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How can I keep the fire in my relationship with my now-handicapped husband?

How can I keep the fire in my relationship with my now-handicapped husband?

Remember how u met: Keep saying words of appreciation, admiration. Be affectionate. Give him respect. Trust him. Believe in him. Do not accuse or blame each other. Depending upon his capacities...Attempt new ways of being romantic or sexual. Always remember your mission in life as a couple, remember your children. Eat healthy, sleep enough, exercise, look for sources of inspiration or motivation in reading, praying. ...Read more

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My son in law just had a shut down with PTSD and I don't no how to handle it or help him?

My son in law just had a shut down with PTSD and I don't no how to handle it or help him?

Of course: Even professionals can see this as difficult. You need real help! What you might be able to do is insure safety. Clear away major weapons and car keys. Try to get calm support of a trusted other - in person or on phone or social media. Offer water, comfort food, least upsetting music. Try to shut out irritating stimuli - advise Dr/ER/police of situation as appropriate. ...Read more

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I had a panic attack alone in my car. What can I do to get through it on my own?

I had a panic attack alone in my car. What can I do to get through it on my own?

Panic attack: Panic attacks often happen in enclosed spaces. open windows, or turn air conditioning on, turn on music, breathe deeply. ...Read more

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My girlfriend and i both have ADHD how do I learn to show her that i love her in a way she truly gets?

My girlfriend and i both have ADHD how do I learn to show her that i love her in a way she truly gets?

Best resources: There are several books out there on the adhd/add person in love. The adhd effect on marriage is a particularly good one. ...Read more

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I'm in love with my best friend but he doesn't know it. The problem is, when I go around to his house and meet up with him I feel very nervous. How can I control this anxiety and tell him as a 20 year old guy?

I'm in love with my best friend but he doesn't know it. The problem is, when I go around to his house and meet up with him I feel very nervous. How can I control this anxiety and tell him as a 20 year old guy?

Complex: This is a difficult situation occurring at a complex time of development. Being concerned about such a deep emotional at any time is not ''unhealthy''. My concern is the combination of your age and your anxiety surely deserve discussion with a trusted and trained physician. ...Read more

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What to do if i just cut my finger with a dirty old stanley knife blade, can I treat it on my own?

What to do if i just cut my finger with a dirty old stanley knife blade, can I treat it on my own?

Probably not: The parts of your question that concern me are "dirty" and "old." old dirty metal items are frequent sources for tetanus and other common and equally concerning infections. I would thoroughly clean it with warm water and soap, wrap it, and go to see your primary doc in a day or so. If the cut is very deep, or if you start to develop pus-like drainage, heat, or swelling i would go to the er. ...Read more

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What can I do if my husband was hit in the testicles how can I convince him to see a doctor?

What can I do if my husband was hit in the testicles how can I convince him to see a doctor?

Testicular pain: Pain, bleeding, swelling, loss of a testicle, and other problems can occur from testicular injury. Commonly, the pain alone will cause a man to seek help. ...Read more

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I can't trust anybody and i feel like every relationship i'm in the man is cheating on me and i still won't believe him sometimes how can I trust?

I can't trust anybody and i feel like every relationship i'm in the man is cheating on me and i still won't believe him sometimes how can I trust?

Worth Closer Look: Given importance of being able 2 trust in life -how it's the foundation of close relationships- u might consider seeking professional help exploring the basis of ur difficulties. Ur early experiences might provide some insight as might a careful assessment of ur beliefs about ur partners cheating on u; ur thought patterns, in general; etc. The cheating thoughts could be ocd obsessions, 4 example. ...Read more

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My father is having frozen back & i really have no idea bout this. Can someone enlighten me and how does my father got this? He's 59 and a driver

My father is having frozen back & i really have no idea bout this. Can someone enlighten me and how does my father got this? He's 59 and a driver

Back: Do you mean chronically stiff spine or arthritis with rigid spinal column? If usual measures like warm packs, liniment, nsaids like ibuprofen,physical therapy,muscle relaxants don't help, have him consult an orthopedic surgeon or rheumatologist for evaluation and treatment. ...Read more

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I lost my best friend in a car crash and i lost my love but in life and she'll never come back to me again , why should i stop drinking then and how?

I lost my best friend in a car crash and i lost my love but in life and she'll never come back to me again , why should i stop drinking then and how?

Honoring Love: Gosh. I get it. Loss can be so much pain that everything hurts. I would hazard a guess that if she were here she may have an opinion to express. Wasting a life mired in the fog of alcohol is not in any way honoring her or your love. She would want you healthy and productive. Living a life of meaning and service. She would want her death to inspire you to make your life count. ...Read more

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How can I tell my partner I really wanna be with him and crave and sex ? What way can I tell him . In writing  .

How can I tell my partner I really wanna be with him and crave and sex ?   What way can I tell him . In writing  .

Pose as a question: Would you be interested in carrying our relationship to a different level? Do you think intimacy adds another dimension for us? ...Read more

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I just got back from and overseas combat in iraq, i just got home and my girlfriend is having problems going to the bathroom shes going maybe 2 times a week, xhes in pain a lot and i don't know what to do, please help, any addvice would help, please help,

I just got back from and overseas combat in iraq, i just got home and my girlfriend is having problems going to the bathroom shes going maybe 2 times a week, xhes in pain a lot and i don't know what to do, please help, any addvice would help, please help,

First : First off, i would like to thank you for your service to our country. Because she is pregnant, in pain and is only having a bowel movement twice a week, it is important that she let her obstetrician know. When a woman is pregnant, at most places, they like the OB doctor to be involved in most aspects of care. Take care and welcome back to conus. ...Read more

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How should i manage with depressing?!my psychologist was my boy friend. he broke my hurt and left me.

How should i manage with depressing?!my psychologist was my boy friend. he broke my hurt and left me.

Boundary problems: If your psychologist became your boyfriend or if your boyfriend became your psychologist - both of these are boundaries that should not be crossed. Both have potential to harm you emotionally. Encourage you to seek out a therapist who cares and who maintains professional boundaries. Be well. ...Read more

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What can I do to move on if my ex girlfriend is in love with another guy?

What can I do to move on if my ex girlfriend is in love with another guy?

Can be rough: She is an ex gf & thuis love relationship is over. Try to get over it & meet other women. Counselling may help if you feel stuck in a rut. ...Read more

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What should I do to reach my orgasm in a fast way.Most of the time I don't have it..Why.?Could u advise me since I truly love my husband.

What should I do to reach my orgasm in a fast way.Most of the time I don't have it..Why.?Could u advise me since I truly love my husband.

Foreplay: For many women, it is difficult to reach an orgasm. However, there needs to be foreplay to excite and lubricate those tissues. It may be that you need more than just intercourse so it is time to have a conversation with your husband. If he loves you half as much as you love him, he will understand and help you reach an orgasm. ...Read more

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I found out my teammate on the volleyball team is cutting herself. What can I do to help her? Who should I tell?

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I found out my teammate on the volleyball team is cutting herself. What can I do to help her? Who should I tell?

Seek medical help: Assuming that your teammate is an adult, you can only urge her to see medical help & counseling. Offer to accompany her to see Family Doc & Psychiatrist. Check out http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/cutting-self-harm-signs-treatment & http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/self-injury/home/ovc-20165425. ...Read more

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I need help with empty nest.I am in identity crisis.I don't know what I really want in my life and what to do with my future?

I need help with empty nest.I am in identity crisis.I don't know what I really want in my life and what to do with my future?

Psychotherapy: Psychotherapy is a great place to work through the problems you are discussing. It is very normal after kids leave the home to experience identity crisis - especially if much of your identity was wrapped up in your child's life (sports, friends, etc.) consider getting involved in a fitness program, hobbies you enjoy, spending time with friends, etc. ...Read more

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My 2yr niece bullies and and hits my 18mon son.nobody thinks its a critical issue. myself and wife doesnt like it.we r joint family. how to deal?thks

My 2yr niece bullies and and hits my 18mon son.nobody thinks its a  critical issue. myself and wife doesnt like it.we r joint family. how to deal?thks

Babies...: Your niece is only 2 so "bullying" isn't the intent. She is learning limits. I'd consider that 1) modeling hitting will only work against your desired affect so no spanking/hitting back. 2) When she hits at your baby, get down on her level and say "no, YOU do not hit people, that hurts "your son's name". Stop. 3) Don't expect the issue to disappear perfectly immediately - she is just a baby too ...Read more

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