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12 Stages Of Grief
Stages of grief when dealing with a suicude of a loved one? My best friends husband commited suicide on 10/1/12. She's shutting me out per say.
Grief stages: The kübler-ross model, commonly known as the five stages of grief, includes denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. This applies to suicides as well as other types of loss. But people vary: these stages don't always happen, or happen in this order. Be available (but not intrusive) to your friend. Grief counseling may help if she's open to it. ...Read more
Grief is a normal reaction to a major loss, and is full of unhappiness and emotional pain. Events causing grief include the end of a significant personal relationship, the death of a loved one, or another traumatic life-changing event. Each person feels grief in his own way, but there are common stages to grieving. The process begins with recognizing a loss and continues over time until a person ...Read more
Allow feelings: A lot of people try to suppress feelings of loss, but this does not help process grief. Accept help and support from family and community. A memorial service sharing stories of the deceased can help. Let yourself weep, if it comes. Accept hugs; give hugs. Listen to music. Listen to others who are missing the same person. Take walks, get good rest. Feed self well. Massage can help nurture. ...Read more
Time for support: Grief needs community in which to express and heal. This means friends, loved ones, grief support groups, and sometimes professional counseling/psychotherapy if grief gets "stuck." conflicted relationships with the deceased in life, may lead to more difficult grief work after death. It can help to share stories about the deceased with others who also knew him/her. Ceremonies can be healing too. ...Read more
Get support: I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's death. Grief is a complicated process, especially when a spouse has died. There are support groups which can help immensely, and are led by an expert in grief counseling. Also, get the support of your family. No one can understand what you are going through except other widows, but your family can be there for you. ...Read more
Multiple uses: I talk about the 5 stages all the time! The 5 stages of grief can apply to any area of life in which you feel a major loss. Health, relationships, independence, etc. Grief can come about for many reasons, including death. Just because they often occur together does not mean they are exclusive. Great insight in recognizing that!! ...Read more
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Everything seems so confusing and difficult at the moment. When will grief from death of my husband end?
I am actually in crisis right now as I have gone through a lot of grief and loss recently and am in deep despair?
Call crisis line::
Sounds like you feel pretty awful. That is so too bad! There are a lot of people who can help you through this, in the fastest, safest way possible. Since you are in crisis, try this number Suicide & Crisis Hotline
1-800-999-9999, or this one: Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK If these folks can't help, call your doc, if you have one, or please go to ER. Help is there for you, call! ...Read more
Pastoral counseling: Or a grief counselor. At times like this there is no way to avoid asking ultimate questions. Dealing with these questions becomes important whether you are an atheist or believer. Grief is like having part of you inner self amputated. If it's a spouse you go from living as a twosome to being on your lonesome. It can be devastating. Each religion has developed its own specialists to help deal with this. ...Read more
Grief and loss: Grief is a process of working through a loss so that you eventually develop a way of living without that person in your everyday life (except in your heart, of course). To accomplish this, you need community support: friends, family, possibly support group, and maybe even professional counseling/therapy. Feel your feelings; weep as it comes up for you. Take walks. Care for yourself. Accept hugs. ...Read more
Please seek help!: Grief is a natural but brief response to some situations and you may get help from family, friends, church. Deep grief may be a sign of an underlying mood disorder or may lead to a mood disorder, such as depression and suicide. I strongly encourage you to seek the advice of a counsellor, therapist or psychologist for talk therapy and possible referral to psychiatrist for medication therapy. ...Read more
Therapy can help:
Psychotherapy can help with grief. Check with a local hospital for a therapist who works in this area.
Grief often comes at us in waves. It is detrimental to our overall health and must be dealt with. For many people keeping busy is helpful.
Be sure you take care of your nutritional needs during this time. Sleep enough but do not oversleep. Hopefully your grief will pass soon. ...Read more
Don't stop reaching out.: Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing just makes it harder in the long run. For true healing, it is necessary to face your grief & actively deal with it. Grief is a roller coaster. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel. Care for your physical health. Express yourself creatively in writing, song or art. Join a support group, find a counselor, keep trying. ...Read more
Very tough,: Be compassionate but make it clear you know they need help and expect them to get it. Help them, find a therapist and look for the right one. Talk to some people to see who people like. Call 3-6 as some doctors are full and won't call back. The ones who can take you will call back. Try this site or psychologytoday. Com. Good luck. Noone should suffer in this day and age with grief. Very common. ...Read more
Lots of variables: Your excellent question is hard to answer, because it depends on who died, age of child, effect on rest of family, and many other variables. Research shows that children who lose their mother before age 11 are at increased risk of depression as adults, but there are many possible explanations. Broadly, helping children grieve in age-appropriate ways is best way to minimize lasting impairment. ...Read more
Unresolved grief: Losing a child is one of the hardest losses to endure. Treatment must include a screening to rule out depression subsequent to the unresolved grief. The client should be helped to understand the normal processes of grief, including denial, anger, bargaining, before getting to the difficult but achievable state of acceptance. Treatment may include group work with others who share loss of a child. ...Read more
Unresolved grief is: Prolonged (there is no set time) deep sorrow resulting from a loss. Counseling may be necessary and individualized as each person grieves differently. Overcoming anger, denial and depression and achieving acceptance are the major goals. Consider support from family/friends, draw comfort from your faith, join a support group, seek a counselor. Face/express feelings, take care of health. Best regard ...Read more
Why won't grief and yearning go away. I now am feeling so alone with the guilt of seeing doctors, I know I don't deserve.?
Guilt is a difficult:
Condition to resolve. Sounds like you might have lost someone/something dear, and are feeling isolated. Are you depressed? Do you feel guilty seeing doc's? Try a psychologist. Here's a reference on guilt:
http://www. Psychologyproductsandservices. Com/page20.html
Don't have a reference on grief, but it sounds like this might be appropriate. ...Read more
How long does grief over a loved one usually last? I understand this is variable and dependent on each situation, but what is considered typical?
Variable length: Yes, time grieving the loss of a loved one varies individually. Most resources suggest that the first year is the hardest, since you're experiencing typical mileposts (holidays, special memories, etc) without the person. Most people do not forget their loved one afterwards, and may still feel pain at times. Intensity and preoccupation should shift though, so that a new kind of life develops. ...Read more
I lost a lot of weight rapidly last year due to grief and stress/not eating. I'm half the size I used to be, how can I start to gain weight healthily?
Having grief at home, being messed around seeing kids, works physically and mentally hard. I now feel that bad. I started feelng sick and emotional?
Get thru not over: You don't get over the grief, you get through it in stages. First, it is important to know you didn't cause the miscarriage. Pregnancies end for many reasons you and your doctor can't control. This is a very personal loss that others often can't appreciate. A famous researcher defined the stages of the grief process (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance). Give it time. I am sorry for your loss. ...Read more
Don't force agenda. Children grieve their own timetable. They may be playing happily one minute, & ready to talk the next.
Let child pick communication style. Some kids prefer to let puppets or stuffed animals "talk" it out for them. Some express in art. Talking may be easier while walking, looking through pictures.
Answer the question, even if it is a really hard one
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Aunt had to take husband off life support in '09. Thinks he went to hell bc didn't go to church. Complicated grief. How can I help?
See chaplain...: Sounds like she might need to talk to her spiritual leader. I am certainly not religious, but I am unaware of any religion banishing one to hell for not attending church. ...Read more
Variable: This depends on the extent of grief, and what you mean by "very long period." some people are completely immobilized and need time out. There are some social allowances for grief, and support is important in moving through it. The time frame required is variable. Remaining isolated for months, avoiding contact, and thinking of suicide indicates need for urgent help -- grief can become depression. ...Read more
It varies: This depends on the extent of dementia, and ability to recognize what has happened. Some people with dementia know very well when someone they love has died. You might take cues from the patient, and listen no matter how often the same story is told. Also answer gently no matter how many times the same question is asked. Continue good care as you always have. Appropriate affection too. ...Read more