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Doctor insights on: Can A Sex Addict Fall In Love

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Is a sex addict capable of real love?

Is a sex addict capable of real love?

Jury is out: Sex addiction is a concept that has significant controversy. Many would say that, untreated, the sex addict cannot form a relationship with the commitment that is generally accepted as part of true love. Many would also agree that counseling would better the chances of overcoming this condition and achieving patterns associated with love. ...Read more

Sex Addiction (Definition)

Sexual urges, behaviors or thoughts that appear extreme in frequency or feel out of one's control. There's a pattern of recurrent failure to resist impulses to engage in acts of sex, persistent desire or unsuccessful effort to stop or control those behaviors, & continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having social, academic, financial, psychological or physical problems ...Read more


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I am exhausted and dismayed that I allowed myself, a former alcoholic, that I fell so deeply in love with a sex addict. What is wrong with me?

I am exhausted and dismayed that I allowed myself, a former alcoholic, that I fell so deeply in love with a sex addict. What is wrong with me?

What's RIGHT with: You is that you see the dangers in any form of addiction and are trying to work things out. Are you part of a 12 step group and do you have a sponsor? Please don't work on this alone. You need accountability and support. We tend to repeat the same relationship patterns over and over. You are a whole person w/or w/out a relationship. Peace and good health. ...Read more

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Can a sex addict ever be faithful?

Can a sex addict ever be faithful?

Probably not...: ...At least not without appropriate treatment. As with the treatment of any addictive behavior, the behavior is not just going to change on its own without treatment from a trained professional, often augmented by the addict's commitment to an appropriate 12-step program (e.g. Sa or slaa). The likelihood of his becoming faithful depends on a variety of factors involving motivation and personality. ...Read more

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How can I know if I am a sex addict?

How can I know if I am a sex addict?

If thinking about: Sex, engaging in sexual behaviors, or spending time in pursuit of sexual contact/items prevents you from engaging in normal life activities - that is a problem. Does it impact you in regards to your relationships with others, occupationally, recreationally etc.? ...Read more

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What are signs of being a sex addict?

What are signs of being a sex addict?

TROUBLE: If the behavior causes you trouble in your life but you cant/wont/dont want to stop:
-takes a lot of your time getting it or thinking about it or
-problems with work/family or
-legal problems
then it's an addiction. ...Read more

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Could you be a sex addict if you're a virgin?

Could you be a sex addict if you're a virgin?

Possibly: If you are addicted to pornographic movies & videos &/or can't control very frequent urges to masturbate & self gratify. Suggest you seek counselng if this "obsession" is interfering with you life. Good luck. ...Read more

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What could I do to find out if I'm a sex addict?

What could I do to find out if I'm a sex addict?

Suggested Q's 4 U: U'll find many "experts" happy 2answer: some men in relationships w/women who also seek sex w/men r being told they r sex addicts. Some ppl using images that turn them on r being called sex addicts. / I wonder about asking urself some q's like: what does sex mean 2 me & make me feel? What do I want from it? How is my sexual behavior making my life better? Worse? / good psychologist 2 help w/ q's? ...Read more

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What to do if I'm a sex addict, and I'm only 16!?

What to do if I'm a sex addict, and I'm only 16!?

Define it: You and essentially all your male peers enjoy yourselves when you're alone and are thinking things and looking at pictures even if your parents say it is wrong and not to do it. That's being human. If you are unable to take your thoughts off sexuality to do the other things you must do (learning, work, play) or are missing class because you're obsessing over erotica, then see you doctor. ...Read more

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What are some of the signs someone is a sex addict?

What are some of the signs someone is a sex addict?

Def. Of addiction: Continued despite harm/inordinate risk,
Compulsion,
Cravings/preoccupations out of the ordinary

are some of the hallmarks of addictions.

But if you are asking it is time to talk about it with a professional you can trust. Sex addiction is not uncommon and it warrants asking for help and there is good help out there. ...Read more

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How should I tell my shrink that I might be a sex addict?

How should I tell my shrink that I might be a sex addict?

Trust: Many of us seriously doubt there's any such thing as "sex addiction" comparable to addiction to tobacco or heroin. What you say to your mental health expert is utterly privileged, he/she has heard it all before, and there's no shame in mental illness, only shame in refusing to work on becoming a better person. Perhaps true love will find you after all. Good luck. ...Read more

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Can you tell me which are the symptoms someone is a sex addict?

Can you tell me which are the symptoms someone is a sex addict?

Compulsive: Need for sexual release, but not followed by satisfaction or really associated with any joy or "fun." people with compulsive sexuality are driven to have sex, take unacceptable risks and may very adversely affect their lives and the lives of their families. Many people are highly sexual, but enjoy the sex and it is fun and fulfilling. People with sex addiction do not enjoy it and its never enough. ...Read more

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Why am I a sex addict, I'm a 45 year old male and I master ate 2 or 3 times a day.

Why am I a sex addict, I'm a 45 year old male and I master ate 2 or 3 times a day.

Sex Addict: I don't know whether you are a sex addict or not but you could help yourself by seeing a mental health professional who is experienced in treating sexual problems, ask your doctor or your insurance carrier or your local psychological association for a referral. My best. ...Read more

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I am a sex addict, and I do some weird stuff then feel ashamed immediately after. Where can I get help?

I am a sex addict, and I do some weird stuff then feel ashamed immediately after. Where can I get help?

Talk to your dr: Sex addiction like all addictive disorders has a basis on reward talk to your doctor for referral for counseling or to 12 step programs geared for sex addiction
also some medications even though they are not fda indicated can be of help. ...Read more

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If a self-assessed sex addict, has days when he can easily control himself even during major triggers, could he assume that he's not an addict but BP?

If a self-assessed sex addict, has days when he can easily control himself even during major triggers, could he assume that he's not an addict but BP?

Great question: Hypersexuality can be a symptom of Bipolar illness. You might want to discuss this with a mental health professional. Some people have increased sexual activity as a result of a manic or a depressed state. It would be better for you to not diagnose yourself. ...Read more

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Doctors, what are the signs someone is a sex addict?

Doctors, what are the signs someone is a sex addict?

Sex addiction: If any sexual behavior (with others or not) is compulsive ; taking up more of yr life, continuing despite negative consequences or doing it in secret while in relationship, check sex addicts anonymous (www. Sexaa. Org) for a self-test, info ; links to in person, online and phone mtgs. Saa works. You may also seek a therapist who specializes in treating sex addiction. There is lots of help and hope! ...Read more

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Does a sex addict have more or less dopamine?

Nobody knows: You can't measure dopamine levels clinically, and the amounts that are present are so tiny, that differences that may be clinically significant would not be noticeable. The biology is not what is important, it is the sociology and psychology of the problem. You have anger and anxiety but are using testosterone and you are 17??? This is self-destructive and you need counseling. You will do damage ...Read more

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If my partner is a diagnosed sex addict what can I do to get him to not want sex as often? He wants sex 3times a day and he gets very frustrated

Treatment: He needs to see a therapist. If he really is a sex addict (and not just someone with a high sex drive) then he may want to attend sex addicts anonymous meetings. Here is their website: http://saa-recovery. Org/. ...Read more

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I am a sex addict, should I talk to friends about it? What should I do?

I am a sex addict, should I talk to friends about it? What should I do?

Counseling: Probably not good idea to discuss with your friends because you never know which of them may be a blabber mouth and the information could end up in the wrong hands. Best o see a paychologist or psychiatrist. Good luck. ...Read more

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What defines sex addiction? How to tell if someone is a sex addict?

What defines sex addiction? How to tell if someone is a sex addict?

Out of control: A sex addiction occurs when sex is interferring with social, occupational & recreational activities. The person tries to stop the behavior but can't. They spend more time or require progressively more hard core sex to satisfy their need. It usually requires that the person spends a fair amount of time either engaging in or fantasizing about sex. A psychological eval can dx. ...Read more

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I am sex addict and I want to get rid of it what should I do, please help me?

I am sex addict and I want to get rid of it what should I do, please help me?

Sex Addict: The disease of addiction can affect us in a lot of different ways. It may be wise to find a therapist who helps with this addiction. There are also treatment programs (both outpatient and inpatient) that can help you learn about this disease, to fellowship with similar people and to learn how to bring some sanity back to your life.

It is good that you are wiling to ask for help. ...Read more

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My girlfriend is a sex addict, at times she shakes whenever the cravings are very bad. How can she control that if possible?

My girlfriend is a sex addict, at times she shakes whenever the cravings are very bad. How can she control that if possible?

Need her perspective: It's always hard to comment on someone thru another person - we generally don't find playing telephone useful. If you are seriously concerned about your girlfriend there are resources to help her - but you would be best to approach her in a non-confronational way (as she sees it). It's a difficult topic to broach and she might shut down if you're too straight forward, but I could be wrong. ...Read more

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Could I still be a sex addict if I don't frequently masterbate, never watch porn, but constantly have and think about sex all the time, evrey day?

Could I still be a sex addict if I don't frequently masterbate, never watch porn, but constantly have and think about sex all the time, evrey day?

Depends: How much is this getting in your way? If you are thinking about sex so compulsively that you aren't getting your work done, or doing well in school, and it is getting in your way, then it may be a problem. Ditto if it is not letting you have a normal social life. A consult with your doctor and/or referral to a therapist may help sort it out. Adolescents/young adults think more about sex. ...Read more

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Is sex addiction real?

Is it real for you?: You might consider attending a mutual support meeting for sexual compulsivity. Listen to the experience of others for whom sex addiction is real before you decide for yourself. ...Read more

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What exactly is a sex addiction?

What exactly is a sex addiction?

A mental disorder: Sex addiction is a mental disorder where thoughts about sex are constant and intrusive to the point of interfering with otherwise normal behavior. It requires therapy to recover. ...Read more

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How to control my sex addiction?

How to control my sex addiction?

Get help: Contact a psychologist who specializes in sexual addictions. Consider going to a support group like aa for people who suffer from sexual addictions. Get a sponsor who has achieved control for a few years. They can help you. Good luck! ...Read more

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What are the symptoms of sex addiction?

What are the symptoms of sex addiction?

Sex Addiction?: Not everyone considers "sex addiction" a useful diagnosis, in the first place. Read Dr. Marty Klein's thoughtful perspective on it: http://www. Martyklein. Com/why-sexual-addiction-is-not-a-useful-diagnosis-and-why-it-matters/ Suggest consulting w/ a sex-positive therapist to understand concerns you may have about yourself (or other person) in relation to compulsive sexual behavior. ...Read more

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Are there patterns of sex addiction in men?

Are there patterns of sex addiction in men?

Sex Addiction?: Not everyone considers "sex addiction" a useful diagnosis, in the first place. Read Dr. Marty Klein's thoughtful perspective on it: http://www. Martyklein. Com/why-sexual-addiction-is-not-a-useful-diagnosis-and-why-it-matters/ Suggest consulting w/ a sex-positive therapist to understand concerns you may have about yourself (or other person) in relation to compulsive sexual behavior. ...Read more

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What are the symptomsof sex addiction in men?

Some are:: •frequently engaging in more sex and with more partners than intended.

•being preoccupied with or persistently craving sex; wanting to cut down and unsuccessfully attempting to limit sexual activity.
•thinking of sex to the detriment of other activities or continually engaging in excessive sexual practices despite a desire to stop.
•spending considerable time in activities related to sex, ■serial infidelity
■compulsive masturbation
■cyberporn/cybersex addiction or abuse
■anonymous sex
■sexual boundary problems
■voyeurism
■exhibitionism
■prostitution/escort addiction. ...Read more

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What is sex addiction? My cougar wants it all the time.

See below: Addiction implies persistance of a behavior despite negative consequences, not just "wanting lots of something". Are there bad cosequences to her excessive libido. Have you communicated that you feel the need is excessive. Counseling may be appropriate. ...Read more