old antihistamines -if not present narrow angle glaucoma or bladder obstruction- before considering pills to sleep. ...Read more

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What technologies can help caregivers keep a loved one safe? Alarms? Motion detectors?

What technologies can help caregivers keep a loved one safe? Alarms? Motion detectors?

Elder safety: If you are asking about fall prevention, then it is not technology that helps. Try balance training exercises, maintain optimal eyesight & hearing, avoid drugs that cause dizziness or low blood pressure, ensure a safe home environment, treat problems that interrupt sleep and force you to get up at odd hours and so on & on.....! ...Read more

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Husband has been diagnosed with stage four cirrhosis caused by heart failure. As his caregiver what can I do to prolong his health? Diet? Prognosis

Husband has been diagnosed with stage four cirrhosis caused by heart failure.  As his caregiver what can I do to prolong his health?  Diet?  Prognosis

Get second opinion: Heart failure seldom causes advanced cirrhosis without a previous stormy course. Perhaps there has been confusion or a miscommunication. The prognosis depends on the cause of his heart failure & liver disease the combination of cirrhosis and heart failure makes me think of missed hemochromatosis -- if that's the diagnosis, he may be curable. ...Read more

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How could family caregiving hurt my husband?

How could family caregiving hurt my husband?

If not trained: Care in a healthy family environment is most of the time desirable. The problem arises when the medical issues get complicated and the family does not know how to help or they do not have the skills or time to help the patient. ...Read more

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How could family caregiving benefit my husband?

Multiple Ways: The addition of family assistance in the care of any loved one can add benefits. Many dementia patients for example are more comfortable with people they are familiar with. Sometimes a family member can step in and give you a much needed break even if that is only for uninterrupted sleep or to shop or the like. The love and support of families cannot be underestimated. ...Read more

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How can I handle caregiving for a husband that has increasing demands?

How can I handle caregiving for a husband that has increasing demands?

Therapy?: As we age, more and more demands are placed upon us...And how we cope with those demands is crucial to both ourselves and our spouses. You need to have some time for you! if this doesn't help the overall situation then a sit-down with your husband is in order; but(if it comes to it) sometimes a couples therapist can make a good mediator and help you both be aware of each other's needs. ...Read more

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How can I maintain my own health when caregiving for a husband?

How can I maintain my own health when caregiving for a husband?

Need some me time: I run into this a lot with patients and their spouses. It is very important that the caregiver find some way to carve out some time on a regular basis to nourish themselves and attend to their own needs. Otherwise caregiver burnout occurs over time. Also you may want to look into what is called respite care. Some nursing homes will admit a patient for a week or two to give the caregiver a break. ...Read more

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When do I determine if my husband who I am caregiving for need assisted living?

When do I determine if my husband who I am caregiving for need assisted living?

Caregiving: Being in a caregiver role is very difficult. Even though you love your husband, he may need more care then you can provide by yourself. Only you know how this is for you right now. But it could help to review your situation w/a geriatric care manager. They're trained to assess what's needed & how best to provide it -- http://www.Caremanager.Org/why-care-management/what-you-should-know/. ...Read more

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How will caregiving for my in-laws affect my husband and i's relationship?

It depends!: If your relationship is strong to start with it has more likelihood of being strong when you are care-giving. It could bring you closer together or create negative stress that could pull you apart, i think you and your husband should discuss all the angles before you decide on the best course of action. Good luck. ...Read more

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How do I let my husband know that my job is suffering because of my caregiving for him?

How do I let my husband know that my job is suffering because of my caregiving for him?

Open is Best: Open communication in a calm, straightforward and non-judgemental way is best. If your job is the only source of income for the family then this is very important. You know him best; if you are unable to communicate in this manner with him seek professional help with a counselor to find better ways to communicate. ...Read more

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Caregiving an elderly loved one in my home. Now getting itchy all over. Cause? Treatment?

Caregiving an elderly loved one in my home. Now getting itchy all over. Cause? Treatment?

Scabies or bedbugs?: Be vigilant for rash around pant line, nipples and in between finger webs. Scabies can be the great masquerader- often missed and spread around easily by caregivers. If there is an animal like a dog around, check for mange- it is communicable to humans as well. Treatment is easy and safe. If there is a chance of bed bugs(look at mattresses, sheets blood spots); look for the bugs closely. ...Read more

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How can I find caregiver support?

How can I find caregiver support?

Caregiver exhaustion: Your local newspaper or hospital should be able to provide you with local caregiver support groups list and meetings calendar. ...Read more

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What does caregiver syndrome mean?

What does caregiver syndrome mean?

Caregiver Breakdown : Usually occurs when a caregiver (cg), usually family, provide hands on care for a prolonged period of time. The cg is usually the only person caring for the family member/client and may have little or no breaks during this time. The client usually requires significant hands on care. The cg can become resentful, which can lead to guilt and other emotions. Worse case scenario abuse may occur. ...Read more