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Able Virgin Sex
Possibly: If you are addicted to pornographic movies & videos &/or can't control very frequent urges to masturbate & self gratify. Suggest you seek counselng if this "obsession" is interfering with you life. Good luck. ...Read more
Sex and Doctor's: One does not go to the doctor to learn how to have sex, when to have sex, or with whom to have sex. There are very strict and appropriate ethical boundaries we do not cross. I often recommend to couples that they get at least one guidebook to sexual activities to learn the how's to do certain behaviors safely. It is not medicine's role to tell you how to have sex to maintain virginity. ...Read more
???: I'm sorry, but I don't quite understand your question. You "have a sex" but are still a virgin? And you want to know what to do? The phrase "having sex" usually means intercourse, after which you would no longer be a virgin. In some cultures rectal intercourse does not "count, " but this is still a sexual experience. If you can please rephrase your question, we can try to answer better. Thanks. ...Read more
Coital or post: Coital bleeding is not normal and warrants medical attention. ...Read more
Blood=tissue injury: The basic answer is bleeding represents tissue injury which should not be part of regular sexual activities. It could represent a minor tear in a small area or a scratch that is oozing. If it is minimal and stops quickly it may self heal. If it is a recurrent predictable occurrence it needs to have this evaluated by a physician. ...Read more
Not met right person: Do not feel rushed or rush yourself--don't "give it away" just to do it. It is extremely likely you will find a partner in the near future, just cannot put a stopwatch on it. ...Read more
Yes: Most of the time the hymen is not intact because of tampon use so do not worry. ...Read more
Std's are preventable with condoms. Try them out beforehand to know how they go on and how they work and find which ones work best with you.
Not expecting a physical action to go perfectly the first several times.
Stable relationships helpful in communcation of what works/feels good. ...Read more
Does sex hurt if your a virgin and that person is gental? Does you hymen heal up afterwards and for how long?
Varies..: In general, if gentle, careful, use plenty of lubrication and lots of foreplay, loss of virginity should not be excessively painful. The hymen does not heal up. It just tears and disappears. Healing usually takes about a week, but depends on how much injury (if any) there was and whether you continue to irritate the area with continued sexual activity. Please consider contraception... ...Read more
I'm 40 and a virgin waiting for the man of my dreams Will it be harmful to have first time sex this late in my life?
No: Not harmful. And hopefully your dream man comes soon ...Read more
How to make sex with my bf but still keep my virginity? Can he penetrate just a little in a way I still be a virgin?
Not really: Virginity is defined as not having had partner sex. You can use another definition if you wish, but you are only fooling yourself. Whether you engage in oral, anal or vaginal sex, you have done so with a partner. By definition you would be at risk of a sexually transmitted disease and variable risk of pregnancy. ...Read more
I am not virgin. But I have not done sex since last 2years. If I get married my husband will or won't know about it..
Likely will suspect: Many cultures use the presence of an intact hymen as the gold standard for virginity. You may have never had one or lost it through non sexual contact, but its absence would lead to suspicion. It would be best not to hide the facts when and if you find someone you want to share life with. ...Read more
I can't roll my foreskin all the way back when erect, why is this? As a virgin I'm not sure, how will this affect sex? I'm 17 if age is relevant.
Here are some...: All what you reported about your penis at erection could be normal for you and should not affect your sex life as long as being free of inflammation and discomfort and not interfering regular hygiene despite having a long foreskin. More? Seek evaluation and counseling so to decide if active care is practically needed. ...Read more
Me & my boyfriend are both virgins & have only done stuff with each other and don't have any health issues. We have oral sex sometimes, are we okay?
? Define okay?: Two people who have never had sexual contact with anyone else are at no risk for commonly listed sexually transmitted diseases. They can spread other things through contact, including Herpes from a cold sores that date back to childhood, hepatitis, and other diseases that spread through close contact. ...Read more
If ur technically still a virgin (no penetration or oral sex at all) & 19 do u really have to go to a gyno? Nervous/scared, need advice to calm nerves
You're not the 1st: You may want to call the office and talk with the nursing staff about what would go on in your case. Formal bottom exams are not recommended until age 21 or the beginning of sexual activity. The docs have other ways to get some of the info they need like an ultrasound. A modified bottom exam using tools for virginal patients can also be done. I'd call first, you may find your worry is common. ...Read more
Hello sir....i just want to know that if we do sex before marriage with bf...then husband will come to know that I am not virgin if yes how? Please let
Yes, because your: Hymen will be missing, which happens after the first time. ...Read more
Can sex still hurt after losing my virginity? He stuck it in didn't move much. The next day our second time we tried again but it hurt. Still virgin??
Dyspareunia: There may still be some discomfort during intercourse after the initial occasion where the hymen is penetrated. It may take a few days for the area to heal. I also would suggest using a lubricant the next time which should help make things more comfortable. ...Read more
Good for you!: It sounds like you have some personal values that are encouraging you both to stay pure until you are married? Although it's not as popular in today's society this is a very healthy option. If you are dating with the view toward eventual marriage you can discuss what a gift it will be to give each other at that time. You can reduce stress by limiting the temptation you subject yourselves to. ...Read more
Hard to say: Bleeding is a sigh of tissue injury. The vaginal wall of a post adolescent female is estrogenized/toughened enough to handle intercourse. If you are bleeding, there is some form of tissue tearing, so you should have an evaluation to see where the blood is coming from. ...Read more
There are many: Possible causes for coital ; post coital bleeding. It is not normal and warrants medical evaluation. ...Read more
Probably not: The only one who really knows for sure if you are a virgin is you! You can decide to tell your partner or not. That is up to you. Your response to your partner will tell him the most without saying a word! ...Read more
Depends: If you are absolutely sure you both are true virgins, and I mean absolutely, the risks are minimal. Remember oral problems, viruses, cold sores, etc can be transmitted to each other! ...Read more
Age old problem: There are many, terrific references about this very topic and these are a good place to start. These are mostly found in the teen sections of public libraries. There are sites with information on the internet but these can quickly link to more advanced stuff not worth a look for a beginner. Of course if you have a confident to discuss this with, that can be helpful. ...Read more
Depends: A girl (woman) who is releasing eggs (after puberty) can become pregnant. All that needs to happen is sperm entering the pathway to the egg. That means any sperm that is on a finger or penis or whatever, that enters the female genitals can result in pregnancy.It would be unlikely for such an exposure to result in pregnancy, but it is possible. ...Read more
How does a virgin girl have effective sex with her boyfriend for the first time without it hurting?
Slowly and lovingly: Your boyfriend should realize you are a virgin, and if you are definitely ready for this very important step in your life, then you should now it is very important to be a mature responsible person. Know that you should be on birth control if you are going to be sexually active and do not want to be pregnant. Also use condoms to prevent any sti's. Take it slowly. If not 'wet' use, lubrication. ...Read more