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Many causes: Most fetishes, a focus on some environment, object or state of dress which causes pleasure and arousal, come from exposure and conditioning in early life. Some circumstance is tied mentally to such pleasure that it is then sought after throughout life. Most are harmless, sometimes weird but rarely destructive. ...Read more
Why do you ask?: Every man and many women have some special, unexplainable thing that's a turn-on. Often these are fun. If it's something you don't want, focus on expanding your sexual repertoire through experimenting and communicating, and learn to be a good lover without. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is an option, and especially, focusing on the greatest goal of sexuality -- a really loving relationship. ...Read more
Manage it: Every man and many women have at least one inexplicable turn-on. If you like ladies in skirts, good for you. Give them as gifts to the special women in your life. If you like wearing then, you're one of the 10% of guys who like to cross-dress. If this is an unwanted compulsion or it limits what you can do, consider cognitive-behavioral therapy. Otherwise, consider simply enjoying it. ...Read more
Why do you ask?: Every guy, and many women, has some strange and inexplicable turn-on. Often these are fun. Pillow-talk after lovemaking is a good time. Ask her what her strangest turn-on is. You'll be surprised. Tell her, "Someday I'd like to meet a lady giant. But I like you better." If this is really causing you trouble, ask your doctor about cognitive-behavioral Rx to get back into control. ...Read more
If you are troubled: By your sexual tastes or if they are dangerous or illegal, you need to be seen by a professional. Find someone who specializes in sexual disorders and get help. Most important, do not act on any dangerous or illegal sexual fantasies! ...Read more
I have a huge panty fetish and love to wear them. How normal is it for men to wear women's lingerie.
This is a sexual fetish which in itself is harmless, unless causing family or personal stress. I do suggest discussing this fetish with a trained clinical psychologist.
Are you using the underwear for sexual purposes? (masturbation, sexual encounters, during intercourse). How long have you had this fetish and has it interferred with your life? ...Read more
Dr Wells is correct regarding adults still needing baby care. It is not a fetish and I really need my wife to help me. How can I get my wife to help?
Care: Explain openly to her what you need and that should help ...Read more
No way to know: People have a variety of fetishes or interests. Most do not cause any harm or keep them from living healthy lives with healthy relationships. It's like trying to ask someone "why" they like strawberry ice cream rather than vanilla. Everyone is different. If your fetish does not interfere with healthy relationships, it is not considered a problem. ...Read more
Fetishes: There are many different fetishes. As long as it involves two consenting adults and nobody gets hurt there is nothing to worry about. Not uncommon. ...Read more
Talk with someone: Every adult has some odd, inexplicable turn-on. What you think about when you enjoy your body alone is your business. There are online resources where people who share the same turn-ons can meet. Especially, almost everyone wants a quality relationship, and fantasy scenarios with perfect bodies and weird story-lines are a dead-end. Think about this, perhaps get guidance learning how to socialize. ...Read more
Time: Some drugs have medications that can help, but for the most part only time will "get them down". ...Read more
I have a medical fetish and wish to have every machine used on me and have every kind of tests and exams done?
See psychiatrist: Having unnecessary tests is not a hood idea. See a psychiatrist to work through this issue. ...Read more
Therapist: If you are having sexual urges or actions that are distressing then find a therapist. if you are in a mid size to large city there will likely be many therapists that specialize in sexual issues. This website has a "find a professional" link on their homepage: http://www. Aasect. Org ...Read more
No: But it is very important that any fetishes only be acted on with consenting women. ...Read more
Why do you ask?: Every guy, and many women, has at least one inexplicable turn-on. Often these are fun. If this is truly causing you difficulty, or you can't find love / romance without it, get with a physician / cognitive-behavioral Rx person who can help you improve your repertoire of behaviors that don't involve this. Becoming more versatile a lover / friend generally prevents / solves this kind of disability. ...Read more
CBT or Behavior Tx: I'd try to find a good match psychotherapist you trust and work well with. It can take time, but then you can discover ways to challenge the habit and understand what role it played so that you can make sure you find acceptable ways to meet your needs - they matter. Anxiety control will help - start w/ safety/legality focus - your wellbeing matters! ...Read more
Big picture: Every man and many women have some unexplainable turn-on. It's yours for a lifetime and often these are fun. If any kind of thoughts -- sexual or otherwise -- are keeping you from doing and thinking the things you want, then a short course of cognitive-behavioral therapy and/or a low dose of the right medication can usually abolish this. Vary your sexual repertoire & focus on real affection. ...Read more
Several approaches: When you're with someone special, kiss the person there and feel free to talk about liking ears. Everybody's got a few favorite things that aren't explainable; it's part of the fun. If you're troubled during the day by thinking obsessively about folks' ears, get with someone who can do some cognitive-behavioral therapy so you can be happier and more productive. But don't dislike yourself for this. ...Read more