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Doctor insights on: Can I Have A Stable Relationship And Still Have Borderline Personality Disorder

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Dr. Andrew Berry
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Personality Disorder (Definition)

According to the dsm IV tr, a personality disorder is: an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the individual's culture, is pervasive and inflexible, has an onset in adolescence or early adulthood, is stable over time, and leads ...Read more


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Is it likely to have a stable relationship and have borderline personality disorder?

Is it likely to have a stable relationship and have borderline personality disorder?

It's possible: One of the hallmarks of bpd is unstable relationships. But like most matters in psychiatry, it isn't 100%. It's entirely possible for someone with bpd to have a stable relationship, especially with someone who is consistent and trustworthy. Also, bpd varies in severity. There are mild cases that are hardly recognizable as bpd, and where stable relationships are not only possible but likely. ...Read more

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Could you have a functional relationship with a borderline personality disorder?

Could you have a functional relationship with a borderline personality disorder?

Beyond : ...2learn that dr marsha linehan, respected psychologist credited w/developing new approach 4treating borderline personality disorder dubbed "dialectical behavior therapy" herself had been diagnosed w/bdp. Read her story via @nytimes http://nyti.Ms/yxtgz8 with expert help, it's possible 2develop strong sense of self & 2develop self-soothing skills + ability 2communicate feelings effectively. ...Read more

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What is a borderline personality disorder person do to improve her relationships?

What is a borderline personality disorder person do to improve her relationships?

Set boundaries: The most common issue in bpd is poor or inconsistent boundaries. Set personal space, time, texting, phone, social media boundaries with a trained professional. Often bpd individuals lack a proper perspective of how their boundaries are either too permissive or exploitive. ...Read more

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How can you have a healthy relationship with someone who has borderline personality disorder?

How can you have a healthy relationship with someone who has borderline personality disorder?

Well: A person with Borderline personality Disorder could be high functioning. When someone who is high functioning works on their issues in treatment - a favorable result is possible. If you have a relationship with someone who has a borderline personality disorder encourage you to learn more about it. Learn to set healthy boundaries. If you are highly reactive to the other person - things could > ...Read more

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I have borderline personality disorder. Is it ok to just avoid close relationships? To prevent hurting both myself and other people?

Temporarily: It will be hard to avoid all close relationships for the remainder of your life. Getting therapy as to how to effectively manage close relationships and really discuss and be honest about new relationships helps. Developing plans to better manage relationships and relationship triggers is also helpful. ...Read more

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I have overwhelming anxiety that comes and goes. It has really affected my relationships. Do I have borderline personality disorder.

I have overwhelming anxiety that comes and goes. It has really affected my relationships. Do I have borderline personality disorder.

Anxiety & BPD: Yes, anxiety can be intense with borderline pd -- but it's not clear from what you wrote that you have it. People with bpd often experience extreme sensitivity to rejection & fears of abandonment. This can trigger angry outbursts and conflict in relationships. Long-term psychotherapy along with dialectical behavioral therapy (dbt) can help greatly. Start w/basic assessment first, though. ...Read more

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My psychiatrist says I have borderline personality disorder. He did a poor job of describing it so i still am not sure what it means. Help!

Unstable?: Feel empty often? Impulsive? Intense anger? Marked mood swings? Suicidal thoughts / behaviors? Self mutilation? Frantic efforts to avoid losing people in your life? Intense & unstable relationships? Difficulty figuring out who you are? Feel like others are out to get you or just lose time when stressed? Diagnostic & statistical manual of psychiatry lists diagnostic criteria. Talk more with doc. ...Read more

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I have adult adhd, depression and borderline personality disorder.. How the can I still date someone?

With extra awareness: If you are aware of your conditions and work hard to manage the symptoms there, you will successfully date someone. I have many patients with multiple diagnoses that are happily married, dating, involved, etc. Knowing your tendencies, communicating these with potential dates and partners is essential for building respect, trust, intimacy and eventually love. ...Read more

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Borderline personality disorder thanks for reading and any help you can provide. I have a family member who i'm fairly certain is bpd. I believe she's had similar problems stemming from childhood. How can we express to this person how her actions make p

Borderline personality disorder thanks for reading and any help you can provide.  I have a family member who i'm fairly certain is bpd.  I believe she's had similar problems stemming from childhood.
How can we express to this person how her actions make p

Part : Part of the challenge with having borderline personality is an inability of the patient to manage their emotional world. Often they will be controlling in order to give them some sense of their internal chaos. I would recommend the book, "stop walking on eggshells" by randy kreger to help give you some perspective and tools to deal with your BP family member. ...Read more

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Can you cure borderline personality disorder?

Can you cure borderline personality disorder?

U might be surprised: ...2 learn that dr marsha linehan, respected psychiatrist credited 4 developing new approach 4 treating borderline personality disorder (dubbed "dialectical behavior therapy") herself had been diagnosed w/ bdp. Read short version of her story via @nytimes: http://nyti.Ms/yxtgz8 who knows, u may learn 2 develop strong sense of self & become world's greatest self-soother + communicator of feelings! ...Read more

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How to cope with borderline personality disorder?

How to cope with borderline personality disorder?

EVAL: If you're talking about yourself as possibly having it, get a psychiatric evaluation for borderline PD symptomology and severity, and possible medication management. Then get a referral to a reputable clinician who specializes in borderline PD. Meds and therapy together are the most effective combination. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) has shown a certain level of effectiveness. ...Read more

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How can you treat borderline personality disorder?

How can you treat borderline personality disorder?

Not Your Job: You are not a professional therapist and have no business trying to be one. Get professional help or leave this person forever. To keep in a relationship that you are trying to establish would be destructive to you and your future. ...Read more

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How can borderline personality disorder make you feel?

Many ways: My patients often described their inner experience as one of emptiness, anger, rage, defiance, or constantly in search of a stable identity. They are often full of shame over things that they have done, especially in the area of sexuality. They often despise their own impulsivity and their own acts of self abuse, especially those that are cutters. ...Read more

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Can you please explain borderline personality disorder?

Can you please explain borderline personality disorder?

Long-term struggle: Bpd stands for "borderline personality disorder" and it is a long standing set of traits that cause much interpersonal suffering in the person who has bpd and often the people around them. People with bpd very often have histories of trauma and deeply fear being abandoned on the one hand and getting to close to someone on the other. Having bpd can easily lead to depression. ...Read more

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What exactly does borderline personality disorder mean?

Borderline defined: A pervasive pattern of instbility of interpersonal relationships, self -image, affects, marked impulsivity starts in early adulthood & presents with 5 plus of these:: efforts to avoid abandoment. relationships go from idealization to devaluation. Unstable self-image. Impulsivity. Suicidal behavior, self injury, affective instability, emptiness feeling, anger, paranoid / dissociative symptoms ...Read more

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Can you please explain borderline personality disorder?

Can you please explain borderline personality disorder?

Borderline me: I would be sensitive to criticism, quick to react, my moods fluctuate, I do things before thinking about consequences, i would have hard time finding stability in relationships, and i would have low self-esteem & poor self-image. If I am not in treatment, i might inflict self injuries to get relief of tension. ...Read more

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Dr. Alan Ali
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Borderline Personality Disorder (Definition)

A severe personality disorder, characterized by a very fragile self-esteem, highly volatile interpersonal relationships, and extreme mood and behaviors. This illness is often confused with bi-polar and drug intoxication states. Therapy (CBT and DBT) takes a long ...Read more