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Don't be ashamed: There are so many ways you can make the world a better place by being kind and helping others. Focus on those and you will be loved and you will find that you have nothing to be ashamed of. ...Read more
I am a sex addict, and I do some weird stuff then feel ashamed immediately after. Where can I get help?
Since the abortion I don't feel the same, I can't concentrate, I feel angry, guilty and ashamed with myself. I don't feel like going out just home?
No blame, no shame: Nobody chooses to be depressed. If we realize we have depression, we can take responsibility & get the help we need. It can be hard work, but w/ the right help (therapy & meds) it can be overcome. The difference between responsibility & blame is the negative judgment involved in blame. Judging won't help. Taking responsibility & doing the work will. Avoiding alcohol (a depressant drug) helps too. ...Read more
I'm slightly overweight and I'm ashamed, except dieting is they anything I do to help me feel better?
Overweight: Exercise in a regular basis. After doing this for several weeks and feeling better and starting to see results you will miss it if you stop! Good luck and happy workouts! ...Read more
Need advice as I keep picking out my hair and is to ashamed to tell any body I don't know how to stop?
Get seen: There are physicians who can treat trichotillomania and other compulsions. Other folks won't understand but for these people, it's familiar and fairly manageable. Your primary care physician has heard for worse and your secret's safe and a referral is in line. You'll be glad you did. ...Read more
Sometimes when I think psychotic like thoughts, I drink pepsi, it goes away, and I feel ashamed. What is wrong with me?
Actually caffiene: Which is in pepsi, has been found to increase, not decrease psychotic thoughts. Talk to a psychiatrist about your thoughts and shame. They will know what medication will help you the best. Good luck and let us know how you do. ...Read more
Sorry and super ashamed but just recently found out I was pregnant and was wondering if the fact that I have taken so ozone going to come up?
Inform your GYN: I would certainly suggest notifying your OB-GYN about any medications or street drugs you have taken. ...Read more
Sometimes I pass urine in bed at night. How to treat it m already 21. have got all tests done, there is no problem. What to do, I feel really ashamed?
Visit your: Doc there is help. Don't be ashamed of something beyond your control!! ...Read more
2 weeks ago I confided to pyschologist that. I had. A sucidal plan, but alerted the crisis people later, I have an appointment but too ashamed to go?
Go: There is no shame in seeking help. The mental health providers will not be embarrassed or judgmental. They will be working to help you get to a better place mentally and emotionally. ...Read more
People tell me I am an inspiration. They also count me successful. To the contrary I feel ashamed. Life is tasteless and I'm sad all the time. Pls help?
You may be: Depressed. There are several types. One is in response to a loss and another is more biologically based. Both can be helped w/therapy, exercise, lifestyle change, and perhaps medication. Please seek the help of a professional. Sounds like you have many appealing qualities but discount them because you know your flaws. We all have them. ...Read more
Talk to someone: Some men have gender dysphoria and feel they are really women. Some men raised in "super-religious" environments are made to feel guilty just because of the intense feelings that go with sexuality. Talk with someone sensible. Stop comparing yourself with the guys you see on the internet. If there's something about yours in particular, discuss it with your physician. Use it wisely & learn to enjoy. ...Read more
SMILE: Dental health and a good smile certainly is important to you. You seem to have definitive issues and concerns about your smile, so I recommend seeing a good dentist and see what options you have for improving your teeth and improving your smile. This day and age, you can get a great smile, it just may be costly doing so, so depending on how important for your self esteem, you may want to go for it. ...Read more
How small: It is really depend on how small is it small by comparison to others you see in the shower or is it so small you could see it to urinate most of the time size varied and it will not make a different as far sexual function you can go and see a doctor that can examined you order some test and either assure you or treat you ...Read more
Don't feel badly: This problem is much more common than you probably think! Painful intercourse is called dyspareunia. The list of possibilities is too long for this space, but if you talk with a doctor who works with pelvic pain I am 99% certain you can get help...And please don't feel badly or like you are 'weird, ' just do yourself a favor and get help soon. ...Read more
My penis is small like baby size small when not erect but erect it gets bigger. I'm ashamed of this and want it to look bigger I need help.?
This...: Is always difficult. There is no "magic bullet" for penile enlargement. Remember to be confident in who you are as a person. The penis has limited overall functions and as long as it can do those, then try not to focus on the size. Most partners ultimately won't hold this against you. If you are overweight, then weight loss can help tremendously and be healthy for your heart. ...Read more
Is masturbation something to be ashamed of? I am just saying people have sexual urges that are hard to control and those needs have to be handled.
The simple answer to this common questions is that masturbation is a natural part of the human experience. All men masturbate. It is nothing to be ashamed of, nor is it in any way a problem from a medical perspective.
Now, some religions will teach that his is not normal and is somehow a sin. I believe that guilt is not worth the energy on this issue. Masturbation is normal. ...Read more
Hey doctors! I have always carried an embarassment with me of having dark inner thighs that makes me feel ashamed & dark underarms as well! Help : (?
Your embarrassment: Is something you learned and is perhaps also cultural. Keep yourself clean and strive to measure your self-worth by the way you act and treat people. Others will see this and respond accordingly, except for a few that you are better off not getting into a relationship with. Peace and good health. ...Read more
I am 20y, 5'9", 80kg. I feel ashamed in moving aroud with people cz I thingbi am too fat. I am on diet since one month but no results. What should I do.
Hello sir/mam my age is 23 male and my question is thati still doesn't have enough beard and moustache as a normally man of y age please suggest what to do I feel so ashamed of it?
Moustache: Not every man can grow a full beard. That is completely normal. You can visit a Dermatologist to see if there is anything that can be done to enhance your facial hair. ...Read more
Keep going!: Keep communicating. There is help and you are not alone. The fear shame and depression are part of the process. If therapy and anti-depressants haven't worked for you in the past it doesn't mean they won't work in the future. There are lots if different kinds of therapy and lots of different meds. Keep looking for the combination that does work. Good luck. ...Read more
My son and I are traveling so he can see friends he has not seen in a year. They assume we all will meet briefly. I think he is ashamed. What should I do?
Friends: I think its healthy for kids to have variety of friends given the flattening and globalization of our ever connected world today. As long as these friends are providing positive and growing environment vs. Negative one (illegal activity, bullying, etc.) then its perfectly normal. ...Read more
You are unique: I agree with dr. Villar. There is no reason to be ashamed of being yourself. Each one of us is unique--we have our own strength profiles. Your value as a person is not dependent on you being like anyone else. What you want to achieve for yourself is what's important. Ask for help and be proud of yourself for getting involved and seeking to improve yourself. Your efforts will pay off. ...Read more
Dreams are largely: Symbolic. Do you think the full hijab could be covering up transsexualism (not being muslim)? ...Read more
Sir, I sweat a lot even if work for minute of time. I feel ashamed of myself. I need tips to reduce my sweating?
See derm: See dermatologist to discuss your therapy options. ...Read more
The skin on my knees is so dark these days, it's really annoying me and I am ashamed of it. Is there any way to make them look lighter?
Sun block is key: Skin lighteners such as kojic acid, hydroquinone, and plant extracts should only be used if proper sun protection is used. Over the counter products are safe and generally contain 2% kojic acid which limit their effectiveness. They work by blocking the production of melanin which is the natural pigment in the skin cells. Always check with a dermatologist to make sure there are no contraindications. ...Read more
I feel ashamed that I can't get my wife pregnant naturally. Is this a normal feeling? Been trying since january 2011 w/unexplained infertility.
Yes: That is very common. Many man and women feel sad, or embarrassed or even ashamed. There is no reason to be. >15% or all couples have infertility. And both the man and woman play a role. To be honest, unexplained infertility usually is a result of lack of fertilization, poor egg quality, or even abnormal egg genetics and is much less commonly related to the sperm. See a fertility specialist! ...Read more
I'm a bit ashamed but I find myself liking the smell of johnsons baby powder and I sometimes eat it, I even eat small chalk stones will it kill me?
PICA: Pica is characterized by an appetite for substances largely non-nutritive, such as ice, clay, chalk, dirt, or sand. In your case, it is not recommended to eat baby powder, as that substance is not intended for consumption. You should see a psychiatrist for your craving and want to consume this substance. Best wishes. ...Read more
Why do I feel so ashamed of my history of rape? I know it wasn't my fault, I was in kindergarten. But 10 years have passed and I'm so ashamed of it.
Sorry 4 your pain: You say that you understand that it was not your fault, but you still feel ashamed. It is likely that you understand at an intellectual but not at an emotional level. This is not uncommon. If you are interested, I would recommend therapy with a psychodynamically or psychoanalytically trained therapist. It is likely that you will gain significant insight into why you still feel shame. Good luck! ...Read more
Feeling so guilty ashamed and remorseful after my psych called a triage team because of fear of suicide. How do I say I am sorry for being a burden?
Am a male, 20 years, my lower body is bigger then the rest! And am a fell ashamed cuz have big butt just like females! Is genetics are the cause?
Genetics is the: Cause. You could explore plastic surgery evaluation if it is very concerning for you. ...Read more
I feel so ashamed to date because of the size of my penis. The girth is too small. What should I do? Should I pretend and date someone? Please help me
How will she know?: How will she know how big your penis is, when you ask her out for a date? As president Franklin Roosevelt once said, in 1933 about 83 years ago, "... Let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself. .. " If she might say YES, then all one can do is ask. Life is full of uncertainties, so she might say YES or she might say NO, but it won't be due to penis size. ...Read more
Hey there. .. Im' ashamed to say I've been masturbating. I want to know :what harm does it have on my body and will it ever lead to me being infertile?
Masturbation is a normal, natural part of the human experience. There is no medical or scientific reason to limit or to not masturbate.
Everyone around you also has or does this sexual practice.
You do not need to tell the whole world that you do this, and it can be a private part of your life. This sexual practice is god given.
Please do not feel guilty about participating in this activity. ...Read more