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How to mourn the death of my grandfather when I blame myself for his death?

How to mourn the death of my grandfather when I blame myself for his death?

Melancholia: The depression associated with guilt for the death of a loved one is severe and difficult to treat. It has been called melancholia by some authors, and it is important to discuss with a professional, seek advise and possibly treatment for this condition. As you talk about your issues and mourn the loss, you will feel more relieved and less depressed. ...Read more

Dr. Selby Jacobs
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Guilt (Definition)

To say Guilt is any way I can control you and make you feel anxious doing it. Its an atypical anxiety state that you feel when you are accused of doing something you should not have done, or you didn't do something you should have. The underlying feeling you have is resentment, but that remains unexpressed as you ...Read more


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My dad used seroquel (quetiapine) for a long time, at stroger doses in the end. He suffered a sudden death, after chest pain. He was depressed because of the condition of his father. Can I blame his meds? He was 65

My dad used seroquel (quetiapine) for a long time, at stroger doses in the end. He suffered a sudden death, after chest pain. He was depressed because of the condition of his father. Can I blame his meds? He was 65

Unlikely: More likely is a catastrophe such as a heart attack, aortic dissection or pulmonary embolus. I expect you would need an autopsy establishing his meds as contributing to his death and ruling out other causes. ...Read more

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When women cheat, why do most of them blame their man for their infidelity? I have rarely seen a man blame their wives when he cheats.

When women cheat, why do most of them blame their man for their infidelity? I have rarely seen a man blame their wives when he cheats.

Multiple reasons: Women she generally for the same reason that men do. The feeling of lack of emotional support, betrayal, feel that their spouse no longer has any interest in them. ...Read more

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Are genes to blame for slow metabolism?

Are genes to blame for slow metabolism?

Sometimes: There is some research that shows that certain individuals may have familial reasons for their obesity and low metabolism. ...Read more

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Why is my husband's postprandial sugar always high? He blames me.

Why is my husband's postprandial sugar always high? He blames me.

Food: Postprandial blood sugar corresponds to mealtime. If the post meal blood sugar is high, it might be due to 2 reasons: you are eating too much or eating the wrong food or your diabetes coverage is not correct for your meal. If this is a consistent problem, please see the doc to get his regimen reevaluated. ...Read more

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What could be to blame for my constant eye twiching?

What could be to blame for my constant eye twiching?

Tic: You may have a tic. Consult your doctor or a neurologist. ...Read more

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Motherinlaw blamed me for my childs overweight problem?

Motherinlaw blamed me for my childs overweight problem?

Much is genetic: Although there are 70 genes that can help lead to obesity, the impact of diet and habits are also key. Tv, ads, and fast food brainwashes kids to crave burger, chips, and candy. It takes great effort to train kids to really crave apples, green beans, and carrots. Much harder with this generation. But at least worth the effort. ...Read more

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How to deal with a brother who resents and blames me for my abuse?

How to deal with a brother who resents and blames me for my abuse?

No future in this: Maybe you meant no harm & thought you were giving "helpful guidance", but it must change. Offer to sit down with somebody you both know and respect and see if you can come to forgiveness and receiving forgiveness, and plan a future as brothers who might actually someday love each other again. Relationships are more important than being right. Resolve never to criticize or even "guide" him. ...Read more

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I was wondering if a vision problem is to blame for some recent headaches?

I was wondering if a vision problem is to blame for some recent headaches?

Possible: Eye strain can cause headaches. See an ophthalmologist to determine if there is any ocular etiology for your headaches. ...Read more

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Why do people in 12-step programs believe that its ok for people to blame others?

Why do people in 12-step programs believe that its ok for people to blame others?

They don't: Addicts who are not in recovery blame others. 12 step programs suggest that blaming others (carrying resentments) leads to continued addiction. ...Read more

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Could acth defeincy be to blame for trouble waking up every morning for the past 2 yrs?

Could acth defeincy be to blame for trouble waking up every morning for the past 2 yrs?

Possibly: Patients with central adrenal insufficiency, acth deficiency, can have fatigue and lethargy. If you have already been diagnosed with this condition, you should talk to your doctor to see if your steroid dose needs to be increased. If you have not been diagnosed with adrenal insufficiency, within 2 years, it's unlikely that is your problem, as patients typically become ill from that condition. ...Read more

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If a woman can't reach orgasm, is it the man's fault or the woman's fault? Because it seems like the man is always blamed.

Female Anatomy: Many couples, in fact, probably the majority of couples, find that intercourse alone does not stimulate the clitoris enough to reach orgasm.

It is the female's responsibility to be in charge of her own orgasm. But, if you love this woman, it is your opportunity to include clitoral stimulation during intercourse.

I often recommend to my patients that they get a guidebook: "the joy of sex". ...Read more

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I have never gained weight like I have in the past 7 months. Not even with 3 kids. 45 lbs in 7 months. Is my IUD to blame?

I have never gained weight like I have in the past 7 months. Not even with 3 kids. 45 lbs in 7 months. Is my IUD to blame?

Pro not IUD ALONE: If you have Mirena (levonorgestrel) iud 5% of those who use it may gain some weight because it containd progestin but not 45 lbs in 7 months
paragard is just copper iud and no hormones and should not make you gain weight
you should look at what you have been eating and how much exercise you are doing or consult a nutritionist to find the right diet and see yourdoctor to have your thyroid checked to rule out hypoth. ...Read more

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I live with a wife who is bpd and have been accused of everything and blamed. Found phone tapped and so upset what should I do?

I live with a wife who is bpd and have been accused of everything and blamed. Found phone tapped and so upset what should I do?

Couple therapy: Everyone can be sensitive in an intimate relationship, and bpd people can be highly fearful of abandonment. So couple therapy with a good therapist can be beneficial to improve your interactions. Approaches such as emotion focused therapy (eft) have a high success rate. ...Read more

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What could be wrong when you are unable to show or feel anger at a person who took everything away and all you think is that you were to blame?

What could be wrong when you are unable to show or feel anger at a person who took everything away and all you think is that you were to blame?

Need expert opinion: This is a psychiatric problem and is best handled by a psychiatrist or psychologist. It is not a sign of psychosis but a problem that psychotherapy not drugs may really help. ...Read more

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I take conseling but it doesn't help which I feel im getting blamed it won't but I don't know what to do and where I am on sobutex no one will hardlyhelp?

I take conseling but it doesn't help which I feel im getting blamed it won't but I don't know what to do and where I am on sobutex no one will hardlyhelp?

Alternative options: I am sorry to hear the counseling is not helping. There are different forms of counseling, with some being more effective than others. Based on your questions, outside of counseling options to consider include meditation and spiritual support. Should you like to discuss further I am available for consultation. ...Read more

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I am having nightmares. Is alcohol to blame?

I am having nightmares. Is alcohol to blame?

Try experiment...: Alcohol could definitely contribute to nightmares. Try stopping alcohol intake and see if nightmares go away or lessen. That being said, if you are a very heavy, chronic user of alcohol, do not abruptly stop your alcohol intake. It could be dangerous. If you fall into this category, seek help. ...Read more

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Do you think family is to blame for childs obesity?

Do you think family is to blame for childs obesity?

Definitely: Everything start in tha family. Thay are inddeed reposible. ...Read more

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Please help docs! Is my medication to blame for the weird waking dreams?

This is possible: Tell your pharmacist the name of the medication so possible side effects can be checked. ...Read more

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Who is to blame if uneducated person gets obese, diabetic?

Who is to blame if uneducated person gets obese, diabetic?

Complex question: Even the uneducated know that too much food is bad. That fried food and junk food is fattening. And they know that eating less will cause weight loss. Having said that, many habits are started in childhood, so parents are responsible for childhood obesity which leads to obese adults. We also live in a society where more is better and bad food is cheap. But personal responsibility trumps all. ...Read more

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Diagnosed schizophrenic but feel OCD is to blame? Could it be both?

Diagnosed schizophrenic but feel OCD is to blame? Could it be both?

They Can Co-Occur: Someone can be diagnosed with both schizophrenia & ocd. The association between the two disorders is complex & poorly understood. E.G. Someone with schizophrenia is far more likely 2 develop ocd than someone without schizophrenia. But someone with ocd is no more likely 2 develop schizophrenia than someone without ocd. Some researchers have spoken of a "schizo-obsessive" category of schizophrenia. ...Read more

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Why is the woman usually blamed when a couple have fertility issues?

Why is the woman usually blamed when a couple have fertility issues?

Life can be unfair: Since women have babies it might seem natural to blame them when they can't seem to get pregnant. The facts do bear out that probably 60-75% of infertility is due to some female related factor, but that leaves about one third of infertility causes in the male factor category. ...Read more

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I had 4 abortions no complications at 6weeks. One at 9 now I have had 3 miscarriages are my abortions to blame for this : (HELP! ?

I had 4 abortions no complications at 6weeks. One at 9 now I have had 3 miscarriages are my abortions to blame for this : (HELP! ?

No: I'm sorry for your loss. While your numbers are not exactly clear to me (4 abortions @ 6-9wks followed by 3 miscarriages? For 7 pregnancies total?), there are few correctable/preventable or known causes of repeat miscarriages. Check out http://www. Nytimes. Com/2008/03/25/health/25brod. Html & http://www. Nytimes. Com/2008/04/01/health/01brod. Html. Also http://goo. Gl/hBgk5d & http://goo. Gl/g6n8O6 ...Read more

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I started work on a 10th floor bldg requiring excessive elevator use. I now feel when I walk I'm bouncing and wonder if it's the elevators to blame.

I started work on a 10th floor bldg requiring excessive elevator use. I now feel when I walk I'm bouncing and wonder if it's the elevators to blame.

Seasick!: "Seasickness" or motion sickness can happen with elevator rides. Not to worry if mild and goes away. If it gets worse or never gets better see your doc. Also consider the stairs for all or part of the distance. Then you will get a lot of good exercise at work, and won't have to go to the gym as much when you're off! A trick you might use, on the elevator, is to focus on one spot while its moving ...Read more

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Am I multi-polar disorder? I am easy worry, doubt, anxious, sad, blame myself, imagine sex all day (no partner), a bit repeat, some walk around at home atnight

Am I multi-polar disorder? I am easy worry, doubt, anxious, sad, blame myself, imagine sex all day (no partner), a bit repeat, some walk around at home atnight

You need advice: From someone who cares and knows something about many illnesses, both physical and mental. Ideally it would be a counselor or therapist if you have access to them in China. This is probably not serious, and it would help a great deal to talk to someone who does not judge you but will work with you to find the cause and help you to feel better. Good luck! ...Read more

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Can severe anxiety make you imagine pain. Seem to notice pain more when sat around doing nothing rather than when busy. Wondering if anxiety to blame?

Can severe anxiety make you imagine pain. Seem to notice pain more when sat around doing nothing rather than when busy. Wondering if anxiety to blame?

Anxiety can raise: Pain level, as can boredom or focusing on symptoms. After seeing your doc to be clear on what you are dealing w/physically, consider clinical hypnosis for pain management. See www. Asch. Net for a list of licensed professionals who do this. Peace and good health. ...Read more

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What is to blame for the increase in obesity in children?

What is to blame for the increase in obesity in children?

Calories & Exercise: Most children have one or more issues- 1) too much junk food (high sugar, high fat foods), 2) too much food (eating more than they need), and 3) not exercising enough. The best approach is to work on all of them to encourage them to have more healthy choices. Making small steps and continuing to adjust will help them learn new habits. ...Read more

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Why would the media be to blame for eating disorders in young teenagers?

Why would the media be to blame for eating disorders in young teenagers?

It is more complex: Media is not the only one to blame for teenage eating disorders. The fashion industry plays a part, as do advertising, parenting, schools, the music and film industry. It is a social psychological phenomenon that has been pushing women and children to aspire to be thin and to assume that their bodies need to look like twiggy to be beautiful. Media will stop promoting this when parents protest. ...Read more